🫧Chloe's Curiosities Captivated🫦

[Chloe_Harper]

I’m not sure how I missed this thread, but I’m glad I found it.

Welcome to my weird little world! Thanks for joining in!

I believe that the level of weird depends on the person. What I may find a normal kink for me may be way out in left field for someone else, and vice-versa. I try to keep an open mind and not kink shame, but some things cross the line for me and turn me off immediately. That’s where communication comes into play. You need to be open with your own sexuality and be able to express that with your partner(s) so you understand each other’s boundaries.

That's kinda how I feel. But, I also feel like there's a section of kink that is "weird" to the majority, right? Even if normal for you, most people would find it odd. Not to kink shame, just in a "I could never, but good for you" kinda way. But, that may just be how I see my weird ones


We always come back to communication in here! It's so important! Knowing where your partner feels okay stepping put of their comfort zone to try something with you should be one of the first steps.

 

[MischiefMakerAlways]

Ok, let's talk about "weird" kinks

I love finding people who have similar kinks to mine but from different reasonings or perspectives. I also love finding out why people like things I just have never gotten into.

Couldn’t agree more! It’s all about learning, personal growth, and I’m an experiential person, so I get excited for new ideas.

I also find it super interesting when partners start to get into new kinks simply because of how much it turns their partner on.

This has already been a fascinating area of change for me. For MLT and me, we had many kinks that we were initially indifferent to, but as we grow together and explore together, we have both found ourselves actually wanting to explore kinks that neither of us cared for, but only because we each have a natural sense of curiosity, we have total trust in each other, and it’s not that we’re trying to “out-kink” the other, but we’re both letting our “freak flag” fly high and proud and we have a lot of fun in those moments of exploration. It doesn’t mean everything is going to be a hit or something we want to try again, but there are already a couple that we both went, “oh, NOW I see the appeal.”

I feel like sex is a constant journey where one should have fun exploring, both alone and with others. You never know where your sexual revelations will come from.

I don’t know, maybe it’s my past speaking, but I don’t want to explore alone if I have a partner as trustworthy and accepting as I do with MLT. The previous partner (that still feels a little weird to put out there) that I spent probably 95% of my sexual history with was nothing like MLT, so any exploring I did was on my own, but it also had to be in secret, because the level of judgement and shame is stifling.

There's a lot of the "usual" stuff. So, what do I mean when I say "weird" kinks? The ones that make you blush or think twice about sharing (nothing that breaks Lit rules or legal ones). The ones that you maybe only explore in secret or with a trusted partner.

For the first time in my life, I’m sharing possibilities and fantasies with someone that I don’t feel shame from. At the very first, I felt a little tinge of blushing, but not now. However, do I want to necessarily tell all of Lit? No, not really. I’m not ashamed, but I also don’t want judgement.

No one has to share, to be very clear. Or, maybe you want to only talk about what is "normal" kinky versus "weird" kinky. What is it that drew people to wanting this topic? Or maybe y'all just wanted to know all of my weird stuff

Do tell, what are YOUR weird kinks?

So, let's start here. How do we find the line between "normal" and "weird" when it comes to kinks? Or, did I already define it, and it is person-dependent?

I hope this topic gets wild and spicy – I enjoy these sorts of discussions!

I’ll start off with how I attempt to define kinky and then normal kinky vs. weird kinky. Disclaimer, I only think a kink is weird if it violates someone’s autonomy, it removes the capacity for consent, and if it is an act that has no regard for one of the participants. That said, I’ll use weird kinky to describe anything that is ethically “in-bounds” with the preceding caveat.

To define kinky, I start off by asking myself, “Would this be a sexual act that a deacon or elder of a moderately conservative church admit to engaging in?” I come from a fairly conservative region with some cultural pockets of incredibly conservative-almost-fundamentalist enclaves of people. There are some people who would go so far as to say oral sex or doggy-style is “wild.” I’m not going that far. Even in most socially conservative circles, fellatio, cunnilingus, a variety of sexual positions, and possibly the use of fairly innocuous and “beginner” sex toys would be perfectly acceptable (if you’re married, of course :eyeroll: ). So what is kinky? Anything that goes beyond the italicized activities mentioned.

