The beauty of submissive men

[ShyGuy1855]

Yes, you're right dommes can be caring and nurturing. Submissive men are oh my...so very lovely!

Aftercare is a necessity with me.

Ohh... Sounds wonderful!

 

[Veroe]

Its also good when a domme pushes a sub to explore a desire they may not have even known they had or may not have been willing to give voice before.

 

[ShyMaleSub]

Its also good when a domme pushes a sub to explore a desire they may not have even known they had or may not have been willing to give voice before.

That is where the Domme's desires come in. The mutual effort to meet another's desires in a way that combines them for intense pleasure is a beautiful thing.

 

[Veroe]

That is where the Domme's desires come in. The mutual effort to meet another's desires in a way that combines them for intense pleasure is a beautiful thing.

Absolutely agreed. That kind of symbiosis between them is always really fascinating to me.

 

[ShyMaleSub]

Absolutely agreed. That kind of symbiosis between them is always really fascinating to me.

Fascinating is a great description. It's what keeps my desire to submit so intense.

 

[WeepingSong]

I think for me, the joy of being a submissive man, is that my pleasure comes through external input, ie, someone telling me I've done something well. This means I'm eager to please, as I get validation through others' satisfaction, if that makes sense.

I'm also generally quite a confident person, so it's always a joy to find someone who can harness that, and use it for her own benefit!

 

[newhere2learn]

I think for me, the joy of being a submissive man, is that my pleasure comes through external input, ie, someone telling me I've done something well. This means I'm eager to please, as I get validation through others' satisfaction, if that makes sense.

I'm also generally quite a confident person, so it's always a joy to find someone who can harness that, and use it for her own benefit!

Interesting read. I'm a switch by nature so it depends upon my mood. My job & hobbies rely on me being in 100% control, so for me the switch element gives me a rush when she is in charge.

 

[Veroe]

Switches is another aspect of BDSM that fascinate me.

 

[4yourpleasureiam]

Forgive my intrusion into your thread.

 

[Erochic]

I think for me, the joy of being a submissive man, is that my pleasure comes through external input, ie, someone telling me I've done something well. This means I'm eager to please, as I get validation through others' satisfaction, if that makes sense.

I'm also generally quite a confident person, so it's always a joy to find someone who can harness that, and use it for her own benefit!

Ahh... There is nothing like a man who is wired to get satisfaction from pleasing. I have known a few men like that, and they are usually incredible lovers.

In another thread I coined the term "active pleaser", which really seems to fit better than submissive or bottom.

 

[Erochic]

Funny in a sad sort of way. I wanted a woman to take me for so long but none would, Now I have found a man to dominate me. We used to play and take turns but slowly he has groomed me and taken away my last vestiges of pride. The thing is I can count on him where I never felt that before. At times he drives me to the edge but he is there, Isn't that what counts?

Forgive my intrusion into your thread.

Intrude away

I didn't really include same sex BDSM relationships here because I really don't know anything about that.
I am bisexual, but my dynamic with another woman tends to be mostly egalitarian - I don't desire to dominate a woman, instead I am very gentle.

But thank you for sharing your experience, and how you've moved from wanting to be dominated by a woman to your experiences with a man.

 

[newhere2learn]

Switches is another aspect of BDSM that fascinate me.

How so?

Its awesome being one to be fair. One day, her on all fours doing all you command... The next, strap on out and you're her slut to abuse.

Dependent completely upon ones mood however.

 

[WeepingSong]

Ahh... There is nothing like a man who is wired to get satisfaction from pleasing. I have known a few men like that, and they are usually incredible lovers.

In another thread I coined the term "active pleaser", which really seems to fit better than submissive or bottom.

Active pleaser. I like that. Although I do like being told what to do to please someone, and then doing everything I can to get their approval, so I guess there's a lot of crossover between submissive and active pleaser.

And as for whether being an active please makes me an incredible lover...well that's not really for me to say!

 

[Erochic]

Well I'm getting back into exploring things with my FWBs/subs.

Both lovely men - although one is turning out to be more of an active pleaser than a sub.... But that's okay because it's all still so enjoyable at the end.

I realised that I felt a bit of a void with the guy who is more submissive. I guess I was finding it a bit hard to get inside his head and to know what he really wanted - I mean I'm having fun and getting pampered and he seems to be enjoying himself, but I ended up feeling a bit uncreative and unsure.

I decided that he needs to open up to me more.

 

[HardCaramel]

Erochic, that sounds pretty great. I've found that as someone who is looking to explore his sub side there are many Domme's who are out there looking to feminize and inflict pain. For me the desire is to be wanted and wanting to please and knowing that I can.

I can get off on pleasing her most times! You have some very lucky subs.

 

[tanyachrs]

I posted another attempt at non stereotypical femdom but more upbeat and with more sex. Still getting killed in the ratings though. Do there really have to be spankings and leather boots for it to be hot? Ugh. Discouraged.

http://www.literotica.com/stories/showstory.php?url=my-manda

 

[ARoseSoSweet]

I posted another attempt at non stereotypical femdom but more upbeat and with more sex. Still getting killed in the ratings though. Do there really have to be spankings and leather boots for it to be hot? Ugh. Discouraged.

http://www.literotica.com/stories/showstory.php?url=my-manda

Its coming up as the newest story in BDSM... it will take some time

 

[ShyMaleSub]

I posted another attempt at non stereotypical femdom but more upbeat and with more sex. Still getting killed in the ratings though. Do there really have to be spankings and leather boots for it to be hot? Ugh. Discouraged.

http://www.literotica.com/stories/showstory.php?url=my-manda

I just read that story today. It's great. Gives an excellent perspective of a willing but uncertain sub with a strong, caring Domme. Well done.

