Do You Expect Fidelity From Your Online Lover?
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Juspar Emvan
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juicylips said:
Just the sex?
No, no expectations there. Of course, sometimes it goes beyond sex, you both make some sort of commitment. At that point, exclusivity probably should be talked about.
Either way, I think we all have a right to total honesty. It's the deliberate hiding of another that will cause the real pain.
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juicylips said:If you have a cyber or phone sex partner, do you expect complete fidelity from them?
Or
Is it just a friendship relationship where you "help" each other out?
Just curious
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LOL...now shut up and kiss me!
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What qualifies as an online relationship?
Too be honest I don't expect anything in particular from anyone on here. Friendship perhaps with time which would be nice, but I don't expect it.
I certainly do not expect fidelity, but believe it's up to the people in question. If the question ever arise, then be honest with each other. If you decide to be that commited that's great, but be specific what you're allowed and not allowed to do. If having made an agreement, both parties should stick to it as with any other relationship.
In general, what qualifies as an online relationship? Where is the line drawn?
Too be honest I don't expect anything in particular from anyone on here. Friendship perhaps with time which would be nice, but I don't expect it.
I certainly do not expect fidelity, but believe it's up to the people in question. If the question ever arise, then be honest with each other. If you decide to be that commited that's great, but be specific what you're allowed and not allowed to do. If having made an agreement, both parties should stick to it as with any other relationship.
In general, what qualifies as an online relationship? Where is the line drawn?
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Depends on your defenition of fidelity, I'm afraid.....
I am faithful to those I love........
I don't date outside that.....don't flirt much, even.
If I really want to make cyber love with someone, I talk to the people I care about, find out how they feel.
Then again, I'm supposedly a member of a rare breed.
A honest man.
I am faithful to those I love........
I don't date outside that.....don't flirt much, even.
If I really want to make cyber love with someone, I talk to the people I care about, find out how they feel.
Then again, I'm supposedly a member of a rare breed.
A honest man.
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No. I don't expect or want fidelity.
If they are my on line or phone lover, I hesitate to make or expect a commitment from someone I may never meet.
Might I feel a bit jealous from time to time?
Sure...but easily gotten over.
(Just call another friend!
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If they are my on line or phone lover, I hesitate to make or expect a commitment from someone I may never meet.
Might I feel a bit jealous from time to time?
Sure...but easily gotten over.
(Just call another friend!
)Re: Re: Do You Expect Fidelity From Your Online Lover?
It is so much easier to keep it just about the sex. That's not to say you can't be friends, but, if your relationship is mainly based on turning each other on, it keeps things much simpler.
Easy.
Simple.
Honest.
It is none of my business if someone I am enjoying is involved with someone else. If feelings start to get involved, then you need to speak of it, settle it and go on.
JL
Juspar Emvan said:
It is so much easier to keep it just about the sex. That's not to say you can't be friends, but, if your relationship is mainly based on turning each other on, it keeps things much simpler.
Easy.
Simple.
Honest.
It is none of my business if someone I am enjoying is involved with someone else. If feelings start to get involved, then you need to speak of it, settle it and go on.
JL
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When I started coming here, I did not have exclusive relationships. There were people I was close to, that were friends, and we played together regularly, understanding that no one was committed to exclusivity.
But... and maybe this is unrealistic and impossible... I expect honesty. Honesty in terms of, don't tell me I'm the only one when I'm not. And, if you find someone you feel serious about, tell me, because that's important.
Some of those friends are very dear to me, and we are still close. The ones who were dishonest... and yeah, you do always find out... we just aren't friendly any more. I can't be friends with someone I can't trust.
My online lover, the man I've been with online since fall... with him I am committed and exclusive... For me it just feels better, it feels right, to have that emotional commitment too. Should he choose to play with someone else, fine, I just don't want him to feel he has to hide it from me.
Would I be happy about it? not very likely. But I don't know that it would end our relationship. As long as I feel that I can trust his feelings for me, that's what's important.
And hiding something makes me suspicious.
Don't make that commitment unless you intend to keep it.
But... and maybe this is unrealistic and impossible... I expect honesty. Honesty in terms of, don't tell me I'm the only one when I'm not. And, if you find someone you feel serious about, tell me, because that's important.
Some of those friends are very dear to me, and we are still close. The ones who were dishonest... and yeah, you do always find out... we just aren't friendly any more. I can't be friends with someone I can't trust.
My online lover, the man I've been with online since fall... with him I am committed and exclusive... For me it just feels better, it feels right, to have that emotional commitment too. Should he choose to play with someone else, fine, I just don't want him to feel he has to hide it from me.
Would I be happy about it? not very likely. But I don't know that it would end our relationship. As long as I feel that I can trust his feelings for me, that's what's important.
And hiding something makes me suspicious.
Don't make that commitment unless you intend to keep it.
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I expect fidelity...... when it's agreed upon up front.
I've had the online relationship when its agreed that you can play with others, and the exclusive kind as well.
For a total of 14 months I have had an exclusive relationship with one man, that is not soley based on play time. We spend hours a day on voice, chatting, joking and sometimes in comfortable silence while we work on other projects. He is my best friend, the one that I talk to when I'm upset about something or when I have great news to share.
So from my own experience, I have found that this is more satisfyinig for me. Not to mention, when you find the one that knows what you like and what you want without having to say a word.... why would you need anyone else? *grin
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I've had the online relationship when its agreed that you can play with others, and the exclusive kind as well.
For a total of 14 months I have had an exclusive relationship with one man, that is not soley based on play time. We spend hours a day on voice, chatting, joking and sometimes in comfortable silence while we work on other projects. He is my best friend, the one that I talk to when I'm upset about something or when I have great news to share.
So from my own experience, I have found that this is more satisfyinig for me. Not to mention, when you find the one that knows what you like and what you want without having to say a word.... why would you need anyone else? *grin
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It's all about trust and loyalty....isn't it?
In my view, being faithful to an online lover where an "exclusive relationship" is agreed upon is no different merely because the method of communication and spending time with each other is a computer.
"Cheating" is the alienation of affection, whether sex is involved or not.
Some people say talking to each online is something OTHER than "real life". But, is this any less real than writing letters, talking on the phone, or any other method of exchanging ideas and opinions and other conversational elements?
My online lover not only fulfills things missing in my life, but also fills many of my days and nights with a companionship as important to me as any other in my life. She has no peer with her ability to love, understand, share, and know me and what I like.
Why would I want anyone else? She satisfies my needs as well as my wants and fantasies. <grin>
In my view, being faithful to an online lover where an "exclusive relationship" is agreed upon is no different merely because the method of communication and spending time with each other is a computer.
"Cheating" is the alienation of affection, whether sex is involved or not.
Some people say talking to each online is something OTHER than "real life". But, is this any less real than writing letters, talking on the phone, or any other method of exchanging ideas and opinions and other conversational elements?
My online lover not only fulfills things missing in my life, but also fills many of my days and nights with a companionship as important to me as any other in my life. She has no peer with her ability to love, understand, share, and know me and what I like.
Why would I want anyone else? She satisfies my needs as well as my wants and fantasies. <grin>
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