So, what is “normal” kinky vs. “weird” kinky? I think this is a culturally dependent term and it’s a moving baseline as humans change over the eras. I think weird kinky, if defined in the 1960s, would be sex in a room with other people present, perhaps anal sex? I don’t really know, my parents were children in the 1960s. What’s weird kinky now? I think that’s a little easier to define because we’re currently in the present and we know how people would react to something we would tell them. I think it’s important to remember that Lit is an area where the sexually open-minded (mostly…) congregate and anyone who is an active participant here is not likely to represent the general public’s sexual proclivities. Litizens will likely be kinkier, more sexually driven, and open-minded than the general population.

To me, weird kinky would be defined in a few ways:
1. I feel slightly (or more) bashful saying putting it on Lit that I’m admitting it’s something I want or do.
2. It’s something most “normal” people had never heard of.
3. I had to look it up, research it, had to educate myself on how to do it safely.

I wish Lit was better about making polls usable, but in my typical nerd/data-driven way… https://strawpoll.com/GPgVYr3EEna

 

[Chloe_Harper]

Couldn’t agree more! It’s all about learning, personal growth, and I’m an experiential person, so I get excited for new ideas.

It doesn’t mean everything is going to be a hit or something we want to try again, but there are already a couple that we both went, “oh, NOW I see the appeal.”

I think this is half the fun. Simply trying things, even ones you'd never think are for you, and then having that understanding after. Even if you were right and it wasn't for you at all!

I don’t know, maybe it’s my past speaking, but I don’t want to explore alone if I have a partner as trustworthy and accepting as I do with MLT.

I suppose when I say "alone", I mean during those periods of life before a trusted partner mostly. Or even with one, but maybe you came across a new potential one by happenstance and you bring it to your partner.

However, do I want to necessarily tell all of Lit? No, not really. I’m not ashamed, but I also don’t want judgement.

Super fair. Also why I said people don't need to share. It can be embarrassing or even just private.

Do tell, what are YOUR weird kinks?

Oh, but you wanna hear all about mine?! I see how it is

I hope this topic gets wild and spicy – I enjoy these sorts of discussions!

I’ll start off with how I attempt to define kinky and then normal kinky vs. weird kinky.

Analytical Mischief coming out to play

To me, weird kinky would be defined in a few ways:
1. I feel slightly (or more) bashful saying putting it on Lit that I’m admitting it’s something I want or do.
2. It’s something most “normal” people had never heard of.
3. I had to look it up, research it, had to educate myself on how to do it safely.

I agree with this I think

 

[BlackSatinKnight]

Even if normal for you, most people would find it odd. Not to kink shame, just in a "I could never, but good for you" kinda way. But, that may just be how I see my weird ones

I have some hard “NOs” that I won’t engage in. Then there are others which hold some appeal that I’d like to try, maybe once and more if I enjoyed it. Third are my kinks I really want to try but given my situation are better left to my day dreams. Finally are the kinks I consider (in my mind) run of the mill everyday activities. Of course these have changed and evolved (or de-evolved) over the years.

 

[NewStartQueen]

It's so important! Knowing where your partner feels okay stepping put of their comfort zone to try something with you should be one of the first steps.

I will consider anything once. And then I will see in the moment if I want to try it. This is usually followed by a very detailed conversation. There's only a few things that my mind screamed ”HELL NO!” as I was reading about the kink.

 

[cubbies4vrs]

https://www.redgifs.com/watch/properemptygalapagostortoise

 

[cubbies4vrs]

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I don't know about everyone else, but my brain never stops. Even when I'm sleeping. The overthinking, the lost in my own mind, it's something I crave to just stop sometimes.

His words, his presence, his touch - those mean more than people realize. Can I live without them? Sure. But, is my life richer, sweeter, sweeter and better with them? Abso-fucking-lutely.

Needing that partner, that security, that stability, and being able to admit that you need those is strength.

I hope it work, the Gif, ok I know it works. Lol

 

[Chloe_Harper]

https://www.redgifs.com/watch/properemptygalapagostortoise

I hope it work, the Gif, ok I know it works. Lol

I actually can't see the gif because of the state I'm in

 

[morelikeasong]

I actually can't see the gif because of the state I'm in

I use the Opera browser for lit on my phone. It has a built in VPN so whenever I wanna click a naughty link I just tap the vpn on. (@__Nathan1968 taught me about that one)

 

[Chloe_Harper]

Before we get back to weird kinks, can we talk about this gif that teasing intimacy, the hand on the neck, her head tilted back, lips brushing against skin, hovering just out of reach for a kiss... anyone else just absolutely love these moments? Oh, and add in that power of Dom/Daddy/PreferredTitle over their sub/little/preferredtitle... toe-curling

 

[Chloe_Harper]

I use the Opera browser for lit on my phone. It has a built in VPN so whenever I wanna click a naughty link I just tap the vpn on. (@__Nathan1968 taught me about that one)

Ooooh, thank you! I will have to look into this right away!

