Blackbich said:Wow. It's been so long since I've been here and everything has changed. There's so many messages on here now I fear I'd get lost trying to find my way back!
How have you all been? Is everyone taking care? Is there any scoop I need to know about? lol.
& I celebrated our first anniversary.
Gil_T2 said:Hi BB glad to see oyu drop in although like you I sometimes loose this thread since the move.
BANDIT
Bandit58 said:Just BUMPing the thread with the news that at long last the order dissolving my marriage arrived in the mail, ironically on the day that Gil and I celebrate our first year in our relationship
It feels so damn good to finally be free of *him*. Although he still owes me 8 more years of payments to finally settle the property agreement. But so long as his payments keep coming I think I can put up with it........
shadow_dreamer said:GOOD MORNING EVERYONE! GIVING THIS A GENTLE BUMP!!!
It's good to be up and about but life sucks wearing a lumbar corset 24/7 until I get word I can live without it. Now if it were my black lacey corset that would be differentand I'm sure my bf would enjoy it too. Just taking time to stop by and utilize my limited sitting time of 10 minutes in a way that brings a smile to my face and hopefully yours.
Jazey I'll send you the gorey details soon. First thing I have to do is remember what happened and when it happened since I was flying on morphine and giving myself a push of the button on the IV every 6 minutes the first 4 days in the hospital, hehehe.
Gil - glad to see your smile and hope you and your lovely lady Bandit is doing well. I miss y'all and have to admit I'm getting cabin fever and itching to get back into the kitchen to cook and bake and do some house chores but I know my SO, Islmaster, has to keep me calm and tighten the restraints occasionally.
Take care and until later,
Aloha from Hawaii,
Shadow
Gil_T2 said:*Gil send soft gentle hugs to both of you sweet ladies*
{{{{{{{{{ Jazey & Shadow Dreamer }}}}}}}}}
I wish there was a lot more i could do to help you both & SD I know what you mean about hurting yourself while napping as I have done this myself
Sorry to hear you've been in the hospital, they aren't the most fun of places Gil says he loves snuzzles (but don't tell the other Masters that will ya )
jazey_43 said:
Gil_T2 said:Sweet lady your I just love snuzzles & would love to get a R/L one from you.
As for the morphine I too had trouble with it & this thread was started during my drying out but as you can see both KIKI & I made it through that period of our lives, the downer is every time I'm back in hospital there have to put me back on it to ease the back pains I get from those crappy beds in the wards here.
My doc told my bf "get out the handcuffs and cuff her to the bed or something so she behaves and doesn't think she's back to normal or superwoman" and he laughed replying "shucks, she's got them at her house; two of them but maybe I can get some from her former co-workers as well as some shackles". Of course he was kidding, although that sounded kiinda fun (he had a twinkle in his eyes and that certain smile only I know what is behind it, hehehe ). jazey_43 said:
lick_me_there said:
Sorry to hear you've been in the hospital, they aren't the most fun of places Gil says he loves snuzzles (but don't tell the other Masters that will ya ) [/QUOTE]
jazey_43 said:
After half a lifetime of being in a marriage with no affection, every day now is just wonderful. I love getting and giving touches, kisses and cuddles. Like today when I had a dental appointment, we stood outside the glass door and held each other and kissed for a few minutes before I went in. The two young girl receptionists were grinning their faces off! 
Don K Dyck said:Hi LMT, congratulations for having the courage to withdraw from a dysfunctional relationship and seek the happiness that you deserve.
There is NEVER any excuse for physical or mental abuse . . . EVER!!
Obviously your first bf had some issues of his own that were unresolved before entering the relationship, and apparently afterwards.
Only from your post; it seems that you are "testing" your new bf. For example, here in Oz sending your bf off to his ex and her gfs would be considered an invitation for terminating the relationship, but from your post you say that you are happy with him.
This apparently contradictary behaviour might suggest that you are still healing from bf1. That is OK, it can take up to 18 months or even 3 years to recover from the loss of a relationship, recovery time being roughly one month for every year, but it is an individual thing.
But more importantly, perhaps it indicates that you want to review your own personal history to determine why you caved in to bf1's demands, and why you are now repeating HIS behaviour of making unreasonable demands with bf2.
For example, in Oz a person having only two relationships in seven years, much of that being in teenage years, would be considered unusual. It may indicate, among other things, that you grew up in a physically or emotionally insecure family environment. Or, it may indicate that you are unsure of yourself and your control over your life. Whatever; it may be useful to spend some time evaluating your values and expectations for life.
As a very broad general rule, children repeat the behaviour of their parents and frequently have to consciously change those behaviours learned in the family to make them acceptable in their society, or to meet the challenge of the instant situation.
If we start with the assumption that our relationships are meant to be fulfilling, satisfying and "fun", then any deviation form these assumptions just doesn't make much sense, and indicates that something may require evaluation.
love & patience I'm free to love her but even so still doubt myself, I don't doubt her love or mine but it is still there in the back of my mind.
Gil_T2 said:
lick_me_there said:well, its happened twice. first, new birth control pill test trial went badly and ended up getting my period for 3 months straight. i know it was a possible side effect, but we werent into anal until after the frist month and both really wanted sex so we gave it a go... but that was the reason for no sex for the first month-long absence.
i also have sleep schedual issues and i'm always so tired that i end up going to bed about 3 or 4 hours before him. i was soooo tired for so long that i didnt have the slightest urge to have sex (there is a post on here about that one, somewhere.) thankfully he's ok with all my little issues.
one day i'll be normal (as normal as i can be at least) and have sex all the time, and be completely over the tramas of the ex and be able to completely move on and have our little happy life that we've been dreaming about together. i cant wait!
doing the easter bunny dance, hehehe
shadow_dreamer said:Just wishing everyone a HAPPY EASTER!!!
is still in New Zealand & likely won't be home till next weekend as she is flying down to spend time with her mum on Tuseday & she has been spending time with her daughter & friends back in the rural area she used to live in, she is well & coping with it all after her dad's funeral on Wednesday.
