Why do older men become bi-curious?

[OldnCurious]

There are many factors to why, but I blame it on the age of the Internet.

 

[Crios]

Bi side submerged

For me, I think I subconsciously pushed those thoughts down for many years. When I was younger, I'm ashamed to say I bought into the homophobia that many of my friends displayed. At the same time, I'd been wearing my mom's stockings and garters. Not only that but when I was in my teens and early 20's, I was flexible enough to be able to suck my own cock and let go directly in my mouth.

So, 45 years later I'm still happily married but I find outlets for my "other" side through forums, chats and generally watching porn when my wife isn't around.

Maybe as we get older we realize we missed out on all life has to offer and are now able to experience those things we never could?

Just my ramblings

 

[muycurioso]

In a word -- lonliness

being alone and lonely prob helps. Some human touch, everyone needs human touch. and a curiosity of what she feels and does.

 

[muycurioso]

my expensive roommate just didn't like me

i think as men get older especially in their 40's as in my case often men get almost doses of estrogen were we see the development of boobs almost; and one could say that when we see men who are not necessarily heavy but have some breast development that they prob. have gay/bi tendencies. This is an unlocked erogenous zone to the prob. already discovered prostate..

https://xhamster.com/videos/horny-and-playing-around-12985902

this compounded by the sexless marriage; where the wife is now an expensive roommate.

She split, took the kids, and is happy as can be. I just had my first "date" with a woman today, 5 months since break up. It went well, I think. Hopefully she will want another.

 

[tmmmbrrr]

She split, took the kids, and is happy as can be. I just had my first "date" with a woman today, 5 months since break up. It went well, I think. Hopefully she will want another.

Good on you, Muycurioso. Good Luck with that.

 

[Valendon]

I've been bi since late adolescence. I wrestled with "being a lesbian" (read: deviant, abnormal, shameful,sinful in the language of the 60s) but got over it pretty quickly by balancing the delights of my girl lover against the stereotype. I was lucky enough to have encouragement of my older sister and some progressive sex books too.

Now I'm in my 60s, still actively bi, and watching as a couple of male lovers have experimented with casting off some of the cultural overlays that define sexuality.

Nature or nurture? Probably both, IMHO.

I think sexuality is a sliding scale, not a binary, hard-wired sort of thing.

And I think culture has an enormous role in whether or not people acknowledge sexual inclinations outside of culturally assigned traditions.

I've shared that thought with the guys in my age demographic I've seen for the past decade or so. (There haven't been very many, btw.) I let them know early that bi. None of them have gone running off!

When we're comfortable with each other to watch some porn, I'll ask in a theoretical sort of way if they'd ever consider sharing a cock with me. I never make it an obligation--I just let them know that if it ever came up I'd be OK with it.

What I hear back is that they never would have even considered it in the past, but that they might.

So coming back to the original question "why older guys turn bi" I think maybe age brings wisdom, and that guys are finding their way on the hetero-homo scale with less influence from cultural tradition.

Anyway, my current SO has found his way from "No way Jose" rugged Viet Nam vet to letting a guy blow him, and finally to tag-teaming a guy with me! Love it!

After posting this, I dusted off the keyboard and wrote a story about one of the guys from his persepctive. He says it pretty much tracks his frame of mind:

https://literotica.com/s/bi-one-get-two-free

 

[76fellow48]

I am a 64 y/o mwm and, over the last few years, I have become more and more bi-curious. In email exchanges with other men around my age, I have found that well over half of them are experiencing the same thinh. Is this a common phenomenon?

A long time ago, a good friend of mine told me that he was bi. About four years later, he informed me that he was gay. I asked him as to why. His reply, "It is a lot easier and with less hassles."

I will add another, also it is the numbers. Females are getting fewer and fewer who see themselves as sexual beings as they age. Sex, for all of us, is primarily in the realm of sense of touch. When I was much younger, we guys even considered knotholes in trees as "viable". The problem with those knotholes is that they do not respond like another human being. We all want the physical contact from another human being. With the diminishing numbers, men find other men more "tractable". Also, they are kindred spirits.

