Am I weird?

[CNYCarol]

Diane and I were chatting with a bi friend of ours. The topic changed to "Don't we miss penetration?"

While Diane confessed never finding it that pleasurable, I admitted that I found it enjoyable but savored it as a rare treat.

It seems our guest had been chatting with another girl that said "A real lesbian don't need no dick".

Is this a common thought in the gay community? Aren't we all individuals, free to enjoy what ever we desire?

I am very grateful to have my "Lady Di" who may have no desire for penetration, but she will willingly mount me whenever I desire.

 

[LeatherChaps]

Diane and I were chatting with a bi friend of ours. The topic changed to "Don't we miss penetration?"

While Diane confessed never finding it that pleasurable, I admitted that I found it enjoyable but savored it as a rare treat.

It seems our guest had been chatting with another girl that said "A real lesbian don't need no dick".

Is this a common thought in the gay community? Aren't we all individuals, free to enjoy what ever we desire?

I am very grateful to have my "Lady Di" who may have no desire for penetration, but she will willingly mount me whenever I desire.

But what about that warm and throbbing thing? And the fact that its actually part of a living human being?

 

[prostation]

Whatever works for you ...

I would imagine that whatever makes you feel good is what you should go by; sexuality is really one's own personal matter. And since we are who we are, especially who we are, I think freedom is something that is implied.

 

[prostation]

But what about that warm and throbbing thing? And the fact that its actually part of a living human being?

But it is part of a living human being, be it prosthetic or otherwise. It's about what you feel inside you, rather than what you feel inside you.

 

[Experiencedguy]

I can only give you a bi guys opinion, who has been with many gays guys.

Almost all gay guys (that I know, at least) have had at least one 'straight' encounter (that is among those that I got to know well enough to share intamacies as these). Most said that it was enjoyable, but just 'not right'. A few said they would enjoy fucking a woman again. Several said not enjoyable, would never do it again. And, finishing last whom stated: Never have, never will.

Now of course, this will be extremely distorted from the gay male side, because I am so (openly) bi.

But, my best guess is that all of those who are totally gay/lesbian, I would guess that is a good representation.

 

[Esperanza_Hidalgo]

Weird is good, No?

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[infinity706]

From my experience, penetration isn't really that big of a deal in the GLBT community. It's more of an optional form of sex play. I haven't found that many that didn't enjoy some form of penetration, though.

 

[Etoile]

From my experience, penetration isn't really that big of a deal in the GLBT community. It's more of an optional form of sex play. I haven't found that many that didn't enjoy some form of penetration, though.

Guess you haven't met many stone butches, then.

Calling penetration a tool of the patriarchy or whatever nonsense is dumb
People like what they like. Sex is between the people having it and politics has no place in the bedroom.

 

[haurni]

Calling penetration a tool of the patriarchy or whatever nonsense is dumb
People like what they like. Sex is between the people having it and politics has no place in the bedroom.

What she said. Personally, I don't understand this dom-sub stuff where it seems you have to have a label (or at least that's what I get from the few people I've talked to about it).

 

[Stella_Omega]

Guess you haven't met many stone butches, then.

Well, he wouldn't, would he!

It is very very true that for many people, their politics interfere in their sexual expression. There have been times in my life when the thought of being with a man made me nauseated-- not because I don't like men in bed, but because I was so angry at the oppressions I could see all around me. Being female in society was something I had pretty much no control over, and I could not possibly allow any man access to the parts of my life that I could control.

Penetration, though-- I really like my g-spot, dammit. There isn't any other way to get to it!

 

[clio711]

Amen Stella! I have been a lesbian all my life, tend to be on the butch side of things, and love penetration, both giving and getting. Penetration is about pleasure, it just feels good, and to deny myself that pleasure simply because I'm a lesbian seems ridiculous.

 

[AmberMoore]

I love penetration, I don't like getting poked...

I mean I love some slight penetration and then the application of pressure and pulling. What I don't like is someone just going wild with the poking, the most pleasurable spots are less than knuckle deep inside of me they don't need to tickle my small intestines. Every woman is different though, I agree with Stella, if you let your personal political feelings get in the way of your sexual pleasure then... I don't know where that sentence is going.

My G Spot is inside my pussy so in order for someone to get to my G Spot they would have to penetrate and I'm fine with that.

 

[Safe_Bet]

I don't have a big problem with penetration per se, or dicks for that matter. It's the assholes that they are attached to that I dislike.

As for g-spot massage etc. That's why the goddess gave us nice agile fingers (that can turn into a fist when desired!)

 

[clio711]

Well Amber, I would say that if someone is just poking at you, they just aren't doing it right! And I have very small fingers, so maybe I could get more than knuckle deep?

Anyway, like I always say, if it feels good, do it!

 

[Esperanza_Hidalgo]

Well, he wouldn't, would he!

It is very very true that for many people, their politics interfere in their sexual expression.

