A bit of controversy

[*Eve*]

Ok, I know I have asked this question before and I am still a bit in the dark so I will ask again and this will be the last time it is ever mentioned, at least from my end. Anyway, what was the deal with our friend BA? I must have missed something big here but I have read several thread where people have alluded to this person as being an underage fake. How would such info be found out in the first place.
This leads me to another question. How does it make you feel when someone you thought you knew has been posting lies on the BB? Would you shun that person, or just fogive and forget or is it a big deal to anyone?

 

[Guest]

How does it make you feel when someone you thought you knew has been posting lies on the BB? Would you shun that person, or just fogive and forget or is it a big deal to anyone?

When it happened to me I just let it go. That's why I'm posting 'incognito' don't want to stir anything up again.
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[KillerMuffin]

I don't know a thing about BA, wish I could help, but you can see that I'm rather new here.

As for the lies on BB and forgiveness, I have experience with something similar. I used to chat irc.msn. I was in the military when I began chatting there and due to the sensitivity of my job I had to tell a few lies. They weren't any big deal, just general things, like name, location, what I did for a living. I also said I lived in the barracks, and was not married. I covered my rump on that by claiming a fiancee who likewise lived in the barracks. Saying you're single when you're married is pretty bad, some guys got the idea that I was free to do whatever when that wasn't the case. I just wanted to chat, because of my newly acquired epilepsy I couldn't go out anymore, so I made myself some company at home. Hayuhtun, when I got out of the Navy, I came clean about the whole thing. I thought everyone would hate me, but I was mostly forgiven.

I think that friends made on places like Boards and Chats are forgiving when you lie to protect yourself, they can understand the feelings. Lying, however, with the intention of playing with other people (eg. saying you're single when you're married in the interests of starting affairs, or lying about your age in the interests of picking up guys who otherwise would have nothing to do with you) is strictly cruel and wrong. That is hard to forgive, but I've seen it done. Living with lies is hard, even when you're doing it on a place like BB or chat where no one can really find out.

 

[Guest]

*Eve*, I am one of the people (see Gil's "Who do you miss" thread) who have stated Bossy Aussie is a fake. The only reason I know this is because of a couple of people here who have talked to be about it. I'd never mention details of those who have talked to me, but in Gil's thread I felt it was time to say something about this whole scenario. Rumor has it that this girl confessed to these people who have talked to me (and if it proves to be false, then I am the FIRST to apologize).

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[Fallen Angel]

Well BA's story did seem a bit extreme but who knows what you will run into on the net. It is a shame that someone would feel the need to make up such a big story and let others be hurt while trying to befriend them. However it is an often repeated scenario where lies are told and people fooled only for the sake of self gratification. Right off the top of my head I can think of 6+ cases where people where fed a line of bs and ended up getting hurt by people that were not what they claimed to be. I know of many many more cases that I have heard of.

It tends to go back to the old adage of "Believe none of what you hear and only half of what you see." A sorry state of affairs but a realistic one.

Opps Eve I can not answer your question from anything I know personally but on the "Who do ya miss" thread I think that there were a couple of posters who seemed to know the facts.

 

[Jeff726]

As one of the victims of the situation, I would very much appreciate it if you people would let this go. I am having a hard enough time getting over it, and when people keep bringing it up all my sadness and depression comes back. Please, I beg you, LET IT GO, for the sake of my sanity.

 

[Nobody Special]

Eve dear.. I would be more then happy to answer all of your questions to that situation.. but I don't want to lay it all out on the table here at lit.. yes there are a few bad memories and a few good ones.. and yes I have forgiven her and I'm still talking to her too dispite some advice I was given from a freind here on lit... but contact me either aol or email and i will explain it all to you.. one on one OK thank you Eve I know you will be surprised too..