Litiquette

[BreezySnow]

Oh i have a friend who if i need a booty call i could call him but i want more than that.

 

[ManOSafety]

It's Friday , it's Friday, it's Friday.........

Booty Calls. We've all been part of one, and sometimes they are fantastic and sometimes you can be left feeling a bit used. We all believe the random "wanna fuck" PMs have a really low success rate. But doesn't Lit lends itself more to Booty Calls than RL? So are we for Booty Calls or do we still want/enjoy the courtship ritual?

I read this very differently I think...I interpreted the question to be asking about PM Booty Calls, which to me would take the form of a "wanna fuck" PM, but with someone who you know and who also agrees to a cyber/phone/chat exchange to get one another off.

In this situation, I think they can exist, but with many of the same provisos in place...with someone I've already developed a Lit relationship of communication, with someone who shares common views about sex, with someone who shares the same views about what we want out of Lit...

 

[NotHisLady]

Now I read this as a question about real life attitudes.
As for chat or PM--I do think someone I've at least spoken to before, have some foundation with is someone I'm going to respond to (assuming I'm in that sort of mood) although it can happen sort of spontaneously if the mood strikes during a casual, random conversation. That may not fit in this discussion though.
Total strangers who solicit even a virtual 'hook up' out of the blue who are completely off the list.

 

[Aquagal]

It's Friday , it's Friday, it's Friday.........

Booty Calls. We've all been part of one, and sometimes they are fantastic and sometimes you can be left feeling a bit used. We all believe the random "wanna fuck" PMs have a really low success rate. But doesn't Lit lends itself more to Booty Calls than RL? So are we for Booty Calls or do we still want/enjoy the courtship ritual?

Actually we all haven't. Not by your definition, or any one else's.

 

[Thandi]

Lots of different takes on this.....Chained what was your meaning to the question? RL or Lit?

 

[dutchrain]

Lots of different takes on this.....Chained what was your meaning to the question? RL or Lit?

The first I took as Lit, the second as RL ...

 

[SweetSam42]

I have far too few sexual experiences in real life to chime in on anything real. But, as for Lit, while I do have to have a relationship with someone in order for any kind of cyber/phone to work, I do appreciate a completely sexually charged knock at my door, so to speak, from an established partner.

I can absolutely dig an IM out of the blue that reads: "Hey there... I want you." (*shudder*)

 

[peekingone]

I love when the chemistry is right. The teasing is just like good foreplay. So the questions and responses build in excitement. Never a hey want to "fuck" go to the next. Never works. Tease me and if gets better. Just my thoughts

 

[shmily]

I'm not gonna lie, I do love to be chased. I'm not saying I dislike booty calls, I've responded to them and most likely will continue to do so, but still, toss a little woo at me!

Definitely the courtship... the romance and making the person feel so wanted and needed... that ritual should never end even when in a relationship, should always make the person feel special and have romance in your life!

Courtship - or at least some straws of personality to grasp onto. The best part of cyber ( hope this is what we're talking about ) are the human touches that make the connection personal: that he remembers an old shared joke, or that he knows what colour my hair is. Without it I'd much rather masturbate.

It seems these ladies had a peek or two in my mind.

agree with the above...

Nah...you gotta woo me, and in a very smart funny way.
I love romance.

I don't like that arrangement at all. Anyone who doesn't want to take the time to know me doesn't need to know my body.
There should be some attachment even if it's a very deep friendship--an intimate friendship that is based on more than just physical gratification.

Also there are people who will let a person believe there is an attachment where there isn't any in order to get those sorts of encounters. I myself feel for that in my rather naive youth--he began treating me like 'girlfriend' material and ended up only wanting me for sex. That realization was hugely hurtful. I'd say be leery of that arrangement at best. I myself avoid it.

That being said, i think even a booty call is a long process, that was nurtured over time, with understanding and care, trust and compassion, and there must have been romance, or you cant even stand at the plate to ask... If this is your only form of quickie communication, then likely something was lost along the way... , sometimes one just needs relief, but the foundation of the relationship still needs to be strong...

I agree with this



For booty calls you both must be in the same mindspace at the same time

They can be hot in their simple lack of regard for anything but release. Until one of you thinks a little deeper about it, or personal situations change.

 

[shmily]

I read this very differently I think...I interpreted the question to be asking about PM Booty Calls, which to me would take the form of a "wanna fuck" PM, but with someone who you know and who also agrees to a cyber/phone/chat exchange to get one another off.

In this situation, I think they can exist, but with many of the same provisos in place...with someone I've already developed a Lit relationship of communication, with someone who shares common views about sex, with someone who shares the same views about what we want out of Lit...

well yes that makes since if you were talking about PM Booty...

 

[Little_Sister]

Actually we all haven't. Not by your definition, or any one else's.

