Help Men and Women Better Connect in Adult Chat Rooms

[Deepdesrp]

i found this post by accident, looks a little old and dead, but here goes. Comments are interesting though I skimmed through the long ones (sorry) and may have missed some comments.
I also used AOL chat rooms for years, it was great. Wide variety of topics, people were generally civil and kind. Males still outnumbered females considerably, like here. Main difference for the difficulties with Lit is: AOL wasn't focused on sex, though there were plenty of sex chat rooms. Women possibly felt a little more at ease. You can get to know their personalities and see if you are compatible, non-sexually. Of course after a while things can become sexual if that is what both are looking for. I've probably met about 12 or so females through AOL, 9 or 10 we were intimate, lasting for a few months to several years. Lit on the other hand, everything is about sex, so it's difficult to let your guard down and see their personality. Anyone I chat with on Lit, in the back of my mind are: are they real, are they telling the truth, is it just to add another mark in their black book, etc. Lit is fine where you can explore your fantasies, just it become more difficult to find the right person to take the next steps, whether it be phone, cam, emails, real time meets. Just my opinion

I hear you - being on here there is the motive of some sort of sexual chat. I'm easy but yes you are probably right..

 

[LoneMilf]

You make a good point about the single-mindedness of Lit. It's similar to what I was posting above about the need for a setting that allows non-intensive flirting. The Playground just isn't enough

 

[Deepdesrp]

You make a good point about the single-mindedness of Lit. It's similar to what I was posting above about the need for a setting that allows non-intensive flirting. The Playground just isn't enough

Probably generalizing but being a guy single track mind is kind of me on here

 

[devakama469]

You make a good point about the single-mindedness of Lit. It's similar to what I was posting above about the need for a setting that allows non-intensive flirting. The Playground just isn't enough

It's up to each person to know what type of conversation is appropriate with whom and when, and to be cognizant of boundaries and of the need to always respect them, in all directions!

Now, if I may ask, "The Playground"? What's that?

 

[Deepdesrp]

It's up to each person to know what type of conversation is appropriate with whom and when, and to be cognizant of boundaries and of the need to always respect them, in all directions!

Now, if I may ask, "The Playground"? What's that?

I’ll have a look and get back to you

 

[Deepdesrp]

I’ll have a look and get back to you

See I’m at it again - single track mind

 

[devakama469]

I’ll have a look and get back to you

Not following…

 

[Deepdesrp]

Not following…

Don’t worry

 

[LoneMilf]

It's up to each person to know what type of conversation is appropriate with whom and when, and to be cognizant of boundaries and of the need to always respect them, in all directions!

Now, if I may ask, "The Playground"? What's that?

It's this sub-forum:
https://forum.literotica.com/forums/the-playground.27/

It is used for various 'games' and threads that provide some interaction without being overtly sexual (sometimes)

 

[devakama469]

It's this sub-forum:
https://forum.literotica.com/forums/the-playground.27/

It is used for various 'games' and threads that provide some interaction without being overtly sexual (sometimes)

Thank you for that pointer, will most definitely be exploring it! (though I'm sure I've participated there already, just hand't paid too much attention to the name)

 

[MasterDarcy]

Gotta be honest, I'm not experienced with chat rooms.

I've just always assumed that it was a bunch of thirsty guys falling over themselves to woo women.

I also assume that the men outnumbered the women by something like 10 to 1.

With a ratio like that it just turns into a meat market and the men (some are surely Dominants) look desperate and slimey.

I have no interest in disrespecting the women here or disrespecting myself.

I'm definitely not the target audience.

If this is a connecting with people for relationships, etc, issue, then I would focus more on the personal ad section and make that section more of a focal point, rather than hiding it away.

 

[boytoyjoy]

I've never understood how chat rooms are supposed to work for that? I've gotten into PM and chat conversations here and on reddit, but mostly from responding to forum posts rather than starting out on chat. There was a chat room I was on for a long time about a specific topic (not sex) and I got to know people there too, but couldn't imagine going there to try to meet partners.

The personals ads section here on lit is kind of hopeless for men