Fear of anal

[Desdemona]

Perse, you are just anally fixated. I've been accused of that myself. I'm going to go ahead and congratulate you on attaining guru status because you will have reached it by the time I get home again.

You heard it hear first. Congrats ms guru!

 

[Persephone36]

Perse, you are just anally fixated. I've been accused of that myself. I'm going to go ahead and congratulate you on attaining guru status because you will have reached it by the time I get home again.

You heard it hear first. Congrats ms guru!

And I believe with this post -- Des, YOU have made me a Guru!!!

*Balloons and confetti fall from the sky all over Persephone*

Ahhhhhh! It's good to be a LIT Guru....

(oh, yes -- and you're right Des, I do have that anal fixation thing going for me too.)

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[zipman]

For the Newest Lit Guru

And I believe with this post -- Des, YOU have made me a Guru!!!

*Balloons and confetti fall from the sky all over Persephone*

Ahhhhhh! It's good to be a LIT Guru....

(oh, yes -- and you're right Des, I do have that anal fixation thing going for me too.)

P.

Many congrats Perse!!!!

x 500 - 1 for each of your posts, which are so full of insight, introspection, compassion and intelligence with a fair sprinkling of humor thrown in for good measure!

 

[CarolineOh]

Ohhh good luck!

It came as a bit of a surprise to me, to be honest.
I still haven't been able to take the big butt plug ... and was still at the 'my god it hurts' stage Sunday morning

Then, when we began to play - and it was only gonna be a very light, short session, I seemed to be getting more and more aroused ... and Robuck, ever one to push me ... took me further and further.

Then he began fingering my anus ... ohhh that was so good.

I hadn't got any of the toys out - and I wanted so much more ... so during a break for repostioning, I grabbed two vibrators.

He used the slim one vaginally ... it is very quiet but by jingo - it has some punch in it!

Still fingering my anus - he then pegged my clit .. and I knew I wanted more.

Between pants, I begged him to use the vibe anally (I thought he would use the slim one) and so he lubed it up and inserted it slowly.

It was the BIG one ... and I amazed my self by trying to move so more and more entered. I was pleading with him for more. But there was no more to go ... I had 7 or eight inches in me!

He pulled both vibes out and I was whimpering that I wanted to continue, please more.

So he said ... yes, but it will be ME!

He took me on my side - with him kneeling.

It slid in and he was able to thrust with no discomfort at all to me.

The orgasm I had was very powerful.



Cirrus ... I do hope it works out for you. (((hugs)))

Willow, I am sorry I missed reading your account earlier.
I am so glad you both enjoyed yourselves.

 

[A Desert Rose]

We did it!
We did it!
We did it!

and
ooooooooo
and
wow
and
oh my!



