Let's talk about women and edging

[sexybeast03]

So... here is a little report on the choices I made. A little on how it went.

...

It was a very intense day. Devious. Diabolical. And the edging continues...

omg amazing. Any others tried something similar?

 

[cascadiabound]

Reposting from earlier in the thread to see if we can keep the conversation going...

It may be useful to start to make a distinction between
1) edging which is used to prolong a sexual encounter/scene, where edging is used to control one or more, but the goal is for at least one person to climax
and
2) edging that is part of an ongoing lifestyle and used to enhance, enforce, encourage a power exchange relationship where one person controls the other person's orgasms, arousal level, etc. There are probably as many different reasons to do this as there are couples who practice it. In my mind the chief benefits are building/maintaining that connection, using edging as a tangible form of control which can be exerted in person or at a distance. Connecting one person's sexual release to the other person's desires, whims or etc and/or using edging as a tool to elicit other desired behaviors whatever the goals might be between them.

And maybe...
3) not cumming without permission. which may or may not be connected to edging, but often is, in my mind

http://31.media.tumblr.com/94bf21e1d0ab83b284590237a3e59130/tumblr_myuazuLEMD1sh7wkbo1_400.jpg

Anyone have any thoughts about these distinctions? Would you frame it differently? Do you want one, two or all three of the above?

 

[KindredFlame]

There is only so much a girl can take.

 

[cascadiabound]

There is only so much a girl can take.

How much do you think that is? Do you think different people have widely divergent abilities to tolerate edging?

Have you read @seela thread where she reports on/journals about edging and no- orgasm for a year? It's a very interesting read and piqued my curiosity about long term edging/control.

https://forum.literotica.com/threads/no-nut-19.1492685/

 

[KindredFlame]

How much do you think that is? Do you think different people have widely divergent abilities to tolerate edging?

Have you read @seela thread where she reports on/journals about edging and no- orgasm for a year? It's a very interesting read and piqued my curiosity about long term edging/control.

https://forum.literotica.com/threads/no-nut-19.1492685/

That is a tough one to answer. There are so many variables to consider. Moods, time of the month, energy level, skill of your partner. I don’t think there is a definitive answer.

 

[sexybeast03]

Has anyone had any experience with online edging. Meaning you get instructions from a stranger through the internet and has to follow them to the point?

 

[KindredFlame]

Has anyone had any experience with online edging. Meaning you get instructions from a stranger through the internet and has to follow them to the point?

Edging is not somthing online. It is a personal experience. In my opinion.

 

[SirSparky]

Edging is not somthing online. It is a personal experience. In my opinion.

I find that giving an order to a submissive to edge and not cum is pleases me because of the knowledge I know what the submissive is going through. The feelings and emotions of getting to the edge and then backing away and not falling over the edge into orgasm. If you know what I mean. Probably could have worded that better lol

 

[KindredFlame]

I find that giving an order to a submissive to edge and not cum is pleases me because of the knowledge I know what the submissive is going through. The feelings and emotions of getting to the edge and then backing away and not falling over the edge into orgasm. If you know what I mean. Probably could have worded that better lol

Yes but that is not edging. It’s you being a voyeur. And a bit of a master who has a masochistic tendencies

 

[SirSparky]

Yes but that is not edging. It’s you being a voyeur. And a bit of a master who has a masochistic tendencies

Its making her edge and denying her orgasm. Yes i can be masochistic and a sadistic Dom lol.

 

[KindredFlame]

I get that babe. But the act of edging is not what you are doing between the pair of you over the internet. Edging is what your partner is doing.

 

[SirSparky]

Yeah I get what you are saying too