Let's talk about women and edging

Cross posted from the pussy spanking thread on this forum.

I like that he worked with his sub to control /deny her orgasms with edging and incorporated pain and pleasure as she learned how to be an obedient sub.
LOL, this thread reminds me of a sweet submissive girl I met here after responding to her personal ad seeking an online Dom to give her the special attention she so desperately needed. We enjoyed a great time online together for several months before eventually going our separate ways.

When I first got to know her it turned out that she was already prone to chronically masturbating (just like so many of you other kinky sluts here, lol.) So at first I was challenged at how to best shift her sexual focus and arousal from pursuing her own selfish pleasures and indulgences to focusing and responding selflessly to mine.

To be clear, there was nothing "wrong" with what she was doing previously, but her penchant for so frequently pleasuring herself to orgasm wasn't aligned with her enthusiastic desire to submit to my Male authority for her pleasure, nor my desire for her to seek it there. So I put this sweet horny thing on an orgasm diet and limited her to edging herself silly to her heart's content as long as she didn't cum without my permission.

She quickly discovered, on her own initiative, that I enjoyed hearing the vocal and other sounds of her edging-related arousal. So I was able to listen to everything she experienced, albeit in delayed fashion.

So I learned fairly quickly that she was often surfing really close to the edge of orgasm—dangerously close—because she didn't have sufficient previous experience to know where the actual edge of her orgasm limits were. It was increasingly obvious to me that the more she edged and denied herself for me, the more of an submissive ticking orgasmic time bomb she was becoming.

In edging session after edging session (yeah, I prescribed a lot of those, lol) she kept pushing herself closer and closer until she was literally a hot gasping incoherent mess. "Please Daddy" and "Good girls don't cum without permission" became her alternating mantras and she repeated them over and over as though in a trance, which I suppose in hindsight was probably the case for her.

It was quite arousing really. For both of us. But being the considerate Good Dom that I am, I knew I had to do something to help her control herself. She really wanted to deny herself for me, and she also really wanted to cum for herself, and it was diabolically arousing to hear her cycle back and forth between her breathless pleading desperation for both.

So I told her I'd help her control herself. I explained that going forward, when she felt she was getting close to the edge she was to immediately STOP edging her needy clit, and instead firmly spank her cunt with loud open-handed slaps until the urge to cum passed. The objective, I explained, was to temporarily replace the pleasure of masturbating with the sharp stinging painful punishment of spanking her most tender lady bits until the urge to cum receded... and then she could begin edging again.

Pleasure, then pain, then pleasure, then pain, and so on. All administered by her own hand, alternately pleasing herself and then suffering for my enjoyment. She was such a good girl for so bravely trying and working hard for me to that end. I was so proud of her.

That's when we both discovered that the sensations and sounds of spanking her own denied cunt when already aroused were even more arousing to her than rubbing her throbbing needy clit was before that. She tipped over the edge so fucking fast it was almost like she'd been shocked with electricity. The sensual orgasmic sounds she made, the surprise in the incomprehensible gibberish she uttered, and the clear disappointment she felt in herself afterwards for failing to maintain control were priceless.

I think I still have that audio around somewhere. Few things make a dom/domme who's into orgasm control happier than a sub who's sincerely sorry and remorseful for failing to control themselves and cumming without permission by their own hand. It's a tender moment, lol.

Anyway, after that self-inflicted cunt spanking and pussy slapping for this sweet girl were doled out as rewards and incentive towards orgasm. Because they were abject failures at deterrents or punishment lol. There's something special and quite adorable about an eager denied sub who will enthusiastically spread her tender thighs and eagerly spank herself silly until she inevitably orgasms from the sensations, sounds, and associated humiliation of the act.

On a side note, it's kind of funny how so many of you submissive sluts will orgasm so fuckin' easily from pussy spanking—and so quickly too—if your Dom/Domme does it to you or makes you do it to yourselves while we watch. But when left to your own devices and whims it seldom seems to be your preferred method of self-satisfaction. You're such interesting feminine creatures that way!

Feel free to prove me wrong though pets. And be sure to report back when you're done too! 🤪
Anyone else have experiences with these kinds of edging techniques?
 
When I edge my submissive, I’m not just teasing her but reminding her who owns her pleasure. I take her right to the edge, feel their whole body straining, desperate for release, and then I pull it away. I love hearing the frustration in her voice, the way she begs, the way her hips move like she is chasing what I’ve denied her. Every second I hold her there, trembling and aching, makes her need sharper, her surrender deeper. When I finally decide she has earned it, the orgasm hits her so hard it feels like I’ve broken her apart and that’s exactly the point of an edging session.
The bolded bits especially resonate.
For whatever weird reason I seem to be wired like this. My subby brain loves giving over my pleasure control to my D. I want/need to have it be connected to him. Pushing me into deeper submission and surrender. Feeling how my sexuality is tied into his desires. My needs wired to his pleasure. Pain and pleasure, denial and release intertwined and controlled creating that twisted connection that I crave and my body responds to more and more over time.

Of course none of this works without trust. Unless I know he is playing with me within a rubric of trust/love I can't lean into submission and submit to his control. Once we have that though, I seem to crave increasing levels of depravity to whatever depths he devices.
 
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The folded bits especially resonate.
For whatever weird reason I seem to be wired like this. My subby brain loves giving over my pleasure control to my D. I want/need to have it be connected to him. Pushing me into deeper submission and surrender. Feeling how my sexuality is tied into his desires. My needs wired to his pleasure. Pain and pleasure, denial and release intertwined and controlled creating that twisted connection that I crave and my body responds to more and more over time.

Of course none of this works without trust. Unless I know he is playing with me within a rubric of trust/love I can't lean into submission and submit to his control. Once we have that though, I seem to crave increasing levels of depravity to whatever depths he devices.
I agree with you 100% cascadia. For me it is the constant, underlying element of trust that takes that bond to the deepest level. The complementary needs that your denial enhances His pleasure forms a symbiotic relationship as you spiral into a crushing response to each other.
 
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