Straight guys who like gay sex

Only twosomes for us, no threesomes or more. At least not for a while, she says.
 
I would say if you like gay sex you are bi, but if you don’t want that label that’s fine, call it what you want and just have fun. I’m bi, wife has no idea and never will as it’s not something she could accept and it would crush her, so I guess like many guys I am a closeted bi man. It’s to bad though as there is nothing I’d like better than to be eating her lovely pussy as another man was fucking her…..but….that unfortunately will never happen anywhere but in my fantasy land.
 
I would say if you like gay sex you are bi, but if you don’t want that label that’s fine, call it what you want and just have fun. I’m bi, wife has no idea and never will as it’s not something she could accept and it would crush her, so I guess like many guys I am a closeted bi man. It’s to bad though as there is nothing I’d like better than to be eating her lovely pussy as another man was fucking her…..but….that unfortunately will never happen anywhere but in my fantasy land.

I read that it’s not gay if you wear a hat.
 
I've given up on married bi guys
Most are not honest about it and there is just WAY TOO MUCH baggage that comes with it.
 
I’m big into the idea of being fucked in the ass. I’ve never done it but often fantasise about it and I enjoy some anal toys when I get a chance.
( I’m married and our sex life is regular enough but so vanilla it’s not funny.)

I’ve some experience here, I was lucky to have a transgender fb when I lived abroad - I’ve had cock (albeit quite small) in my mouth and I loved it. My happiest memory is tasting her cum. She was bottom only and at the time that suited me perfectly.

*But* here’s the problem…
I love cocks when I see them in porn or pics on lit 🔥 but I’m just not really attracted to the bodies that they are attached to!
I’m on Sniffies and the guys there in general are all handsome, lovely looking cocks and great bodies etc. But the thought of swallowing their cum or even kissing them does nothing for me.

Btw - I don’t think this makes me homophobic - I want them, badly - but I’m not attracted to them.

What to do!!??
 
I’m big into the idea of being fucked in the ass. I’ve never done it but often fantasise about it and I enjoy some anal toys when I get a chance.
( I’m married and our sex life is regular enough but so vanilla it’s not funny.)

I’ve some experience here, I was lucky to have a transgender fb when I lived abroad - I’ve had cock (albeit quite small) in my mouth and I loved it. My happiest memory is tasting her cum. She was bottom only and at the time that suited me perfectly.

*But* here’s the problem…
I love cocks when I see them in porn or pics on lit 🔥 but I’m just not really attracted to the bodies that they are attached to!
I’m on Sniffies and the guys there in general are all handsome, lovely looking cocks and great bodies etc. But the thought of swallowing their cum or even kissing them does nothing for me.

Btw - I don’t think this makes me homophobic - I want them, badly - but I’m not attracted to them.

What to do!!??
Why can't you just stick to trans women?
 
Trans women are awesome, no doubt about that. I think my journey towards cock admiration started with trans porn in the first place.
I’ve been on a few sites and there seem to 100x guys to each trans there. I’m a good looking guy, keep in shape etc but those are tough odds!
Also I live in Dublin where the trans community is still reasonably modest - whereas there’s a big gay presence here and apps / sites are pretty much made for discreet and easy hookups.
Unless I’m mistaken I don’t believe there’s an app to meet cd / trans?? 🤞
Thanks for the reply!
 
Trans women are awesome, no doubt about that. I think my journey towards cock admiration started with trans porn in the first place.
I’ve been on a few sites and there seem to 100x guys to each trans there. I’m a good looking guy, keep in shape etc but those are tough odds!
Also I live in Dublin where the trans community is still reasonably modest - whereas there’s a big gay presence here and apps / sites are pretty much made for discreet and easy hookups.
Unless I’m mistaken I don’t believe there’s an app to meet cd / trans?? 🤞
Thanks for the reply!
My girlfriend used to use Tinder to meet guys. I have not been on Tinder in years but back then you had to read the profiles to find a trans woman like her. Grindr specially allows you to search for trans and I did meet a pretty trans woman there but the clientele are almost all gay guys. There are also web sites for dating trans people.
 
*But* here’s the problem…
I love cocks when I see them in porn or pics on lit 🔥 but I’m just not really attracted to the bodies that they are attached to!

Have you researched "demisexual"? Like, only being attracted when you have a strong emotional connection. Maybe that's why you are only attracted to the just the icing and not the cake? LOL!
 
(this is my first post on LGBTQIA+ forum)

There is such a thing as heterosexual people who can enjoy homosexual activity. I've been strongly heterosexual my entire life, but I have also shared BJ, HJ, and even anal intercourse with other guys, and enjoyed it (sometimes). I say "strongly" heterosexual because ever since I was a child, from before I even knew what sex was, girls made me feel a certain way. When I was young, I got nervous and tongue tied. They seemed like a magically fascinating, magnetically attractive, other species. Boys seemed unremarkable, like simply the same species. As I got older, I felt soul-wrenching emotional pull towards women, in addition to raging physical desire. Holding a woman in my arms can feel like "being whole." I never have, and never could, feel anything remotely like that towards a male.