"Be yourself" is one of the best adages, I think, that works best.

 

[little cletus]

I don’t have a good answer. All I know is that if I found myself not married in the future I would definitely be sucking cock and taking dick. I’m just less concerned with definitions and more concerned with what excites me and feels good. As much as I love eating pussy, sucking dick sounds pretty great too.

 

[PersonalFavors]

I am a 64 y/o mwm and, over the last few years, I have become more and more bi-curious. In email exchanges with other men around my age, I have found that well over half of them are experiencing the same thinh. Is this a common phenomenon?

I became curious in my 20's. Aside form a 11yr old jerk off with a friend never thought about it much. In my 20's and a dry spell I was curious as horny as I was, was anybody else. Never found a way to find out.

Another dryspell in my 40's I noticed on a website while browsing for pussy there were a lot of dick pics looking at my profile.

I could not believe how stiff my prick was. I finally found a friend that had the same idea as I did. Not a bi or gay label just a tug for tug because it is better when someone else causes it for you.

We gave each other head. First visit.

Now 15 years later I still feel the same way. My girl gives a boring blow job and doesn't finish.

Massage places are costly. Finding a like minded friend and a place to play in secret are equally difficult tasks. As I get older anyone that seems interested always seems to ask if you are top or bottom.

When I answer no they go away.

 

[tristantrotsky]

Take The Opportunity When It Comes...

I’m in my mid 40s and am bi. I’ve been curious since I was a teenager….I sucked off my best friend in college).
My bi curiosity has gotten stronger with age.
My wife has a decent sex drove, but there is something exceedingly attractive about a guy friend with a hard cock
I’m not into single time hook ups.
Thankfully there is gentleman within an hours drove who has similar feelings

Why waste time pondering the question why older men become bi-curious?
Just be thankful and grateful that they do...

 

[Hotpassion66]

It seems that when we get to be older we/I am more relaxed around hot sexy men. Trust me if I get a chance I would suck and fuck a nice hunk.

 

[nakedworld]

Why waste time pondering the question why older men become bi-curious?
Just be thankful and grateful that they do...

Well said !

 

[slojenniferfizz]

I've been bi since late adolescence. I wrestled with "being a lesbian" (read: deviant, abnormal, shameful,sinful in the language of the 60s) but got over it pretty quickly by balancing the delights of my girl lover against the stereotype. I was lucky enough to have encouragement of my older sister and some progressive sex books too.

Now I'm in my 60s, still actively bi, and watching as a couple of male lovers have experimented with casting off some of the cultural overlays that define sexuality.

Nature or nurture? Probably both, IMHO.

I think sexuality is a sliding scale, not a binary, hard-wired sort of thing.

And I think culture has an enormous role in whether or not people acknowledge sexual inclinations outside of culturally assigned traditions.

I've shared that thought with the guys in my age demographic I've seen for the past decade or so. (There haven't been very many, btw.) I let them know early that bi. None of them have gone running off!

When we're comfortable with each other to watch some porn, I'll ask in a theoretical sort of way if they'd ever consider sharing a cock with me. I never make it an obligation--I just let them know that if it ever came up I'd be OK with it.

What I hear back is that they never would have even considered it in the past, but that they might.

So coming back to the original question "why older guys turn bi" I think maybe age brings wisdom, and that guys are finding their way on the hetero-homo scale with less influence from cultural tradition.

Anyway, my current SO has found his way from "No way Jose" rugged Viet Nam vet to letting a guy blow him, and finally to tag-teaming a guy with me! Love it!

Interesting!!

(I had to hunt for a bit to find this post. The one you mentioned in the Bi One, Get 2 Free story, right?

I haven't had any similar experiences yet, but I've never brought the subject up. Went through a time where I think word got around that I'd peg guys. That didn't last very long, and the three who sought me out were outspoken about "I'm not gay!"

