im just a litlle curious here about this question

[wild175133]

i know there are quite a few married bi and bi-curious men here. has any one told there wife they are bi or bi-curious. if you did what was your wife's reaction if you have not why haven't you told them? now a qestion to all the ladies if your husband was bi or bi-curious would you like to know

 

[Etoile]

Personally, if my spouse knew something about themself - any aspect of their personality - I'd like to know about it. Keeping something as important as one's orientation (or even curiosity) a secret can only lead to more and more secrets and deceit.

But that's me, and I'm open-minded. If my spouse might be displeased with the news, I might not say anything. A CD friend of mine has a wife who is completely against trans-anything. So he hid it from her for a long time. Eventually he promised her that he would stop, to see if he could get along without it. (He's been cross-dressing since he was a child.) It didn't work. He tells me about cute skirts he's just bought, makeup he wears on his drive to work/home...and as I listen I think about that promise he made to his wife. By brushing it under the rug, he's had to resort to cheating on his promise.

So, yeah. I'd rather know.

 

[sweetsyn]

I think regardless of how painful it might be and the effect it will have on the relationship, honesty is best. I was honest with my exwife about my transgender feeling before we got married. She still married me and we both naively believed marriage would make me happy. After 8 years we separated realizing I would never find happiness as a man, we have both come to terms with that and no have a really great sisterly relationship. When I finally came to the realization that I am bi, she was there for me, said she had always felt I might be but that I needed to find that out for myself.
It may seem for the best to hide such things but is it really worth living a half-life trying to please someone you may truly love, but who may not be able to accept everything about you? I don't believe so.

 

[scarey123]

My wife actually brought that side of me out. Early in our relationship, when sex was high on our daily priorities, one of the things she fantasized about was me with another man, never considered it myself until I was how hot it made her. She said it was only a fantasy and would stay that way. 6 months after our wedding she started some medication that killed her libido and our sex life but she started my bi curious thoughts and fantasies, I figure a MMF will never happen but it's nice to dream about.

 

[Ricwilly]

My wife knew before we were married. I didn't think I should keep something like that secret. I don't act on my desire for men in the same way I don't act on my desire for other women. Our relationship is exclusive, tho I make no judgements on how others conduct their relationships.