But some years ago I started j/o to porn with a friend. At first we just got naked, watched (straight) porn, and masturbated. But eventually we started sharing BJs. It was easy to immediately enjoy the feeling of slowly kissing and licking a hard cock. It took a bit longer to get accustomed to cum, but eventually I loved that too. I can definitely get turned on by feeling cum shooting into my mouth, or all over my face, or splashing on my body. Also, I have many times experienced frotting, with him and others. That is my favorite MM activity. It's so sexy masturbating with another guy, with a bit of massage oil and our cocks rubbing together. It's an absolutely amazing feeling, just breathtaking. It makes me hard as a rock feeling another warm, erect, oiled cock slipping and sliding against mine. And it is so delicious cumming that way, and seeing and feeling another cock throbbing and squirting all over mine and his. I've also penetrated another guy a handful of times, and had OK-to-excellent orgasms that way. I've also felt a guy cum inside me, but didn't get much sexual feeling from that. But sex with another man, no matter how great, feels like masturbation. It doesn't feel like making love, and never could for me.

I hesitate to call that "bisexual" because "bi" implies some kind of equivalence. To me, they are not remotely similar. One is an emotional, spiritual attraction, with many dimensions. The other is like an enjoyable sex toy, with one dimension. I love it and sometimes crave it, but it's still one-dimensional. I don't know the proper word for this orientation, or if there even is one.

There are some who deny that this is even a thing. But it is. And I'm not sure how to respond when I try to explain my sexuality, and somebody who isn't me, and doesn't have my orientation, tells me I am incorrect. What does that even mean? I'm telling them firsthand my experience, and they're telling me my experience doesn't exist? It defies logic, I just give up.
At some point I just drop labels and go with the flow; but when pressed, this pretty much describes me as "heteroflexible".
 
Once it gets past a mutual bj or hj or a woman is present it deserves a label. With the woman there it’s bi. Once someone ends up fucked it’s gay. A guy kissing a guy is gay too.
Letting emotions get involved would be gay too.
Bj or hj is no different than going for a massage.
 
(this is my first post on LGBTQIA+ forum)

There is such a thing as heterosexual people who can enjoy homosexual activity. I've been strongly heterosexual my entire life, but I have also shared BJ, HJ, and even anal intercourse with other guys, and enjoyed it (sometimes). I say "strongly" heterosexual because ever since I was a child, from before I even knew what sex was, girls made me feel a certain way. When I was young, I got nervous and tongue tied. They seemed like a magically fascinating, magnetically attractive, other species. Boys seemed unremarkable, like simply the same species. As I got older, I felt soul-wrenching emotional pull towards women, in addition to raging physical desire. Holding a woman in my arms can feel like "being whole." I never have, and never could, feel anything remotely like that towards a male.

But some years ago I started j/o to porn with a friend. At first we just got naked, watched (straight) porn, and masturbated. But eventually we started sharing BJs. It was easy to immediately enjoy the feeling of slowly kissing and licking a hard cock. It took a bit longer to get accustomed to cum, but eventually I loved that too. I can definitely get turned on by feeling cum shooting into my mouth, or all over my face, or splashing on my body. Also, I have many times experienced frotting, with him and others. That is my favorite MM activity. It's so sexy masturbating with another guy, with a bit of massage oil and our cocks rubbing together. It's an absolutely amazing feeling, just breathtaking. It makes me hard as a rock feeling another warm, erect, oiled cock slipping and sliding against mine. And it is so delicious cumming that way, and seeing and feeling another cock throbbing and squirting all over mine and his. I've also penetrated another guy a handful of times, and had OK-to-excellent orgasms that way. I've also felt a guy cum inside me, but didn't get much sexual feeling from that. But sex with another man, no matter how great, feels like masturbation. It doesn't feel like making love, and never could for me.

I hesitate to call that "bisexual" because "bi" implies some kind of equivalence. To me, they are not remotely similar. One is an emotional, spiritual attraction, with many dimensions. The other is like an enjoyable sex toy, with one dimension. I love it and sometimes crave it, but it's still one-dimensional. I don't know the proper word for this orientation, or if there even is one.

There are some who deny that this is even a thing. But it is. And I'm not sure how to respond when I try to explain my sexuality, and somebody who isn't me, and doesn't have my orientation, tells me I am incorrect. What does that even mean? I'm telling them firsthand my experience, and they're telling me my experience doesn't exist? It defies logic, I just give up.
I totally understand where you're coming from and I have the exact same experience as you. I'm not into all the labels and simply refer to myself, again, like you, as a heterosexual who enjoys some m2m alternative sexual pleasures 😊...
 
I've sort of submitted to gay tops who just wanted a willing asshole to fuck and didn't care I was dressed.

I would've loved to find a sexy dominant shemale. Very difficult.
 
Dude, whatever label makes you happy. I would call you bi, and on the hetero side of center on a scale, or a cock sucking straight. But as others have said, those labels and boxes and one dimensional scales don't mean much.

I will say this: Change your profile to "bisexual" and the people who interact with you directly will change. Maybe for the better? Or not? But it's a change.
 
I've sort of submitted to gay tops who just wanted a willing asshole to fuck and didn't care I was dressed.

I would've loved to find a sexy dominant shemale. Very difficult.
Yes, it is very difficult. I chatted and camed with hundreds of girls.
 
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