Let's talk about women and edging

[cascadiabound]

One more occurred to me in the gym: anxiety can tamp down an impending orgasm. As in, whisper in her ear that you're going to [something not loved] to her, or something as mundane as waving up paddle in front of her face or the like.

The mind is the biggest sex organ. A D (or PYL) who knows their s (or pyl) well can use that knowledge to either amp them up and intensify the edge or undermine their impending orgasm or creating ruin by whispering the right words or giving them visual stimuli that pulls them out of that rising arousal.

The key to successful edging might be summed up as:

"Know thy submissive"

 

[SirSparky]

I suppose I could go and play on my Sybian for a while.

You are so naughty

 

[cascadiabound]

Cross posted from the Tasks for Inexperienced Subs thread.
Hopefully you don't mind @UsuallyPresent

Edge for, say, 5 or 10 minutes every even hour while awake. No orgasm allowed! Adjust timing to match opportunity & environment. Require notification of successful completion - text messages talking around it or other more-or-less secure alternatives. Can add to this - longer ‘warmup’ on waking before the day starts, for example, or as soon as they’re alone at night, depending on what you’re trying to instill.
[SNIP]
You may notice I’m big on reporting & rating. It’s just another way to exercise (‘sexercize’?) the imagination & libedo while also keeping track of the sub’s experience.

Anyone else have experience with this kind of edging on the hour or on a schedule with reporting to the D throughout the day?

Does this increase the intensity? connection? frustration?

Inquiring minds want to know!!

 

[KindredFlame]

Cross posted from the Tasks for Inexperienced Subs thread.
Hopefully you don't mind @UsuallyPresent


Anyone else have experience with this kind of edging on the hour or on a schedule with reporting to the D throughout the day?

Does this increase the intensity? connection? frustration?

Inquiring minds want to know!!

The soft glow of the living room lamp cast long shadows, making the world outside the window feel distant. Clara, curled on the plush armchair, a book forgotten in her lap, had just kicked off her heels, revealing a flash of silk beneath her dress as she stretched. Leo, leaning against the doorframe, a half-smile playing on his lips, had been watching her for a good minute before he spoke.

“I do like your purple knickers by the way,” he drawled, his voice a low rumble that cut through the quiet.

Clara’s breath hitched. Her eyes, wide and suddenly alert, met his. The words hung in the air, thick and potent, stripping away the polite veneer of their evening. She felt a jolt, a hot flush that started low in her belly and spilled through her veins. Her initial surprise morphed into something else – a slow, delicious heat, a familiar thrill that Leo, and only Leo, seemed capable of invoking.

He pushed off the doorframe, his gaze unwavering, hungry. “I wouldn’t mind pulling them down with my teeth and edge and rim you for an hour or so.”

Clara didn’t blush. She didn’t giggle. Instead, a slow, knowing smirk curved her lips. She uncurled from the chair, a sinuous movement, her eyes never leaving his. “Oh, wouldn't you, now?” she purred, her voice a low counterpoint to his, laced with a dare. “And what makes you think you'd get an hour?”

Leo closed the distance between them in three long strides, stopping just an inch away, close enough for her to feel the warmth radiating from his body, the subtle scent of his aftershave mingling with the wine still lingering on their breaths. His hands didn't reach for her immediately. Instead, his thumb brushed lightly against the silk of her dress, right where the vibrant purple fabric of her knickers was just visible beneath.

“I have a feeling,” he murmured, his voice now a low growl that vibrated through her, “I'd make every minute count.”

Clara’s breath caught again. The book slid forgotten to the floor, her purple knickers, and all the delicious promises they held, suddenly the sole focus of their universe. She leaned into him, a silent consent, a fervent challenge.

“Prove it,” she whispered, her eyes dark with desire, and then her lips met his, a wildfire igniting in the quiet room.
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Ok I have made light of the subject but quite often the idea of something happening as in the snippet of a story can make the experience all the more enjoyable and exciting, I have found

 

[cascadiabound]

I do like your purple knickers by the way. I wouldn’t mine pulling them down with my teeth and edge and rim you for an hour or so.

Appreciate the compliment. However, I am not bi and I would prefer this thread remain on topic and not devolve into pick up opportunities. Thanks

 

[KindredFlame]

Sorry it was ment as an addition to the thread indicating length of time one could be edged hoping it would encourage comment. From others. Badly phrased.

I have therefore changed the post totally but remain chastised.

