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Reposting from earlier in the thread to see if we can keep the conversation going...

It may be useful to start to make a distinction between
1) edging which is used to prolong a sexual encounter/scene, where edging is used to control one or more, but the goal is for at least one person to climax
and
2) edging that is part of an ongoing lifestyle and used to enhance, enforce, encourage a power exchange relationship where one person controls the other person's orgasms, arousal level, etc. There are probably as many different reasons to do this as there are couples who practice it. In my mind the chief benefits are building/maintaining that connection, using edging as a tangible form of control which can be exerted in person or at a distance. Connecting one person's sexual release to the other person's desires, whims or etc and/or using edging as a tool to elicit other desired behaviors whatever the goals might be between them.

And maybe...
3) not cumming without permission. which may or may not be connected to edging, but often is, in my mind

http://31.media.tumblr.com/94bf21e1d0ab83b284590237a3e59130/tumblr_myuazuLEMD1sh7wkbo1_400.jpg

Anyone have any thoughts about these distinctions? Would you frame it differently? Do you want one, two or all three of the above?
 
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cascadiabound said:
How much do you think that is? Do you think different people have widely divergent abilities to tolerate edging?

Have you read @seela thread where she reports on/journals about edging and no- orgasm for a year? It's a very interesting read and piqued my curiosity about long term edging/control.

https://forum.literotica.com/threads/no-nut-19.1492685/
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That is a tough one to answer. There are so many variables to consider. Moods, time of the month, energy level, skill of your partner. I don’t think there is a definitive answer.
 
KindredFlame said:
Edging is not somthing online. It is a personal experience. In my opinion.
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I find that giving an order to a submissive to edge and not cum is pleases me because of the knowledge I know what the submissive is going through. The feelings and emotions of getting to the edge and then backing away and not falling over the edge into orgasm. If you know what I mean. Probably could have worded that better lol
 
SirSparky said:
I find that giving an order to a submissive to edge and not cum is pleases me because of the knowledge I know what the submissive is going through. The feelings and emotions of getting to the edge and then backing away and not falling over the edge into orgasm. If you know what I mean. Probably could have worded that better lol
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Yes but that is not edging. It’s you being a voyeur. And a bit of a master who has a masochistic tendencies
 
I get that babe. But the act of edging is not what you are doing between the pair of you over the internet. Edging is what your partner is doing.
 
KindredFlame said:
That is a tough one to answer. There are so many variables to consider. Moods, time of the month, energy level, skill of your partner. I don’t think there is a definitive answer.
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And sensitivity.
I have known women that would cum with a brush of the hand. No way could they edge for any good length of time. And I love that because they are usually multi orgasmic, I have found.
And there are those that take a long time to build up to an orgasm. Longer lay time, but good edging candidates…
And I love that, too!
 
sexybeast03 said:
Has anyone had any experience with online edging. Meaning you get instructions from a stranger through the internet and has to follow them to the point?
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I think that depends on how its framed up and continues.

Are talking about someone you will never know anything about? Could be a chat bot for all you know? Or someone you know just a little but only through the internet?

At what point is the stranger no longer a stranger?

I know sounds dumb perhaps, but, how might those distinctions matter?
 
KindredFlame said:
My wife and I do that when she is in London and I am at home. It’s not blue toothed it internet based it is great fun
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Would love to have a remote dildo that I coukd control over the Internet or through an app. Woukd get my gf to wear it and I woukd control it when I felt like it
 
When I edge my submissive, I’m not just teasing her but reminding her who owns her pleasure. I take her right to the edge, feel their whole body straining, desperate for release, and then I pull it away. I love hearing the frustration in her voice, the way she begs, the way her hips move like she is chasing what I’ve denied her. Every second I hold her there, trembling and aching, makes her need sharper, her surrender deeper. When I finally decide she has earned it, the orgasm hits her so hard it feels like I’ve broken her apart and that’s exactly the point of an edging session.
 
cascadiabound said:
It does seem to be a minority of men who genuinely love providing extensive oral worship/edging to a woman, but they definitely do exist. (thank the gods)
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In my experience-a large percentage of dominant men find extensive oral/worship to be a submissive behavior, that they, as a Dom, shouldn’t have to partake in. They’re missing one of the most wickedly intimate ways to edge a submissive.

Cuff her wrists behind her, and have her sit on your face. Pay close attention to how she moves, her noises, her breathing. You can learn how to take her right to the edge, and when to stop……..to reduce a brilliant, poised, charming woman to a bitch in heat who desperately tries to hump your face to get off. Not only is it exceptionally hot-it opens the door to all sorts of humiliation play/teasing if that’s part of the dynamic.
 
cascadiabound said:
How much do you think that is? Do you think different people have widely divergent abilities to tolerate edging?

Have you read @seela thread where she reports on/journals about edging and no- orgasm for a year? It's a very interesting read and piqued my curiosity about long term edging/control.

https://forum.literotica.com/threads/no-nut-19.1492685/
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Yes-definitely. Some women excel in longer edging/denial periods, others can experience anxiety from the intensity of the denial. And still others, it diminishes her sex drive. It’s a truly individual thing, and requires taking time to know her intimately.

A lot also relates back to the ability of the Dom to stimulate her mentally. Do that right, and the physical is child’s play.
 
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