Litiquette

[Dreamscape12]

Think this a common one, but when someone doesn't do their fair share around the place. It's a small thing that can drive me crazy over time.

 

[dutchrain]

Deal breakers. There are things in relationships that for whatever the reason can't be overcome. Many times they can be identified early on and the relationship doesn't go too far. Other times , that "thing" never presents itself. What's your deal breaker, that thing that if it came up, you'd know the relationship is doomed? This can be in RL or Lit.

RL - chewing with your mouth open. I have no want to see you processing your food
Lit - of it would progress to voice, a super high, squeaky, babyish type of voice. Just doesn't work for me.

Think this a common one, but when someone doesn't do their fair share around the place. It's a small thing that can drive me crazy over time.

In RL the two you two said and leaving things lying around for someone else to put away. This might seem similar to what Dreams said, but it isn't. Someone doing the dishes, vacuum and then leaving a book and a glass and a plate with an apple core and wraps of sweets on the table drives me nuts.

On Lit: Those lovely PMs out off the complete blue asking for wankfodder.

 

[tiny_tits]

Deal breakers. There are things in relationships that for whatever the reason can't be overcome. Many times they can be identified early on and the relationship doesn't go too far. Other times , that "thing" never presents itself. What's your deal breaker, that thing that if it came up, you'd know the relationship is doomed? This can be in RL or Lit.

RL - chewing with your mouth open. I have no want to see you processing your food
Lit - of it would progress to voice, a super high, squeaky, babyish type of voice. Just doesn't work for me.

No (regular, habitual) smoking. Deal breaker.

 

[SweetSam42]

Lit and RL: Someone who doesn't get my humor and sarcasm. If I have to explain myself all the time, then forget it. That, and folks who aren't too swift on the uptake in general.

 

[ChainedUp]

No (regular, habitual) smoking. Deal breaker.

Yes, this. What tiny said.

 

[tiny_tits]

Lit and RL: Someone who doesn't get my humor and sarcasm. If I have to explain myself all the time, then forget it. That, and folks who aren't too swift on the uptake in general.

And the opposite is awesome.
HYE been with someone that can make you laugh from just knowing what they are thinking?

 

[ChainedUp]

And the opposite is awesome.
HYE been with someone that can make you laugh from just knowing what they are thinking?

And knowing the right tone for using certain words.

 

[NotHisLady]

I think for those times when the question is unclear (that's a fail on the OP, for the record ) you can always state your premise and then answer. Who knows where the conversation will lead.

I'm for beating the OP about the head and shoulders until he makes his questions more clear.
But that's just me

 

[ManOSafety]

No (regular, habitual) smoking. Deal breaker.

Ditto

And for Lit...if they haven't responded to my first 37 PMs, then they are dead to me!

 

[may_I_please]

Ditto

And for Lit...if they haven't responded to my first 37 PMs, then they are dead to me!

Damn I'll have to lower my minimum count from 38

 

[ManOSafety]

Damn I'll have to lower my minimum count from 38

Oh damn, I was so close...

 

[ChainedUp]

I'm for beating the OP about the head and shoulders until he makes his questions more clear.
But that's just me

Backs away slowly............

 

[perkyT]

*strolls in with a steaming cup of coffee*

Imma too lazy to scroll back & see what's on topic today.

*sits back & sips*

 

[rubydlite]

Deal breakers. There are things in relationships that for whatever the reason can't be overcome. Many times they can be identified early on and the relationship doesn't go too far. Other times , that "thing" never presents itself. What's your deal breaker, that thing that if it came up, you'd know the relationship is doomed? This can be in RL or Lit.

RL - chewing with your mouth open. I have no want to see you processing your food
Lit - of it would progress to voice, a super high, squeaky, babyish type of voice. Just doesn't work for me.

Rl and lit ..someone who is always self depreciating...I dont mean shy but always always negative. It wears me out.
Smoking...I remember the days of being stuck in my parents car...windows up and chain smoking...my lungs have suffered enough
Being take for granted....I dont need flowers and tons of applause but a thank you hug once in awhile would be great.

Lit ...I made the mistake in early lit days posting my interest in the submissive world. I swear that thing has a beacon because I still get pm's to the tune of...'get on your knees submissive and suck my c***'....it makes for such a 'great' intro p.m.

 

[NotHisLady]

Deal breakers. There are things in relationships that for whatever the reason can't be overcome. Many times they can be identified early on and the relationship doesn't go too far. Other times , that "thing" never presents itself. What's your deal breaker, that thing that if it came up, you'd know the relationship is doomed? This can be in RL or Lit.

RL - chewing with your mouth open. I have no want to see you processing your food
Lit - of it would progress to voice, a super high, squeaky, babyish type of voice. Just doesn't work for me.

--In either, extended unexplained silences and then picking up as if nothing happened.
Online I get that people have lives but a heads up is nice, a little note or something.
--Also in either if it becomes ONLY about sex, no more than that.

Basically it all comes down to being treated with respect.
Can't have a relationship with someone who doesn't treat me with respect.

One big one in RL? If he puts his hands on me in anger--hits me just once and I'm gone.

 

[Chance_G]

Deal breakers in RL and Lit for me are things that tear down trust such as lying and being evasive in answers. Also, being all about "me" and never showing interest in the other person.

 

[RubenesqueAphrodite]

I'm a self deprecator.. it's a finely tuned defense that works very well to keep people at arms length. I can't say I'm "proud" of my perfecting it to forme d'arte but once you've been hurt very deeply, it's really hard not to want to weed out any possibility of future hurt. It's a habit I'm trying to break, because I see how it can be annoying to others.