 

[cascadiabound]

Sorry it was ment as an addition to the thread indicating length of time one could be edged hoping it would encourage comment. From others. Badly phrased.

Not a problem. So grateful for your contributions so far.

So would you say that using a combination of oral edging and rimming for an extended period of time (an hour or more) has been an effective way to tease?

I find an extensive oral session makes me pretty sensitive and if my D wants to continue, I'll need to be restrained wide open making the edging session tip into edging torture.

 

[KindredFlame]

Because of the nerve ending in the whole area I feel the two go together well and as I say in the revised post the anticipation of an event can heighten the sensation of the event. In reality though having a man that are inherently lazy in this area go down on you or I for an hour or two is highly unlikely.

So a mixture of sensory missions are need to be used to prolong the event and make one’s own enjoyment far more rewarding. If you get my drift.

 

[cascadiabound]

Because of the nerve ending in the whole area I feel the two go together well and as I say in the revised post the anticipation of an event can heighten the sensation of the event. In reality though having a man that are inherently lazy in this area go down on you or I for an hour or two is highly unlikely.

So a mixture of sensory missions are need to be used to prolong the event and make one’s own enjoyment far more rewarding. If you get my drift.

It does seem to be a minority of men who genuinely love providing extensive oral worship/edging to a woman, but they definitely do exist. (thank the gods)

 

[KindredFlame]

It does seem to be a minority of men who genuinely love providing extensive oral worship/edging to a woman, but they definitely do exist. (thank the gods)

Oh yes men god bless their little abused Johnson’s, unfortunately men are in the main programmed towards procreation just like animals it is the goal to get their seed into a woman’s womb with the least amount of effort on their part. Women are built for a more sensual experience of love making and foreplay to be aroused before the often boring bit. However this is just my opinion and I am not anti men I can assure you I use them quite often but as for keeping them no chance.

 

[cascadiabound]

Oh yes men god bless their little abused Johnson’s, unfortunately men are in the main programmed towards procreation just like animals it is the goal to get their seed into a woman’s womb with the least amount of effort on their part. Women are built for a more sensual experience of love making and foreplay to be aroused before the often boring bit. However this is just my opinion and I am not anti men I can assure you I use them quite often but as for keeping them no chance.

Maybe this thread can help educate them to the joys and thrills of properly edging a woman to absolute distraction. I hope so.

 

[KindredFlame]

May I ask. I assume you partake in edging? If I am correct and you have a man who is willing to spend the time and effort to help you in this. How do you get him to stop when you need to thus prolonging the experience until its climax.

 

[cascadiabound]

May I ask. I assume you partake in edging? If I am correct and you have a man who is willing to spend the time and effort to help you in this. How do you get him to stop when you need to thus prolonging the experience until its climax.

It's a question of learning each other's bodies. Initially you may have to tell him that you are close so he can decide to either let you orgasm/push you to orgasm, or stop and de-escalate the arousal to prolong the edge.
Others in this thread have discussed the effectiveness of administering a sharp spank (especially to the pussy), or the right words which switch the brain to a lower level of arousal.

It may be useful to start to make a distinction between
1) edging which is used to prolong a sexual encounter/scene, where edging is used to control one or more, but the goal is for at least one person to climax
and
2) edging that is part of an ongoing lifestyle and used to enhance, enforce, encourage a power exchange relationship where one person controls the other person's orgasms, arousal level, etc. There are probably as many different reasons to do this as there are couples who practice it. In my mind the chief benefits are building/maintaining that connection, using edging as a tangible form of control which can be exerted in person or at a distance. Connecting one person's sexual release to the other person's desires, whims or etc and/or using edging as a tool to elicit other desired behaviors whatever the goals might be between them.

And maybe...
3) not cumming without permission. which may or may not be connected to edging, but often is, in my mind

http://31.media.tumblr.com/94bf21e1d0ab83b284590237a3e59130/tumblr_myuazuLEMD1sh7wkbo1_400.jpg

Anyone have any thoughts about these distinctions? Would you frame it differently? Do you want one, two or all three of the above?

 

[KindredFlame]

Are you a teacher by any chance.

