Could i be gay?

[kinkyukdoctor]

As a male, i have to admit i've had my fair share of viewing porn etc...Mostly heterosexual and group porn to be more specific.

But i've come to realise that i've somehow focused my masterbation on the man's penis rather than the woman, and i often feel like i long to be in the woman's position. But don't get me wrong, i still do find women very attractive.

So i'm quite confused, am i turning gay, or maybe i'm bisexual?

Has anyone else been through those kinda things?

Thanks in advance for any replies.

 

[SweetCherry]

If I had to pick a label for you, right now I'd say bi-curious. Beyond that, I'm not even going to risk a guess.

 

[glamorilla]

i've always felt we always know our truths~it's just a question of admitting it to ourselves.

good luck.

 

[SweetCherry]

Well said, Glam. Sometimes admitting it to ourselves is the hardest thing of all.

 

[Queersetti]

It doesn't seem likely that you are gay,but you might very well be bisexual. I think Glam is right, don't think of the situation as change, but as discovery. Good luck, and please, feel free to come here and share with us as often as you wish.

 

[Pookie]

I also believe that you may be bisexual. That's something you will have to discover for yourself.

 

[Angel]

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[anonsipen]

I'm there with your thoughts.
I think I'm BI - well I'm working on finding out!

I don't think its just about admitting the truth to yourself - it's also about discovering the truth about yourself.

Happy discovering! (Perfect grammar!)

 

[webber1998]

I'd say that you were biCurious, of course. Until you have actually acted upon the urge to be with another guy. Once you have done that, I would hope that you would be able to figure it out.

Have *FUN* finding out though !!...

Play safe..

 

[Guest]

 

[Cigan]

Why title yourself? The fact of the matter is that the percentage of the population that doesn't have some bi-sexual inclination is less than 10%. (Yay Kinsey we love you) So you're interested in men. It's no reason to be confused. You don't turn gay , you don't turn bi. There is research going back farther than the current news hype indicates that sexuality is defined in the womb. So just run with whatever attractions you find. If that means just watching different porn, or actually going out and have a male male experience depends on how strongly you find yourself attracted to men. But don't worry about the label for now. The labels hold different meanings for different people, and they have more to do with self identity than anything else. So you're figuring out that identity now. Figure it out and worry about the label later. Or ::gasp:: ignore the label altogether.

 

[sdedalus]

As a male, i have to admit i've had my fair share of viewing porn etc...Mostly heterosexual and group porn to be more specific.

But i've come to realise that i've somehow focused my masterbation on the man's penis rather than the woman, and i often feel like i long to be in the woman's position. But don't get me wrong, i still do find women very attractive.

So i'm quite confused, am i turning gay, or maybe i'm bisexual?

Has anyone else been through those kinda things?

Yes. Don't worry about it... it's natural... I feel exactly the same way... You're probably bisexual like me.

 

[phillyriter]

I can sure relate to this. About 10 years ago I started fantasizing about what it would be like to have a man have his way with me. To touch another penis, suck it and taste cum in my mouth. And to take it in my ass. (All done under duress, of course LOL)
My first reaction to this startling change was fear, (what the hell was going on with me?) eventually turning into acceptance. There are a few select people I have confided this to.
I still love women, always will. There's nothing more arousing than a submissive woman. But sometimes I just crave a hard cock and want to be some man's 'bitch.'
As you've been hearing, labels serve no purpose for the individual, they just make it easier for society to find which pigeonhole to put us in. Don't choose, just enjoy. Bisexuals just have twice as many potential lovers!

 

[infinityoverzero]

What is bi? Who knows

There are a lot of different views on this issues - what is the difference between gay / bisexual / bicurious / isolated interest in same-sex etc. I don't have much original to add to what's been said before, namely don't worry about categorizing yourself and just enjoy what you've found out. That being said, if you do think that you may be bi there are many posts on bisexuality in this forum that you may be interested in looking at.

 

[deliciously_naughty]

Why not just think of yourself in a sexual openess phase? Labels are constrictive. I prefer to think of myself as sexually awakened rather than label myself bi or whatever

 

[thickspear]

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[simonedb27]

i agree with the rest. don't worry about a label.

my boyfriend noticed his interest in gay porn and has recently accepted a label for himself.

a lot of people here have said that labels are for the rest of society and are not as helpful for the individual. personally, i feel that the sexual idenity labels can be helpful in accepting yourself. sometimes it helps just to say outloud, 'i am bi,' or 'i am _____' i know that saying the words 'i am bisexual' outloud was almost a freeing experience for me. i came out to myself and the label helped me do that. don't get me wrong, labels can be horrible rotten things if used the wrong way.

you will figure things out for yourself. don't worry about putting a label on yourself, but don't be afraid to either.

 

[sdedalus]

sometimes it helps just to say outloud,

Like this afternoon?

 

[glamorilla]

Why title yourself? The fact of the matter is that the percentage of the population that doesn't have some bi-sexual inclination is less than 10%. (Yay Kinsey we love you) So you're interested in men. It's no reason to be confused. You don't turn gay , you don't turn bi. There is research going back farther than the current news hype indicates that sexuality is defined in the womb. So just run with whatever attractions you find. If that means just watching different porn, or actually going out and have a male male experience depends on how strongly you find yourself attracted to men. But don't worry about the label for now. The labels hold different meanings for different people, and they have more to do with self identity than anything else. So you're figuring out that identity now. Figure it out and worry about the label later. Or ::gasp:: ignore the label altogether.

actually i have a problem with this. within the realm of sexuality there aren't that many possibilities. you're either straight,gay(lesbian) or bisexual~even transgenderds fall into one of these three groups.

it has taken homosexuals decades in modern society to gain respect and acceptance. it's a label i wear proudly and it's a label i've fought for.

be what you want to be~but don't lose sight of who you are.

 

[Pookie]

Labels have never bothered me. People will apply labels to you no matter what you do. I don't feel constricted by a label either. If the label fits, I'll wear it. I'm proud of who I am. But the label isn't what made me who I am.

 

[glamorilla]

We don't live in an equal society~taking away our label will make us invisible again especially if we do it to ourselves.

No it's not all of who we are but yes our labels do shape us and direct the courses of our lives. i believe this is referred to as "gay puberty". When you hit it you'll understand.

*when somebody tries to tell you what you are is wrong or tell you to e something you're not you'll care about your label.

 

[Gods_Favorite]

I'm in the same situation, I often fantasize about having a guy suck my cock, and having anal sex with another man, giving and recieving, I really like reading gay/bo stories, especially about first time encounters, and watching gay porn. I've never acted on my fantasies mainly because I'm married, and the wife has no idea about my fantasies. I still consider myself str8 but mildly bi curious if it makes sense.

 

[Etoile]

It is entirely possible for a person to enjoy a particular kind of porn and not be that orientation. I love gay male porn, but I'll never be a gay man. I also don't think asking here is necessarily going to be effective - you need to find out for yourself. But yes, I agree that you might be what is commonly called "bi-curious."

 

[kinkyukdoctor]

Okay i guess i shouldn't pocket myself and labels etc.

But how did everyone else get into their first gay experience? I can't quite make a move on friends and people i know, because they're all straight!

Maybe some of the gay nightclubs in London beckon...

 

[Pookie]

Okay i guess i shouldn't pocket myself and labels etc.

But how did everyone else get into their first gay experience? I can't quite make a move on friends and people i know, because they're all straight!

Maybe some of the gay nightclubs in London beckon...

That's my recommendation. Start going places where gays/bisexuals hang out.