Litiquette

[butterfly_flip]

Meh. It is what it is. At least I didn't try to walk through the General Board. I would have stayed away for good!

*snort*

Aye, it's not for the faint of heart that's for sure

 

[shmily]

A friend was a member and turned me onto the stories. Which I enjoy, (though get annoyed seeing typos and such in them.) Clicked the link one day for the boards and began posting. Not as active these days but still around.

 

[ChainedUp]

Happy Saturday!!!

We heard from the grammar police the other day. But let's wade into a more delicate subject: sexting/cybersex/online play. What advice would you give to the newbie whose about to venture into this realm?

 

[juicygirlie]

Happy Saturday!!!

We heard from the grammar police the other day. But let's wade into a more delicate subject: sexting/cybersex/online play. What advice would you give to the newbie whose about to venture into this realm?

Very first things that come to mind:
Be careful! Be mindful of what information you share online. Don't feel like you have to respond to anyone or play at anything that makes you feel uncomfortable, you can set boundaries! If you are doing this without your significant other's knowledge, make sure you are vigilant about logging out, closing windows, and being incognito. Have fun, explore, try new things. You never know when something you never imagined will make you swoon

 

[dutchrain]

Wow, I have only been away a week ...
And now I find myself with so many posts I want to respond too! So please, have some patience with me (see: I even put in a smiley!)

Have a great time Dutch! i remember fondly my days off in the wilderness. Though it was mostly with my son and boy scouts... spent many birthday's in the woods with 350 some odd young boys and some 100 or so men.... oh the fun we could have had with some of those men..... sorry mind wondered a bit..... have an awesome adventure.

I once slept in a tent for one night which belonged to three young men who had decided -since it was very rainy- it would be much too cold for me to sleep in my own tent. Such gentlemen!

My mind wandered a lot that night.

Camp was great fun. I was on my feet most of the day, the sight from the kitchen window was lovely. My bedroom window looked out onto the neighbor's windows. He doesn't do curtains. The house we camped in doesn't do curtains either. So I saw quite a lot of him. The next building (a farm) was two hundred meters away ...

I did see quite a lot of their cows. From my kitchen window.

The street (!) leading to our house was so steep we had to unload the car and transport the food bit by bit in three runs. Or maybe it was just 'my' driver was still a little inexperienced and killed the engine when she shifted down from 'three' to 'one' when the road started to get really steep and tried to start again and got a fright when the car moved backwards as soon as she lowered the hand-brake. Which I didn't really like either. The car smelled awfully of burning rubber ...

"Lets do it in two or three runs, dear," I suggested very calmly. She only nodded and decided on three runs.

Can I pose a question...

This has come up recently and it seems that I am in the minority here among RL friends and family.

So how do you sleep? gown, jammies, nothing at all... boxers, briefs, t-shirt...

Pajamas or a nightie (how I hated those flares of textile which always ended up in a 'wurst' around my body) when I was a little girl. After that, sometimes panties.

Good Sunday morning. Good to see all my American friends surviving the holiday weekend. Surviving or thriving. If you had to choose between those two words for your Lit experience , which would you choose. You can use any definition you choose for the words, just explain your selection.

For me, I say thriving. This thread keeps me actively engaged and I enjoy the friendships I have made.

Luckily I can be short on this one: thriving.

Happy hump day

As summer time rolls along headed straight into the dog days. The pace slows a bit, vacations are more prominent. It got me to think about posting in lit. Posting for us all ebbs and flows, typically around RL stuff but does online also I pact your tendency to post. In an online relationship, do you post more or less? You see something funny/cute are apt to reply? If someone posses you off in a board, do you get the flame thrower out or just walk away ?

I do post when I want. I have said this before, it really doesn't matter if I am in close contact with somebody. I don't keep them from posting (and flirting) also.

It's apparent that my typos have become rampant as of late. Nothing kills a good thread more than an OP with a bad case of typos. I'll try and be more diligent with my typing (or is it thumbing if using a smart phone).

Which leads me to my topic: how much are you willing to put up with someone online. More than RL? Are you willing to accept a guy who appears basically intelligent but with a bad case of typos? What about a less than intelligent person with perfect key entry skills? What about brains over brawn? Nice but flighty? An asshole but funny?

Basical intelligence is a winner. Typos I can live with. Although (since english isn't my first language) I do ask people to try to reduce them. Brains over brawn, nice but flighty not so much, asshole but funny is alright as long as the assholiness isn't the only asset.

Let me clarify, I'm not saying you have to use punctuation perfectly or double check it. As long as you at least put in some effort into what you write.

I'm not a grammar nazi. Just a regular nazi. (Just a joke, I'm not really a nazi, I'm not even German. Another joke, I like Germans. It's those je... no can't make that joke. I'm already in enough trouble. Shalom, to all jews. I like you too.)

I would say: Post of the month!

Quick question - did you jump right into posting on Lit or did you lurk for awhile first. And if you lurked, what was the trigger that got you to start posting. My hunch is that many of us lurked trying to get the lay of the land.

I posted as soon as I registered, but only on the german board at first. On the english boards I lurked a bit before I found the PG. Although my first posts on this part of the boards were on the GB where very friendly folks opened a thread for the poor german speakers suffering under a very restrictive mod.

Happy Saturday!!!

We heard from the grammar police the other day. But let's wade into a more delicate subject: sexting/cybersex/online play. What advice would you give to the newbie whose about to venture into this realm?

What Juicy said. The only thing I would change is: You have to set your own boundaries versus her "you can set boundaries!"

Very first things that come to mind:
Be careful! Be mindful of what information you share online. Don't feel like you have to respond to anyone or play at anything that makes you feel uncomfortable, you can set boundaries! If you are doing this without your significant other's knowledge, make sure you are vigilant about logging out, closing windows, and being incognito. Have fun, explore, try new things. You never know when something you never imagined will make you swoon

 

[ChainedUp]

I'm not as smart as I think I am

Ask about grammar on a sex board and the page fills, ask about sex on the same site and (almost) nothing...

 

[SweetSam42]

Slow day on Lit, as far as I can tell. Take no offense.

My advice regarding sexting, chat, etc. is to take it at your own pace. Like Juicy said, set boundaries, make sure your partner is aware of those boundaries, and only do what you're comfortable doing. I've felt pressure before to do things I'd rather not do, and that's some bullshit.

Also, sometimes someone seems great via the boards and PM - interesting, compatible, etc., but once you jump to instant messaging, that spark sometimes just isn't there.

And be sure you know how to use the block function on whatever app you're using.

 

[Laurel]

To alleviate server load, we're slowly closing down any threads with over 5,000 posts.

The new thread is here (clickie!).

As annoying as this may be, phasing out all or most of the active super-long/never-ending threads will increase the forum speed substantially. If you see a thread that's active with more than 5,000 posts, please feel free to PM me with the link.

Please note that these threads are not being removed - just closed to new posts.

Thank you for your patience and kind understanding!