Edging a man can be fun to watch him strain to cpkeepmfrom exploding is exquisite. I have a friend, let’s call him Dave the dogger. His name is Dave and he loves dogging but I digress. He has a beautiful cock. I can honestly say that next to my glass dildo he has one of the most beautiful cocks I have ever seen. It is not massive just under 8 inches long and an inch and a half to two inches girth. What makes it so beautiful in my eyes is it and he who is attached to it can go for hours without organising and making a mess on the bed sheets. He takes rest brakes during these sexual activities but instead of just standing back he will use the break to bring the women back close to orgasm before he returns for his pleasure to be continued. If he dose cum he has never just rolled over and gon to sleep he will once again return to the women’s needs until he is able to return his cock to action, slso he loves having a blow job after ejaculation where a lot of men can not stand this.

 

[cascadiabound]

Are you a teacher by any chance.

I do not have a degree in education, but I have always been a teacher, though not in a traditional classroom setting

 

[Mrtenant]

Predicament edging. @cascadiabound, lead us off darling.

 

[sexybeast03]

Oh yes men god bless their little abused Johnson’s, unfortunately men are in the main programmed towards procreation just like animals it is the goal to get their seed into a woman’s womb with the least amount of effort on their part. Women are built for a more sensual experience of love making and foreplay to be aroused before the often boring bit. However this is just my opinion and I am not anti men I can assure you I use them quite often but as for keeping them no chance.

While that may be true, there is nothing that turns me on more than making my partner cum. To see her face, hear her ragged breath just when she is about to cum. I love to tease and keep it going. It's so sensual it almost makes me cum myself without touching.

 

[cascadiabound]

Predicament edging. @cascadiabound, lead us off darling.

Predicament edging is what I have begun to call some of the edging assignments my devious daddy Dom has given me lately. He has noticed that I have been fairly cerebral about edging. He decided that he wanted to lean into that. He knows I tend to overthink a bit and he gives me tasks to push me past and through that.
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Choices: All your choices lead to something, even if you choose not to participate- that is still a choice. What that destination is, is often unknown. Also, it has often been said, the destination is not the point, it is the journey. Let's see if that is true.

Today, your choices are-
1. participate or not.
2. Go without a bra or go without panties for the day.
3. Wear tiny hair bands around your nipples or carry one of your vibes in your purse- pulling it out in at least 2 of your destinations as you appear to look for something
4. Every two hours today, play with your nipples - pull, tug, flick, twist, lick, suck, bite, or vibe your pussy for 5-10 minutes.
5. If you fail in number 4, you accumulate 10 spanks on your pussy or ass with a wooden spoon (my choice)
6. If you fail more than 3 times, you lose all your spanks
7. If you succeed, then I will give you a task to complete later this evening.

Report to me every two hours. This assignment will last approximately 10 hours. Include a picture. Passion is important. It shows dedication and quality. So much of today is cerebral, that is intentional. Perhaps today, we find out if passion is stronger. We find out how failure can be defined. In this assignment, there is no failure, even if you choose not to participate.

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When I first read this assignment I just had no words. I had no idea how I could balance all of the requirements alongside my busy day with appointments and a lot of errands and things that had to get done.

 

[cascadiabound]

So... here is a little report on the choices I made. A little on how it went.

Choices:

Today, your choices are-
1. participate or not.

Participate. It really didn't occur to me to opt out entirely. It's not who I am. It's not in my subby nature.

2. Go without a bra or go without panties for the day.

Without panties for the day. Mostly because I had a scheduled cardio circuit training and I could not imagine doing that sans bra.

3. Wear tiny hair bands around your nipples or carry one of your vibes in your purse- pulling it out in at least 2 of your destinations as you appear to look for something

Initially I didn't understand this choice was about visibly showing my slutty subby nature in some way. The choice being - obviously hard nipples, made extra erect with bands all day so they poked through my clothes.... OR have to pull my vibe out in public at least twice as I went about my errands.
My choice was to wear the bands.

4. Every two hours today, play with your nipples - pull, tug, flick, twist, lick, suck, bite, or vibe your pussy for 5-10 minutes.

This required a lot of planning on my part. What time to start the clock exactly so that I would be somewhere I could actually perform the edging task every 2 hours. He did give me leeway of up to 10 minutes prior or after the 2 hour interval. To keep on task, I set a timer on my phone to count down 2 hours. Having a timer running ALL the time really intensified the edge assignment. I really am a cerebral girl.

5. If you fail in number 4, you accumulate 10 spanks on your pussy or ass with a wooden spoon (my choice)
6. If you fail more than 3 times, you lose all your spanks

I failed one time. which he told me he rather expected given the complexity of my day. I think this was intentional. A way to help me learn that failure is not really a failure. That's super hard for me.

