Let's talk about women and edging

[sexybeast03]

So... here is a little report on the choices I made. A little on how it went.

...

It was a very intense day. Devious. Diabolical. And the edging continues...

omg amazing. Any others tried something similar?

 

[cascadiabound]

Reposting from earlier in the thread to see if we can keep the conversation going...

It may be useful to start to make a distinction between
1) edging which is used to prolong a sexual encounter/scene, where edging is used to control one or more, but the goal is for at least one person to climax
and
2) edging that is part of an ongoing lifestyle and used to enhance, enforce, encourage a power exchange relationship where one person controls the other person's orgasms, arousal level, etc. There are probably as many different reasons to do this as there are couples who practice it. In my mind the chief benefits are building/maintaining that connection, using edging as a tangible form of control which can be exerted in person or at a distance. Connecting one person's sexual release to the other person's desires, whims or etc and/or using edging as a tool to elicit other desired behaviors whatever the goals might be between them.

And maybe...
3) not cumming without permission. which may or may not be connected to edging, but often is, in my mind

http://31.media.tumblr.com/94bf21e1d0ab83b284590237a3e59130/tumblr_myuazuLEMD1sh7wkbo1_400.jpg

Anyone have any thoughts about these distinctions? Would you frame it differently? Do you want one, two or all three of the above?

 

[KindredFlame]

There is only so much a girl can take.

 

[cascadiabound]

There is only so much a girl can take.

How much do you think that is? Do you think different people have widely divergent abilities to tolerate edging?

Have you read @seela thread where she reports on/journals about edging and no- orgasm for a year? It's a very interesting read and piqued my curiosity about long term edging/control.

https://forum.literotica.com/threads/no-nut-19.1492685/

 

[KindredFlame]

How much do you think that is? Do you think different people have widely divergent abilities to tolerate edging?

Have you read @seela thread where she reports on/journals about edging and no- orgasm for a year? It's a very interesting read and piqued my curiosity about long term edging/control.

https://forum.literotica.com/threads/no-nut-19.1492685/

That is a tough one to answer. There are so many variables to consider. Moods, time of the month, energy level, skill of your partner. I don’t think there is a definitive answer.

 

[sexybeast03]

Has anyone had any experience with online edging. Meaning you get instructions from a stranger through the internet and has to follow them to the point?

 

[KindredFlame]

Has anyone had any experience with online edging. Meaning you get instructions from a stranger through the internet and has to follow them to the point?

Edging is not somthing online. It is a personal experience. In my opinion.

 

[SirSparky]

Edging is not somthing online. It is a personal experience. In my opinion.

I find that giving an order to a submissive to edge and not cum is pleases me because of the knowledge I know what the submissive is going through. The feelings and emotions of getting to the edge and then backing away and not falling over the edge into orgasm. If you know what I mean. Probably could have worded that better lol

 

[KindredFlame]

I find that giving an order to a submissive to edge and not cum is pleases me because of the knowledge I know what the submissive is going through. The feelings and emotions of getting to the edge and then backing away and not falling over the edge into orgasm. If you know what I mean. Probably could have worded that better lol

Yes but that is not edging. It’s you being a voyeur. And a bit of a master who has a masochistic tendencies

 

[SirSparky]

Yes but that is not edging. It’s you being a voyeur. And a bit of a master who has a masochistic tendencies

Its making her edge and denying her orgasm. Yes i can be masochistic and a sadistic Dom lol.

 

[KindredFlame]

I get that babe. But the act of edging is not what you are doing between the pair of you over the internet. Edging is what your partner is doing.

 

[SirSparky]

Yeah I get what you are saying too

 

[Tallcajun]

That is a tough one to answer. There are so many variables to consider. Moods, time of the month, energy level, skill of your partner. I don’t think there is a definitive answer.

And sensitivity.
I have known women that would cum with a brush of the hand. No way could they edge for any good length of time. And I love that because they are usually multi orgasmic, I have found.
And there are those that take a long time to build up to an orgasm. Longer lay time, but good edging candidates…
And I love that, too!