It's all from our upbringing and societal pressure. No matter what, the little voice in my head keeps whispering, "Your'e a freak, queer, lesbian. God hates freaks." The religion in society has done so much damage to people in search of happiness. You think I'd be a queer if I had a choice considering the bullshit?

The bad thing is I know it's all wrong, really screwed up thinking on my part..AND I KNOW IT...YET IT IS STILL FRICKIN THERE...WILL IT EVER COMPLETELY GO AWAY?

One must be as they are, to do otherwise is worse. Then you sit around in a lonely room and live a life that is simply a living death. So hey, fuck it all I'm a queer, and screw you (with a dildo) if you don't like it. I love A WOMAN (several in fact if truth be known--please don't read this honey *wink*). And I want her to penetrate me because feels DAMN GOOD, but like Safe_Bet, please let a pussy be at the end of that cock.

Now, lemme go before I start rambling more and really start getting pissed off.

Irania

 

[Esperanza_Hidalgo]

I don't have a big problem with penetration per se, or dicks for that matter. It's the assholes that they are attached to that I dislike.

i CAN'T STAND THE THOUGH OF HAVING A REAL COCK IN ME, AND WHEN i TRY AND WRITE (damn caps lock) it in erotica I am like, oui, icky!

And, love to hear from you A...the piece I am on is progressing.

Bunches of kisses

 

[PassionateStars]

great thread

Hi all

Just started reading this thread - with Amber's reminder about poking not being the be-all and end-all.

D

 

[PassionateStars]

Hi

I'm a guy, and have known a number of lesbians. And had a girlfriend who had not been with a guy before me (she loved penetration by the way - and it was a great day when I found how much she totally was thrilled with being fisted - so many orgasms and squirming!!!). Women I have known, both lesbian and straight, differ in how they relate to penetration. Some love being eaten, even more than fucked with a cock or toy. Some need rough deep fucking to have the most fun, and to be most orgasmic. And many like both, or like many things. As said here before, each of us has our own way, and own desires. (Once knew a lesbian who once in a while just loved having a guy spank her as she lay on her tummy fingering her pussy; I was glad to oblige).

D

 

[angelkitty7888]

i don't think you're weird everyone wants something from their lover... it doesn't mean it is weird though

i've never been with a man sexually and it doesn't bother me... i am a big fan of clit play and not so much a fan of penatration... i like being filled but i'm not so big on the thrusting part lol... not too big on being eaten either... i want my girl to touch, kiss and cuddle me... maybe bite me and such but that's really it *shrug* am i weird? i don't think so

 

[Safe_Bet]

I'm a guy, and have known a number of lesbians. And had a girlfriend who had not been with a guy before me (she loved penetration by the way - and it was a great day when I found how much she totally was thrilled with being fisted - so many orgasms and squirming!!!). Women I have known, both lesbian and straight, differ in how they relate to penetration. Some love being eaten, even more than fucked with a cock or toy. Some need rough deep fucking to have the most fun, and to be most orgasmic. And many like both, or like many things. As said here before, each of us has our own way, and own desires. (Once knew a lesbian who once in a while just loved having a guy spank her as she lay on her tummy fingering her pussy; I was glad to oblige).

D

I'm sure the hundreds of lesbians that the women here know pales in comparison with the vast numbers you do , but please don't act like the all knowing "God of Lesbian Knowledge", okay?

And dude, that "lesbian" you know that routinely likes to get spanked by a guy - "ain't".

 

[Stella_Omega]

I'm sure the hundreds of lesbians that the women here know pales in comparison with the vast numbers you do , but please don't act like the all knowing "God of Lesbian Knowledge", okay?

And dude, that "lesbian" you know that routinely likes to get spanked by a guy - "ain't".

quoted for truth.

 

[infinity706]

It depends on how you define "lesbian," though. If you're one of those people that defines someone as straight or gay based on their current partner, she could be a former lesbian. I just wonder what those people do about situations where you're fucking a man and a woman at the same time...

 

[Stella_Omega]

It depends on how you define "lesbian," though. If you're one of those people that defines someone as straight or gay based on their current partner, she could be a former lesbian. I just wonder what those people do about situations where you're fucking a man and a woman at the same time...

Don't do this. DO NOT mansplain women's business to women.

Lesbians are the ones that define the word, not you. A lesbian is a woman who only loves women. That is the only valid definition.

A "former lesbian" is not now "a lesbian." If she were "a lesbian," she would not be with a man now.

Can we say;

"Bisexual?"

Of course we can!

 

[blade_rocknut]

Don't do this. DO NOT mansplain women's business to women.

Lesbians are the ones that define the word, not you. A lesbian is a woman who only loves women. That is the only valid definition.

A "former lesbian" is not now "a lesbian." If she were "a lesbian," she would not be with a man now.

Can we say;

"Bisexual?"

Of course we can!

word.

 

[Stella_Omega]

I know infinity706 means well.

But "lesbians" are not "girls who are just waiting for my dick," no matter how much men might wish it were so.

Come on, guys, you don't have to play in every singly sandbox. Get over it.