(Can ya tell I liked it?)

~~~~~Way to go Willow! My experiences with this have been resounding and wonderful, too. We spent a lot of time discussing and preparing for it and that made the FIRST time so much more pleasureable and not nearly as painful as I had feared.
(Little secret? I find myself craving it )

Rose

 

[Persephone36]

Re: For the Newest Lit Guru

Many congrats Perse!!!!

x 500 - 1 for each of your posts, which are so full of insight, introspection, compassion and intelligence with a fair sprinkling of humor thrown in for good measure!

Zip!

You make me *blush* -- and that's not an easy thing to do! (Natural lack of humility)

Thank you!

For that you get a big, wet

(your gf won't mind, will she?)


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[artful]

Perse

And I believe with this post -- Des, YOU have made me a Guru!!!

*Balloons and confetti fall from the sky all over Persephone*

Ahhhhhh! It's good to be a LIT Guru....

(oh, yes -- and you're right Des, I do have that anal fixation thing going for me too.)

P.

CONGRATS on the 500 you GURU you. I have enjoyed reading every post you have made in the "Forum" to attain that title. Looking forward to reading the next 500 here also.

 

[Persephone36]

Re: Perse

CONGRATS on the 500 you GURU you. I have enjoyed reading every post you have made in the "Forum" to attain that title. Looking forward to reading the next 500 here also.

Okay -- you guys are being WAY too nice to me, lol.

Where's Lance when we need a little biting sarcasm?

Thank you Art -- you're a dear. *hug*


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[zipman]

Re: Re: For the Newest Lit Guru

Zip!

You make me *blush* -- and that's not an easy thing to do! (Natural lack of humility)

Thank you!

For that you get a big, wet

(your gf won't mind, will she?)


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I made you blush and I'm getting a big "wet" kiss! I didn't realize that all the planets were in alignment today!! (Since Lance isn't around, I thought I would supply the sarcasm

 

[Persephone36]

Your horoscope today said...

I made you blush and I'm getting a big "wet" kiss! I didn't realize that all the planets were in alignment today!! (Since Lance isn't around, I thought I would supply the sarcasm

"...Ariens born in the year of 1965 have ALL the planets working towards their satisfaction and fullfillment of their deepest desires this week."

Didn't you know that?

Which once again -- brings us back to the anal thread....


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[zipman]

Re: Your horoscope today said...

"...Ariens born in the year of 1965 have ALL the planets working towards their satisfaction and fullfillment of their deepest desires this week."

Didn't you know that?

Which once again -- brings us back to the anal thread....


P.

Thankfully (and boy do I mean that), I am blessed with a sub who has, without any prompting, informed me that she considers her ass to be mine whenever I want it. She went as far as to say that if I ever even feel like being in her ass in the middle of the night, she wants me to just do it, even if she is sleeping). Now some might consider this topping from the bottom, but my reaction is - then top away!!!

Note: I will be enjoying her ass ever this long weekend!!!

 

[SexyChele]

Well, congratulations to Willow for being introduced to the joys of anal! And good luck to Cirrus on her upcoming, uh, endeavor! I'm always delighted to hear when women have wonderfully erotic and enjoyable "first times" with anal! It took me years, and finally finding the right man who knew how to do this, and I'm always envious of women who have men who get it "right" the first time!

Perse - a Guru! Congratulations! Hopefully you have enjoyed writing your first 500 posts as those of us who read them have. Here's looking forward to your next 500!

 

[Persephone36]

Re: Re: Your horoscope today said...

Note: I will be enjoying her ass ever this long weekend!!!

And thus -- I'm right on target with your horoscope.

Let's hope mine is equally fulfilling, brother arien.

Thanks Chele -- I can only hope I add as much here as you do.


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[zipman]

Re: Re: Re: Your horoscope today said...

Let's hope mine is equally fulfilling, brother arien.


P.

Equally fulfilling indeed! I love the pun!

 

[Persephone36]

Re: Re: Re: Re: Your horoscope today said...

Equally fulfilling indeed! I love the pun!

I'm just a punny gal.


P.

(I'm having a cat emoticon afternoon for some reason, lol.)

 

[zipman]

Re: Re: Re: Re: Re: Your horoscope today said...

I'm just a punny gal.


P.

(I'm having a cat emoticon afternoon for some reason, lol.)

Then maybe we should call you Pussephone

 

[Persephone36]

Re: Re: Re: Re: Re: Re: Your horoscope today said...

Then maybe we should call you Pussephone

Yep, just sitting around this weekend waiting for the pussy to be stroked.

Pussephone -- I *like* that.


Have a good weekend yourself Zipper.


P.

 

[Cirrus]

I've been busy packing to move, but I just wanted to let everyone know that we made an attempt that was semi-successful. He got in and everything was going OK until my bum just...uh...cramped. It was slightly painful for me but he said I was squeezing the life out of his poor "buddy". Maybe I got a subconcious attack of the nerves or something.

Whatever it was, we're going to try again because now I'm more comfortable with the whole process and know what to expect. We'll get there...it just is going to take a little time.

 

[~Dream~]

Re: Many great Posts

I totally agree with Persephone and Angel Eve. I have introduced several women to anal, and most of them enjoyed it. My current girlfriend let me do it the first time even though she was not the biggest fan of it and I have a pretty thick cock. She literally came the second my head entered her ass. It was amazing and she now requests it on a regular basis (rather impertinent of her to do as a sub, but I suffer stoicly