 

[cubbies4vrs]

I actually can't see the gif because of the state I'm in

I am sorry, I hope you get better

 

[Chloe_Harper]

I am sorry, I hope you get better

thank you, but I meant the actual state I live in. Because certain states are restricting the porn sites, yadda yadda

 

[NC_Coastal]

Sounds like my state. I blame the Southern Baptists.

 

[Chloe_Harper]

Sounds like my state. I blame the Southern Baptists.

There are a few states like this. I won't point any religious or political fingers though. I was just explaining why I couldn't see the link.

 

[cubbies4vrs]

thank you, but I meant the actual state I live in. Because certain states are restricting the porn sites, yadda yadda

Lol. Doh apologies. give me a site you can use.

 

[Chloe_Harper]

Lol. Doh apologies. give me a site you can use.

This site usually does the trick

 

[morelikeasong]

This site usually does the trick

I can’t use that one in my state which is how I ended up using Opera but I can use pornhub just fine

 

[morelikeasong]

Has anyone admitted to any weird kinks yet?
https://media3.giphy.com/media/9xW5R8fKtEVHy/giphy.gif?cid=9b38fe91x9fsx40i4dkqwrad3rqlg3620phuve5wgbwweil6&ep=v1_gifs_search&rid=giphy.gif&ct=g

 

[Chloe_Harper]

Has anyone admitted to any weird kinks yet?
https://media3.giphy.com/media/9xW5R8fKtEVHy/giphy.gif?cid=9b38fe91x9fsx40i4dkqwrad3rqlg3620phuve5wgbwweil6&ep=v1_gifs_search&rid=giphy.gif&ct=g

Ugh. No. Idk why. We are on Lit

I suppose I'll have to make some posts geared to some specific "weird" kinks to see if they resonate with others

Ah, life is so hard sometimes

 

[MischiefMakerAlways]

Ugh. No. Idk why. We are on Lit

I suppose I'll have to make some posts geared to some specific "weird" kinks to see if they resonate with others

Ah, life is so hard sometimes

That's what she said.

 

[cascadiabound]

"Weird" is such a subjective adjective.
I'm pretty sure I have a lot of weird kinks, but only relative to what someone else thinks is "weird".

 

[Nightbird]

"Weird" is such a subjective adjective.
I'm pretty sure I have a lot of weird kinks, but only relative to what someone else thinks is "weird".

THIS!!! SO THIS!!! I agree weird who gets to say whats weird or what isn't?

 

[Chloe_Harper]

"Weird" is such a subjective adjective.
I'm pretty sure I have a lot of weird kinks, but only relative to what someone else thinks is "weird".

This is what we discussed when "weird" kinks was initially brought up. What defines a weird kink, etc. @MischiefMakerAlways even created a poll.

For example, there are kinks I'm into that I think are fairly normal, but I also know there are some I like that even I find weird. Inexplicable.

I think weird is wrongly understood to be negative. I like seeing it more as unusual, out-of-ordinary fun. Maybe even something that isn't a regular kink.

On that note, are there "normal" kinks? What makes them normal? Is it that they are more widely accepted or acted upon?

THIS was the initial conversation. So, I make jokes about the weird factor because I find that if there is a light-hearted air around it, maybe people (including myself) will feel less closed-off in discussing them.

 

[Chloe_Harper]

THIS!!! SO THIS!!! I agree weird who gets to say whats weird or what isn't?

You do. What is weird for you and what isnt weird for you. Someone else may find it completely not weird, normal even. Or, maybe someone hasn't even heard of it (I had never heard of figging until @MischiefMakerAlways quiz, and I do find that one weird). Maybe, something is weird until you try it, and then you're like, "oh, now I get it!" Even if it's still not for you.

This is all just fun discussion, not anything accusatory, demeaning, or the like. People can choose to share and discuss, or not.