Fear of anal

[SexyChele]

Cirrus, relaxation is definitely key for the "receiver" in anal. The first time I was sucessfully "entered", my Dom had given me a little wine. Okay, 2 glasses, I admit - but I had had many very painful previous attempts by other partners, and was scared stiff!

He took his time, and made certain he paid attention to my entire body. When "the moment" arrived, both he and I had been playing with my clit, and I hardly knew he had "popped" through.

Not everyone's first attempt is sucessful. But with time, patience, effort, and caring it can be one of the most awesome experiences ever!

 

[Ebonyfire]

Cirrus, relaxation is definitely key for the "receiver" in anal. The first time I was sucessfully "entered", my Dom had given me a little wine. Okay, 2 glasses, I admit - but I had had many very painful previous attempts by other partners, and was scared stiff!

He took his time, and made certain he paid attention to my entire body. When "the moment" arrived, both he and I had been playing with my clit, and I hardly knew he had "popped" through.

Not everyone's first attempt is sucessful. But with time, patience, effort, and caring it can be one of the most awesome experiences ever!

And, it can vary from day to day too! You can take 8inches one day, and turn around the next and barely be able to take 5. It really depends.

Eb

 

[Desdemona]

The important thing is to enjoy it and not try too hard. Congrats to all of you who are newly enjoying one of my favorite things.

 

[P. B. Walker]

I've been busy packing to move, but I just wanted to let everyone know that we made an attempt that was semi-successful. He got in and everything was going OK until my bum just...uh...cramped. It was slightly painful for me but he said I was squeezing the life out of his poor "buddy". Maybe I got a subconcious attack of the nerves or something.

Whatever it was, we're going to try again because now I'm more comfortable with the whole process and know what to expect. We'll get there...it just is going to take a little time.

I totally agree with all the other suggestions that people have made... but thought I'd throw in one other suggestion that has helped me with an anal virgin in the past. I started out going down on her, going very slow and drawing it out, in no rush to make her orgasm. We had on some good mood setting music and the lights where dim. She'd just had a very long hot shower. Ever so slowly I began to move my tongue back to her anus. Pretty soon I was just tonguing her back there while my fingers toyed with her clit and slid in and out of her pussy. After a while, I just concentrated on the tongueing. Within minutes she told me she was ready for insertion. For some reason, the rimming really really relaxed her and got her ready for the insertion. The long hot shower and slow oral sex might have helped too.


Just my two cents

PBW

 

[Persephone36]

I totally agree with all the other suggestions that people have made... but thought I'd throw in one other suggestion that has helped me with an anal virgin in the past. I started out going down on her, going very slow and drawing it out, in no rush to make her orgasm. We had on some good mood setting music and the lights where dim. She'd just had a very long hot shower. Ever so slowly I began to move my tongue back to her anus. Pretty soon I was just tonguing her back there while my fingers toyed with her clit and slid in and out of her pussy. After a while, I just concentrated on the tongueing. Within minutes she told me she was ready for insertion. For some reason, the rimming really really relaxed her and got her ready for the insertion. The long hot shower and slow oral sex might have helped too.


Just my two cents

PBW

Ummmmmm, why is it suddenly *very* warm and uh, moist around here. Anyone else notice the humidity rise or is it just me?

Persephone (who must go look for her Rabbit now...)

 

[P. B. Walker]

Ummmmmm, why is it suddenly *very* warm and uh, moist around here. Anyone else notice the humidity rise or is it just me?

Persephone (who must go look for her Rabbit now...)

Hot and humidd... mmmm... <winks at Persephone and then flicks his tongue at her... >


<WEG>
PBW

 

[Ebonyfire]

Hot and humidd... mmmm... <winks at Persephone and then flicks his tongue at her... >


<WEG>
PBW

Anal virgin, man, anal virgin man, they've given you a hummer and taken way your hand!

<Sung to the tune of Secret Agent Man by Johnny Rivers>

 

[P. B. Walker]

Anal virgin, man, anal virgin man, they've given you a hummer and taken way your hand!

<Sung to the tune of Secret Agent Man by Johnny Rivers>

<Sweet puppy dog eyes after getting a good hummer> LOL

PBW "Maybe I am that easy"

 

[hotNnasty]

I am so glad I came in to read this thread!

You all have answered every question I have ever had.
I'm ready now to give it a try. And feel a lot more confident
to explore my lovers ass.
Thank you

 

[the_ass_tronaut]

I'm new to this -in a way...

SexyChele: You're either anywhere or we share quite a few interests...