Yeah that!

 

[Paul_Chance]

For those of you in marriages or committed monogamous relationships - do you ever make booty calls on your spouse/significant other? Or do you even consider spontaneous sex calls as booty calls?

(I take all questions to be IRL, since Lit is part of IRL, but I am periodically reminded that there are people who separate Lit and IRL more sharply then I do.)

 

[rubydlite]

Booty calls....hmmm...well I used to have a boyfriend in university...I'd come home at lunch for the sole purpose of having quick, gratifying sex. Not sure if that counts. And once upon a time I had a good friend that, while we were with single, it was a given we would end up in bed together if we were in the same place...no commitment but still respect.
Regardless of the definition...primal, satisfying (rl or online) sex is enjoyable but I have to have some connection.
Flowers and rainbows in the beginning are nice but so are quick gropes and heavy breathing

 

[shmily]

ok - so in thinking on the rl side of things - back in my 20's... and then for about 10 years - there was a gentleman - that was truly just a booty call. we were great friends and hung out with the same crowds. I am not sure if anyone in the crowd knew, but we could call each other when we needed the need scratched. or i'd find a beer can on my doorstep when I got home from work and knew he'd be back later... we lost touch in the 90's ... wonder where he is now..

 

[rubydlite]

ok - so in thinking on the rl side of things - back in my 20's... and then for about 10 years - there was a gentleman - that was truly just a booty call. we were great friends and hung out with the same crowds. I am not sure if anyone in the crowd knew, but we could call each other when we needed the need scratched. or i'd find a beer can on my doorstep when I got home from work and knew he'd be back later... we lost touch in the 90's ... wonder where he is now..

Haha...beer...the root of sexual favours....my friend and I used to use beer labels. We'd peel them off and give them to each other. I remember my circle of friends used to call them 'skin tags'...cash in for 'a piece of skin'...Uggg I feel old.

 

[Dionysian Beast]

Booty calls....hmmm...well I used to have a boyfriend in university...I'd come home at lunch for the sole purpose of having quick, gratifying sex. Not sure if that counts. And once upon a time I had a good friend that, while we were with single, it was a given we would end up in bed together if we were in the same place...no commitment but still respect.
Regardless of the definition...primal, satisfying (rl or online) sex is enjoyable but I have to have some connection.
Flowers and rainbows in the beginning are nice but so are quick gropes and heavy breathing

Very well said. I would agree with that.

 

[Astaylith]

I'm not sure how Chained meant for this question to be answered, but my response was in terms of real life booty calls, not Lit.

On Lit, I typically toss PMs like "meet me on Yahoo", "let's cam", and any messages in "a/s/l" format in the trash. I can't just have an e-booty call with anyone. I feel like the Internet is an artificial connection that we've got working against us so some sort of connection should be established, like, "Ok, I like this guy, I'm going to send him nudes".

 

[ChainedUp]

I actuality meant the question to draw from experience, Lit or RL. In the "hey, I know you, let's fuck right now variety. It can be a long term spouse or someone you just met.

 

[ydahecnot]

What's the Litiquette for dealing with a Litiquette question that may be confusing? Try to answer it, or wait till the next one?

 

[Aquagal]

I actuality meant the question to draw from experience, Lit or RL. In the "hey, I know you, let's fuck right now variety. It can be a long term spouse or someone you just met.

I never knew there was such a thing as a booty call in a long term relationship.

What's the Litiquette for dealing with a Litiquette question that may be confusing? Try to answer it, or wait till the next one?

Ask the questioner for a better explanation?

 

[ydahecnot]

Oh, I am too lazy for that

 

[tiny_tits]

Oh, I am too lazy for that

Me too.
Wait for the next

 

[dutchrain]

I'm not sure how Chained meant for this question to be answered, but my response was in terms of real life booty calls, not Lit.

On Lit, I typically toss PMs like "meet me on Yahoo", "let's cam", and any messages in "a/s/l" format in the trash. I can't just have an e-booty call with anyone. I feel like the Internet is an artificial connection that we've got working against us so some sort of connection should be established, like, "Ok, I like this guy, I'm going to send him nudes".

Right!

 

[ChainedUp]

I think for those times when the question is unclear (that's a fail on the OP, for the record ) you can always state your premise and then answer. Who knows where the conversation will lead.

 

[ChainedUp]

Deal breakers. There are things in relationships that for whatever the reason can't be overcome. Many times they can be identified early on and the relationship doesn't go too far. Other times , that "thing" never presents itself. What's your deal breaker, that thing that if it came up, you'd know the relationship is doomed? This can be in RL or Lit.

RL - chewing with your mouth open. I have no want to see you processing your food
Lit - of it would progress to voice, a super high, squeaky, babyish type of voice. Just doesn't work for me.