Some thoughts:
1) Prep - warm up to it slowly - both from the physical and psychological perspective. Women need to feel relaxed, and if they feel pressured to do it, then chances are it won't feel good. Build up to it slowly, over time, introducing different types of objects - fingers, toys, plugs, beads etc. I always combine new toys with a good pussy licking. I think it helps make the mental connection of "there's something in my ass - and my pussy feels good.

2) Lube, lube and more lube.

3) Allow her the control to put it in her. I often have just put the head of my cock against a woman's asshole and let her push down or push back against it until it slides in. Talking to her while she is doing it, reassuring her during it makes it even better. By letting her go at her speed, she will be less fearful of the pain.

Great thread though!!

most DEFINATELY a great thread,Zip

lube,lube .lube it up
gently so I dont scream
you'll find I really Love this Master
so please try it with Your Dream

I think in this one certain area I DO cumm alot better if I get to have just a lil of the control..lots of patience is a plus too and Master definately has that

 

[~Dream~]

Congrats to Perse

happy 500 posts beautiful lady and I'm soo looking forward to many many more..

 

[Persephone36]

I've been busy packing to move, but I just wanted to let everyone know that we made an attempt that was semi-successful. He got in and everything was going OK until my bum just...uh...cramped. It was slightly painful for me but he said I was squeezing the life out of his poor "buddy". Maybe I got a subconcious attack of the nerves or something.

Whatever it was, we're going to try again because now I'm more comfortable with the whole process and know what to expect. We'll get there...it just is going to take a little time.

Congrats Cirrus! I know that cramping feeling -- it's just muscle stress that comes from a bit of psychological stress. You'll relax and really enjoy once it becomes more familiar to you. It's still always something on that pain/pleasure line for me -- but that's part of the excitement for me too.

Let us know how you keep doing with it.

We're all "behind" you. (sorry I couldn't resist.)

P.

 

[zipman]

I've been busy packing to move, but I just wanted to let everyone know that we made an attempt that was semi-successful. He got in and everything was going OK until my bum just...uh...cramped. It was slightly painful for me but he said I was squeezing the life out of his poor "buddy". Maybe I got a subconcious attack of the nerves or something.

Whatever it was, we're going to try again because now I'm more comfortable with the whole process and know what to expect. We'll get there...it just is going to take a little time.

Cirrus,

It sounds as if you did get an attack of nerves, or just tensed up. One of the ways that I help women new to anal sex is that I always play with their clit when we do it the first few times. I don't thrust, but keep my movements to very small strokes. Fingering her clit accomplishes two things. First, it creates a very pleasurable for the woman. Second, it focuses her attention away from her ass and onto her pussy. Therefore, she is less likely to become tense or nervous in the middle (and there is less risk to my "little buddy."

Another technique is prolonged play with my fingers beforehand. I do the 1, 2, 3 finger slow approach. By the time I have the third finger in, she has had her anus massaged for at least 10-15 minutes, which often is enough to relax her sufficiently.

Hope this helps and good luck!

 

[WillowPuss]

I've been busy packing to move, but I just wanted to let everyone know that we made an attempt that was semi-successful. He got in and everything was going OK until my bum just...uh...cramped. It was slightly painful for me but he said I was squeezing the life out of his poor "buddy". Maybe I got a subconcious attack of the nerves or something.

Whatever it was, we're going to try again because now I'm more comfortable with the whole process and know what to expect. We'll get there...it just is going to take a little time.

Ohhhhhh WTG!
I know this was a big step!

Nice and easy does it.


(now to read rest of thread)

 

[Persephone36]

Cirrus,

It sounds as if you did get an attack of nerves, or just tensed up. One of the ways that I help women new to anal sex is that I always play with their clit when we do it the first few times. I don't thrust, but keep my movements to very small strokes. Fingering her clit accomplishes two things. First, it creates a very pleasurable for the woman. Second, it focuses her attention away from her ass and onto her pussy. Therefore, she is less likely to become tense or nervous in the middle (and there is less risk to my "little buddy."

Another technique is prolonged play with my fingers beforehand. I do the 1, 2, 3 finger slow approach. By the time I have the third finger in, she has had her anus massaged for at least 10-15 minutes, which often is enough to relax her sufficiently.

How Zip described his technique is almost *exactly* what worked for me and my then lover. He just constantly reminded me to rub my clit -- and it made a big difference. When I'd stop sometimes before I was really into it -- I'd tense up because I'd get so focused on what was happening "in back"

But he also did the prolonged fingering -- up to three fingers with me too (wait, Zip -- are you *sure* I don't know you???)

You're gonna be a pro and begging for it in no time Cirrus, lol! (I speak from whence I know)


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[Persephone36]

Re: Congrats to Perse

happy 500 posts beautiful lady and I'm soo looking forward to many many more..

Thank you Dream!

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