7. If you succeed, then I will give you a task to complete later this evening.

Report to me every two hours.

I did report to him timely every 2 hours. He liked the way this element reinforced my submissiveness to him.

It was a very intense day. Devious. Diabolical. And the edging continues...

 

[KindredFlame]

While that may be true, there is nothing that turns me on more than making my partner cum. To see her face, hear her ragged breath just when she is about to cum. I love to tease and keep it going. It's so sensual it almost makes me cum myself without touching.

That’s fantastic. I understand where you are coming from on the without touching part. Tantric Sex I think it’s called. And if the mind is connected to sex in the way of it controls a large part of it then this could be a form of edging. Dose that make sense?

 

[SirSparky]

So... here is a little report on the choices I made. A little on how it went.

Participate. It really didn't occur to me to opt out entirely. It's not who I am. It's not in my subby nature.

Without panties for the day. Mostly because I had a scheduled cardio circuit training and I could not imagine doing that sans bra.

Initially I didn't understand this choice was about visibly showing my slutty subby nature in some way. The choice being - obviously hard nipples, made extra erect with bands all day so they poked through my clothes.... OR have to pull my vibe out in public at least twice as I went about my errands.
My choice was to wear the bands.

This required a lot of planning on my part. What time to start the clock exactly so that I would be somewhere I could actually perform the edging task every 2 hours. He did give me leeway of up to 10 minutes prior or after the 2 hour interval. To keep on task, I set a timer on my phone to count down 2 hours. Having a timer running ALL the time really intensified the edge assignment. I really am a cerebral girl.

I failed one time. which he told me he rather expected given the complexity of my day. I think this was intentional. A way to help me learn that failure is not really a failure. That's super hard for me.

I did report to him timely every 2 hours. He liked the way this element reinforced my submissiveness to him.

It was a very intense day. Devious. Diabolical. And the edging continues...

I loved reading about your choices and what choices you made. That is something I definitely want to try when I next have a sub

 

[CaptCharles]

Cross posted from the Tasks for Inexperienced Subs thread.
Hopefully you don't mind @UsuallyPresent


Anyone else have experience with this kind of edging on the hour or on a schedule with reporting to the D throughout the day?

Does this increase the intensity? connection? frustration?

Inquiring minds want to know!!

Yes, it works very well ... the time element. Especially a countdown timer she has to watch is even more effective.

process...
Every 30mins (for 5 hours), she had a 5 min timer to watch on her phone counting down, while using a painter's brush on her clit.
We added a random number roll to set in that 5 mins where a number of mins was slow / the other fast. She edged each time.

By the last hours, she was begging to cum.

 

[CaptCharles]

So... here is a little report on the choices I made. A little on how it went.

Participate. It really didn't occur to me to opt out entirely. It's not who I am. It's not in my subby nature.

Without panties for the day. Mostly because I had a scheduled cardio circuit training and I could not imagine doing that sans bra.

Initially I didn't understand this choice was about visibly showing my slutty subby nature in some way. The choice being - obviously hard nipples, made extra erect with bands all day so they poked through my clothes.... OR have to pull my vibe out in public at least twice as I went about my errands.
My choice was to wear the bands.

This required a lot of planning on my part. What time to start the clock exactly so that I would be somewhere I could actually perform the edging task every 2 hours. He did give me leeway of up to 10 minutes prior or after the 2 hour interval. To keep on task, I set a timer on my phone to count down 2 hours. Having a timer running ALL the time really intensified the edge assignment. I really am a cerebral girl.

I failed one time. which he told me he rather expected given the complexity of my day. I think this was intentional. A way to help me learn that failure is not really a failure. That's super hard for me.

I did report to him timely every 2 hours. He liked the way this element reinforced my submissiveness to him.

It was a very intense day. Devious. Diabolical. And the edging continues...

Very good parameters and the established timer sets your task. If not opens you up to losing something you wanted.

 

[sexybeast03]

That’s fantastic. I understand where you are coming from on the without touching part. Tantric Sex I think it’s called. And if the mind is connected to sex in the way of it controls a large part of it then this could be a form of edging. Dose that make sense?

Didn't know. Thanks for that, will look it more. It's very sensual

 

[KindredFlame]

Didn't know. Thanks for that, will look it more. It's very sensual

You are welcome.