Hi everyone,
I'm new to this forum but not new to the subject -so I hope you don't mind if I join in.. I'm 26 and love writing and reading especially about the joys and wonders of sexuality... English is not my first language so don't wonder if something I write might sound a bit strange or the spelling is, well, 'an original'...
I've seen there is a special thread for the introduction of 'newbies' -I think I'll post a few words about me there soon..

Not everyone's first attempt is sucessful. But with time, patience, effort, and caring it can be one of the most awesome experiences ever!

Persephone [BTW: I've done my homework: Persephone is the wife of Hades, mistress of the underworld, but in earlier stages of greek mythology she is one of the 'virgins as well ---from what I've read so far you probably refer to the first... ] and the others have nearly said it all and very well elaborated hard to add anything -But let me throw in just one more thing based on the quote above:
not everyone's first attempt is sucessful. Right, even if one of the partners is very experienced -it doesn't have to be that only the penetrated one has a problem.. I remember my first attempt on 'regular' sex (quite a while ago though..) where I was so aroused but 'overexcited' in a way that I lost my erection.... So what I want to say is about all forms of sexual attempts but holds for anal sex as well (or especially):

If it doesn't work straight away - don't care! Do something else that is fun for both -and try it again later... I think the worst is to build up expectations. "It's going to happen saturday night, 10pm. 15minutes of fingerplay, then she is going to be relaxed and then it has to work.."
No! if you both want it to happen, it will happen and work -sooner or later.. It's all about the joy, and not a sport we do some training in...

Ok, I do have more to say -but, hey, I just came here...

T. (or Bellerophon - the one who rides Pegasus, the horse with wings... I like the idea... I like a good ride in general...hehe..)

 

[Ebonyfire]

Re: I'm new to this -in a way...

SexyChele: You're either anywhere or we share quite a few interests...

Hi everyone,
I'm new to this forum but not new to the subject -so I hope you don't mind if I join in.. I'm 26 and love writing and reading especially about the joys and wonders of sexuality... English is not my first language so don't wonder if something I write might sound a bit strange or the spelling is, well, 'an original'...
I've seen there is a special thread for the introduction of 'newbies' -I think I'll post a few words about me there soon..




Persephone [BTW: I've done my homework: Persephone is the wife of Hades, mistress of the underworld, but in earlier stages of greek mythology she is one of the 'virgins as well ---from what I've read so far you probably refer to the first... ] and the others have nearly said it all and very well elaborated hard to add anything -But let me throw in just one more thing based on the quote above:
not everyone's first attempt is sucessful. Right, even if one of the partners is very experienced -it doesn't have to be that only the penetrated one has a problem.. I remember my first attempt on 'regular' sex (quite a while ago though..) where I was so aroused but 'overexcited' in a way that I lost my erection.... So what I want to say is about all forms of sexual attempts but holds for anal sex as well (or especially):

If it doesn't work straight away - don't care! Do something else that is fun for both -and try it again later... I think the worst is to build up expectations. "It's going to happen saturday night, 10pm. 15minutes of fingerplay, then she is going to be relaxed and then it has to work.."
No! if you both want it to happen, it will happen and work -sooner or later.. It's all about the joy, and not a sport we do some training in...

Ok, I do have more to say -but, hey, I just came here...

T. (or Bellerophon - the one who rides Pegasus, the horse with wings... I like the idea... I like a good ride in general...hehe..)

Welcome, and post away!

Ebony

 

[Ass_tronaut_T]

Re: welcome

Welcome, and post away!

Ebony

thanks Ebony for the warm welcome!
I've read along in many of the other threads making me realise that you are one of the 'major players' here.. that makes it even better to be welcomed by you..

I experienced some difficulties logging in -that's why I appear under a slightly other name now..
But as I'm new to this anyhow it shouldn't really bother anyone...
I've spend almost all day reading in the different forums and feel so right here...
I've been posting for quite a while on the internet in different Yahoo groups -but most of them just seem to be about swapping pics.. hardly anyone who is willing (or able?) to write more than four lines.... Well, there is one group which is my 'homebase' sort of where I met quite a few people really enjoying conversation but that's about it..



Looking forward to join your conversation even more in the future,

Bellerophon, T.

 

[Ebonyfire]

Re: Re: welcome

thanks Ebony for the warm welcome!
I've read along in many of the other threads making me realise that you are one of the 'major players' here.. that makes it even better to be welcomed by you..

I experienced some difficulties logging in -that's why I appear under a slightly other name now..
But as I'm new to this anyhow it shouldn't really bother anyone...
I've spend almost all day reading in the different forums and feel so right here...
I've been posting for quite a while on the internet in different Yahoo groups -but most of them just seem to be about swapping pics.. hardly anyone who is willing (or able?) to write more than four lines.... Well, there is one group which is my 'homebase' sort of where I met quite a few people really enjoying conversation but that's about it..