I suppose the way I see it is if you're willing to break through the layers, the bond that can be made can be Strong and wonderful...


Oh! Deal breakers. ..yes...

Hygiene. :For the love of Spinach salad, man! Brush your teeth and bathe.

Potty humor: Don't fart and hold me under the covers unless you know me REALLY WELL.

You have to know how to wrestle. Period.

Please, don't shave your entire body. I really like to snuggle. You can't *snuggle* "slick"..

Housekeeping is 50/50. Marriage is 50/50. Parenting is 50/50.
Finances are 50/50. (Are we sensing a theme,people?)

Please leave your tip in the jar.
http://blogoehlert.typepad.com/photos/uncategorized/2008/07/14/tip_jar.jpg

 

[rubydlite]

I'm a self deprecator.. it's a finely tuned defense that works very well to keep people at arms length. I can't say I'm "proud" of my perfecting it to forme d'arte but once you've been hurt very deeply, it's really hard not to want to weed out any possibility of future hurt. It's a habit I'm trying to break, because I see how it can be annoying to others.

I suppose the way I see it is if you're willing to break through the layers, the bond that can be made can be Strong and wonderful...
Oh! Deal breakers. ..yes...
Hygiene. :For the love of Spinach salad, man! Brush your teeth and bathe.
Potty humor: Don't fart and hold me under the covers unless you know me REALLY WELL.
You have to know how to wrestle. Period.
Please, don't shave your entire body. I really like to snuggle. You can't *snuggle* "slick"..
Housekeeping is 50/50. Marriage is 50/50. Parenting is 50/50.
Finances are 50/50. (Are we sensing a theme,people?)

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I Definitely understand it when it's a defense mechanism....maybe I shouldn't had said self since it means....well...self. I can be guilty of putting myself down too for the same reasons.

When I clarify it in my head...I had a friend....always more sick, more hard done by, everyone's was against them....I had to break up with a friend...it was draining. If I was happy I'd hear....'well, atleast one of us is....'

And....all your deal breakers.....agreed!!!!!!!

 

[RubenesqueAphrodite]

I wasn't offended.
I agree. I don't like the "poor me"..its gets old quickly.
My philosophy is : laugh to keep from crying. Take my humor for what it's worth.
Or don't.

 

[rubydlite]

I wasn't offended.
I agree. I don't like the "poor me"..its gets old quickly.
My philosophy is : laugh to keep from crying. Take my humor for what it's worth.
Or don't.

Excellent philosophy♡

 

[perkyT]

I'm a self deprecator.. it's a finely tuned defense that works very well to keep people at arms length. I can't say I'm "proud" of my perfecting it to forme d'arte but once you've been hurt very deeply, it's really hard not to want to weed out any possibility of future hurt. It's a habit I'm trying to break, because I see how it can be annoying to others.

I suppose the way I see it is if you're willing to break through the layers, the bond that can be made can be Strong and wonderful...


Oh! Deal breakers. ..yes...

Hygiene. :For the love of Spinach salad, man! Brush your teeth and bathe.

Potty humor: Don't fart and hold me under the covers unless you know me REALLY WELL.

You have to know how to wrestle. Period.

Please, don't shave your entire body. I really like to snuggle. You can't *snuggle* "slick"..

Housekeeping is 50/50. Marriage is 50/50. Parenting is 50/50.
Finances are 50/50. (Are we sensing a theme,people?)

Please leave your tip in the jar.
http://blogoehlert.typepad.com/photos/uncategorized/2008/07/14/tip_jar.jpg

MightyAphrodite, you have some heavy duty armor going on there.

I see a lot of people that, instead of wearing their heart on their sleeves, deflect with humour.

I cannot tolerate Eeyore personalities...it's draining...and they usually don't make good friends.

 

[Mindfondler]

I'm a self deprecator.. it's a finely tuned defense that works very well to keep people at arms length. I can't say I'm "proud" of my perfecting it to forme d'arte but once you've been hurt very deeply, it's really hard not to want to weed out any possibility of future hurt. It's a habit I'm trying to break, because I see how it can be annoying to others.

I tend to be self-deprecating, but not as a defence mechanism. I like to demonstrate that I don't take myself too seriously, and that I'm open to some good-natured teasing from others. Also, I find it difficult to get on with people who are unrelentingly serious, and so I try to put up a flag to draw the attention of others who are capable of being a bit silly like me.

I cannot tolerate Eeyore personalities...it's draining...and they usually don't make good friends.

Oh... I agree with that as well. I'd make a strong distinction, though, between humorous self-deprecation with a twinkle in the eye, and grim self-criticism that hints at a desperate ploy to fish for compliments. The latter can become extremely wearing, but I don't associate that negative strategy with anyone on this thread.
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[ChainedUp]

I cannot tolerate Eeyore personalities...it's draining...and they usually don't make good friends.

I'm not big I. The Winnie-the-Pooh types either. Toughen up, don't naive, and have a bit of an edge. That's what interesting.

 

[RubenesqueAphrodite]

I'm not big I. The Winnie-the-Pooh types either. Toughen up, don't naive, and have a bit of an edge. That's what interesting.

is this better, Chained?
http://www.opentraders.ru/uploads/images/c/8/d/6/3252/38237f55c0.jpg

 

[ChainedUp]

Hopefully there's a middle ground there somewhere.

is this better, Chained?