 

[Erochic]

I posted another attempt at non stereotypical femdom but more upbeat and with more sex. Still getting killed in the ratings though. Do there really have to be spankings and leather boots for it to be hot? Ugh. Discouraged.

http://www.literotica.com/stories/showstory.php?url=my-manda

I never usually read or look at any femdom porn or erotica because there is usually nothing there for me.

So those people who would really enjoy your story have probably already been discouraged from even opening it in the first place.

There certainly does need to be a wider range of what is hot.. And what being a Domme is all about.

I for one am going to go over and read it and vote it up, and I urge that others do too.

 

[Donnacdme69]

Don't leave love out.

I'm new to this so forgive me if this is repetative. I went back and read the first post and totally agree with the thought. Whatever is done between 2 people for pleasure in a relationship should be done out of Love. I am the boss at work and people spend all day trying to please me so when I get home it's a nice change to be able to please someone else. I don't want to be called a worm or worthless but I don't mind being bent over and spanked not because I've done anything wrong, just because it pleases us both. A strong woman who knows what she wants and isn't afraid to express it in a loving, forceful, dominant way is very pleasant and acceptable in my book. Thanks for the thread.

 

[Erochic]

I posted another attempt at non stereotypical femdom but more upbeat and with more sex. Still getting killed in the ratings though. Do there really have to be spankings and leather boots for it to be hot? Ugh. Discouraged.

http://www.literotica.com/stories/showstory.php?url=my-manda

Oh my fucking god! It's so hot!
I'm at work and I just moaned a little - oops- ... And I haven't even finished reading yet.

Yes!! This is what I like!
A lot of it's what I do and what really gets me off .... Damn have you been watching me? Oh yes... Taking my pleasure, loving it when he grabs me and pulls me more onto his face, not letting him move as I enjoy myself ... And knowing that he wants to.

And I got some more nice ideas for teasing too

Whew!

Edit: Oh damn! I'm posting on my phone and I couldn't figure out how to vote properly and I put a low vote. Please go and vote it up for me!!

 

[Veroe]

I posted another attempt at non stereotypical femdom but more upbeat and with more sex. Still getting killed in the ratings though. Do there really have to be spankings and leather boots for it to be hot? Ugh. Discouraged.

http://www.literotica.com/stories/showstory.php?url=my-manda

I liked it. I really like the real life normal day kinda perspective it gave on a relationship between domme and sub.

 

[Wild_Honey_66]

I posted another attempt at non stereotypical femdom but more upbeat and with more sex. Still getting killed in the ratings though. Do there really have to be spankings and leather boots for it to be hot? Ugh. Discouraged.

http://www.literotica.com/stories/showstory.php?url=my-manda

I just read that story today. It's great. Gives an excellent perspective of a willing but uncertain sub with a strong, caring Domme. Well done.

I never usually read or look at any femdom porn or erotica because there is usually nothing there for me.

So those people who would really enjoy your story have probably already been discouraged from even opening it in the first place.

There certainly does need to be a wider range of what is hot.. And what being a Domme is all about.

I for one am going to go over and read it and vote it up, and I urge that others do too.

Oh my fucking god! It's so hot!
I'm at work and I just moaned a little - oops- ... And I haven't even finished reading yet.

Yes!! This is what I like!
A lot of it's what I do and what really gets me off .... Damn have you been watching me? Oh yes... Taking my pleasure, loving it when he grabs me and pulls me more onto his face, not letting him move as I enjoy myself ... And knowing that he wants to.

And I got some more nice ideas for teasing too

Whew!

Edit: Oh damn! I'm posting on my phone and I couldn't figure out how to vote properly and I put a low vote. Please go and vote it up for me!!

sounds like it's worth a read. I don't usually bother much with the stories, either, but if my girl Erochic likes it then I'd better have a look.

 

[Erochic]

sounds like it's worth a read. I don't usually bother much with the stories, either, but if my girl Erochic likes it then I'd better have a look.

I kind of feel worried that my sub wrote it Because it's so close to what I enjoy doing
Umm... Yeah I like the story a lot

 

[Veroe]

Oh my fucking god! It's so hot!
I'm at work and I just moaned a little - oops- ... And I haven't even finished reading yet.

Yes!! This is what I like!
A lot of it's what I do and what really gets me off .... Damn have you been watching me? Oh yes... Taking my pleasure, loving it when he grabs me and pulls me more onto his face, not letting him move as I enjoy myself ... And knowing that he wants to.

And I got some more nice ideas for teasing too

Whew!

Edit: Oh damn! I'm posting on my phone and I couldn't figure out how to vote properly and I put a low vote. Please go and vote it up for me!!

I am always turned on when voluntary restraints are used.

It reminded me of one of the hottest scenes I remember reading in a book. Where the domme as a punishment had the sub strip and lie down on a couch and reach up and grab the arm of the sofa. Nothing is keeping his hands there but her command and his will to obey. Then she pulls her panties down and mounts his cock still clothed so he doesn't get to see her as she uses him for her pleasure. She tells him that his punishment is that he doesn't get to cum. That she wants him to suffer hanging on the edge. That she wants him to spend the rest of the day hard and aching for her. It gets to the point where he has to come and she lets him only when he agrees to accept wearing a buttplug for the first time as a penalty.

That was from my favorite erotica writer, Joey Hill, the one that opened my eyes on BDSM too.