Looking forward to join your conversation even more in the future,

Bellerophon, T.

I do not think I am a major player, but I am opinionated. I am one of the few female dominants who post on this thread. Our numbers are expanding, so that is good.

Ebony

 

[Ass_tronaut_T]

Re: Re: Re: welcome

I do not think I am a major player, but I am opinionated. I am one of the few female dominants who post on this thread. Our numbers are expanding, so that is good.

Ebony

From what I've read (and that's what I have been doing for the last three days..reading,reading reading..) I really appreciate to learn about your point of view. I just meant that I've come across quite a lot of your posts..

T.

 

[P. B. Walker]

Men... speak out.

I know this thread was mainly about women losing their anal virginity... but I was wondering if there are any men here that would like to share their experience with losing their anal virginity.

PBW "Anal... made for a woman, but strong enough for a man"

 

[Ebonyfire]

Re: Men... speak out.

I know this thread was mainly about women losing their anal virginity... but I was wondering if there are any men here that would like to share their experience with losing their anal virginity.

PBW "Anal... made for a woman, but strong enough for a man"

No, PBW, it should be this: ANAL: Manly yes, but I like it too! LOL

Eb

 

[P. B. Walker]

Re: Re: Men... speak out.

No, PBW, it should be this: ANAL: Manly yes, but I like it too! LOL

Eb

PBW "Anal: Zesstttyyyyy"

 

[TAKEMEE]

Once you're able to enjoy it there's no going back.
I'm an anal junkie I love it!

 

[Ebonyfire]

Yep, my boys "back that thang up" everytime they are taken in the ass!

Eb

 

[zipman]

Bump Plus

another word of caution. If you are expereincing a burning sensation, you mght be using the wrong lube, as opposed to not enough lube.

My gf has a bad reaction to eros. The burning lasted over a day, and believe me, I used a lot of it.

There is alot of great info in this thread though.

 

[Ghost's amaris]

I have had anal performed successfully and unsuccessfully.

With a past partner i was able to with not a problem or a care but we had worked up to it.

Now it has been a while and my Master and I working me back up to being able to have anal successfully again with him. I enjoy it but you have to be fully prepaired and gradually opened to being able to accept him.

Ghost's amaris

 

[lillum]

Once you're able to enjoy it there's no going back.
I'm an anal junkie I love it!

Oh yes I do agree.I love anal anything there are so many more nerve endings in,on and around my ass. It's my ulitmite thrill!And makes me feel very submissive when he probes and plays there ...lillum

 

[Cuckolded_BlK_Male]

My $0.02 worth

I really don't care for anal intercourse with me being the aggressor (so to speak) I do enjoy being fucked by a woman with a strap-on and a sturdy leather harness ... not that elastic cheap shit.

Any-who ... I knew a woman who wanted to do that to me in the worst way. But, I knew that I couldn't take it. Sooooo, long story short, I bought a graduated series of buttplugs and some silicone base lubricant and yadda yadda yadda she tied me to her bed frame and banged my virgin ass with her moderately thick 8" ersatz "dick." That's how she referred to it ... as her dick. I found that slightly unsettling, but whatcha gonna do?

So, if you want to go through with this, I'd suggest that you acclimate yourself to having something in your ass before letting someone else jam something up there.

 

["angel" eve]

123 like zipman says

i have to agree with the 1,2,3 approach. fingers are fantastic for getting warmed up. or getting used to.... or the number of tries it takes to get it right. ^_~
and of course, like very many things in life the first time isn't often very good.

but the wonderful wonderful wonderful feeling it is when it works.

and a belated congratulations willowpuss. that sounds mmmm... fantastic.

someone wrenched the heat up in my pants..... mmm....

 

[Cuckolded_BlK_Male]

Originally posted by Ebonyfire

Yep, my boys "back that thang up" everytime they are taken in the ass!

Eb

I'm not nearly that adept at "taking it without a fuss." I don't engage in that activity regularly, so there is always something of a breaking in period. Initially, I will beg, squirm and generally try to run away ... but after a few minutes it's bearable. I must admit that I like the combined fear and exhilaration of the idea of a woman fucking me with a strap-on more than the actual physical sensations. But, it's not unpleasant once I relax.

One absolute prerequisite to any kind of anal play is an enema! I don't know how anyone else feels about that, but I couldn't imagine anal without a thorough flushing, so to speak ... or maybe even two.