You're a couple of decades ahead of me, so maybe I'll start seeing guys play bi before long? Sounds hot and fun to me! Don't see why guys shouldn't enjoy each other. Lord knows I have fun with lady lovers!!

 

[Sissy_Trish]

I am a 64 y/o mwm and,` over the last few years, I have become more and more bi-curious. In email exchanges with other men around my age, I have found that well over half of them are experiencing the same thinh. Is this a common phenomenon?

I think with our partners going through Menopause and not a lot of interest in intimacy on their part, we kind of look to other things. I have always dabbled in crossdressing and have been a part of that community for many years. I can say that the attraction to other crossdresser has been on the rise with me. I find them very attractive for sure.

Take for instance this cute thing I think she's a doll. I have a blog that features Crossdresser, Trans and Femboys. the link to the blog is in my signature. But yes I do think our tastes change with time and circumstances. I am at just a look and see and have remained faithful. I am able to enjoy wearing and having all frilly thing with out having to hid them so I really do not want to mess that up. But it is the focus of my "Alone Time" if you know what I mean.....do others kind of feel this way?

https://cdn012.bdsmlr.com/uploads/photos/2021/08/623870/bdsmlr-623870-FC3nGiybZJ.png

 

[Drgoldy2]

Same for me. I think about it often!!!

 

[Vitriolhack]

I think with our partners going through Menopause and not a lot of interest in intimacy on their part, we kind of look to other things. I have always dabbled in crossdressing and have been a part of that community for many years. I can say that the attraction to other crossdresser has been on the rise with me. I find them very attractive for sure.

Take for instance this cute thing I think she's a doll. I have a blog that features Crossdresser, Trans and Femboys. the link to the blog is in my signature. But yes I do think our tastes change with time and circumstances. I am at just a look and see and have remained faithful. I am able to enjoy wearing and having all frilly thing with out having to hid them so I really do not want to mess that up. But it is the focus of my "Alone Time" if you know what I mean.....do others kind of feel this way?

https://cdn012.bdsmlr.com/uploads/photos/2021/08/623870/bdsmlr-623870-FC3nGiybZJ.png

What a cute gurl.

 

[confort]

It has always been there

I fantasized for over 30yrs before finally trying it. Glad I finally took the plunge, no looking back.

 

[Vitriolhack]

I fantasized for over 30yrs before finally trying it. Glad I finally took the plunge, no looking back.

And how was it? Was it everything you fantasized about?

 

[Smoothshavendad]

Had an old friend from the teenage experimental days reach out recently to say he was moving back to the area. He hinted that he was anxious to reconnect and can’t wait to relive the good old days. I must admit that the idea is rather arousing.

 

[confort]

And how was it? Was it everything you fantasized about?

In my wildest imagination I never came close to how much I would enjoy sex with another man. One of the things that stopped me all those years is the fact that I don't find men attractive. It was always about the sex not the person. Once I overcame my fear and went for it, I was completely comfortable with what I was doing and who I was with in just a mater of seconds. Two years later it still continues to get better.

 

[Teddytiger]

Great to hear you have had a good experience Confort. Looking forward to taking the plunge when an opportunity presents itself.

 

[Vitriolhack]

Had an old friend from the teenage experimental days reach out recently to say he was moving back to the area. He hinted that he was anxious to reconnect and can’t wait to relive the good old days. I must admit that the idea is rather arousing.

Whoa, do you think he meant to say all of the good old days?

 

[Vitriolhack]

In my wildest imagination I never came close to how much I would enjoy sex with another man. One of the things that stopped me all those years is the fact that I don't find men attractive. It was always about the sex not the person. Once I overcame my fear and went for it, I was completely comfortable with what I was doing and who I was with in just a mater of seconds. Two years later it still continues to get better.

That is hot! Did you think of inking your history and thoughts about it?

 

[4nick8er]

57yo wm. Very curious

I'm a 57 yo wm who is very curious and ready to take the plunge. Looking for cocks suck and bottom

 

[confort]

That is hot! Did you think of inking your history and thoughts about it?

Thank you. I have actually, just haven't applied myself to it.