 

[dct10538]

With the women I have edged - so a whopping sample size of two (one vanilla and one kink) - there is a threshold past which some hysteria can slip into the recipe. That might not be a bad thing to some.

 

[SmilingLez]

Has anyone had any experience with online edging. Meaning you get instructions from a stranger through the internet and has to follow them to the point?

If you want to go that route, pop a Bluetooth toy in you and let the stranger control it.

 

[Mrtenant]

Has anyone had any experience with online edging. Meaning you get instructions from a stranger through the internet and has to follow them to the point?

I think that depends on how its framed up and continues.

Are talking about someone you will never know anything about? Could be a chat bot for all you know? Or someone you know just a little but only through the internet?

At what point is the stranger no longer a stranger?

I know sounds dumb perhaps, but, how might those distinctions matter?

 

[KindredFlame]

If you want to go that route, pop a Bluetooth toy in you and let the stranger control it.

My wife and I do that when she is in London and I am at home. It’s not blue toothed it internet based it is great fun

 

[SirSparky]

My wife and I do that when she is in London and I am at home. It’s not blue toothed it internet based it is great fun

Would love to have a remote dildo that I coukd control over the Internet or through an app. Woukd get my gf to wear it and I woukd control it when I felt like it

 

[CaptCharles]

For clarification, you send them a porn video of some kind, and ask them to masturbate/edge while they watch it?

Yes.. this is effective

 

[wwot40]

When I edge my submissive, I’m not just teasing her but reminding her who owns her pleasure. I take her right to the edge, feel their whole body straining, desperate for release, and then I pull it away. I love hearing the frustration in her voice, the way she begs, the way her hips move like she is chasing what I’ve denied her. Every second I hold her there, trembling and aching, makes her need sharper, her surrender deeper. When I finally decide she has earned it, the orgasm hits her so hard it feels like I’ve broken her apart and that’s exactly the point of an edging session.

 

[Cruelsmile5]

It does seem to be a minority of men who genuinely love providing extensive oral worship/edging to a woman, but they definitely do exist. (thank the gods)

In my experience-a large percentage of dominant men find extensive oral/worship to be a submissive behavior, that they, as a Dom, shouldn’t have to partake in. They’re missing one of the most wickedly intimate ways to edge a submissive.

Cuff her wrists behind her, and have her sit on your face. Pay close attention to how she moves, her noises, her breathing. You can learn how to take her right to the edge, and when to stop……..to reduce a brilliant, poised, charming woman to a bitch in heat who desperately tries to hump your face to get off. Not only is it exceptionally hot-it opens the door to all sorts of humiliation play/teasing if that’s part of the dynamic.

 

[Cruelsmile5]

How much do you think that is? Do you think different people have widely divergent abilities to tolerate edging?

Have you read @seela thread where she reports on/journals about edging and no- orgasm for a year? It's a very interesting read and piqued my curiosity about long term edging/control.

https://forum.literotica.com/threads/no-nut-19.1492685/

Yes-definitely. Some women excel in longer edging/denial periods, others can experience anxiety from the intensity of the denial. And still others, it diminishes her sex drive. It’s a truly individual thing, and requires taking time to know her intimately.

A lot also relates back to the ability of the Dom to stimulate her mentally. Do that right, and the physical is child’s play.

 

[watsit2ya69]

Edging

As a submissive woman I have really come to love and crave edging. It's an overt way to keep my sexual needs/arousal front and center while keeping orgasm control entirely his.

Women -

• do you like being edged?
• Does it matter whether your PYL is edging you directly or if you edge yourself for them?
• Does it matter if your PYL is in the room/on line/ or not?
• Do you like being told to edge?
• How does edging add to or frustrate your sexuality?
• Does edging increase your sense of submission?

Men/Doms/Dommes -

• What does making your sub edge do for you?
• Have you found it to be an effective way to increase connection or submission in your partners?
• Any tips for others regarding edging? (For connection, management, funishment, punishment, denial etc)
• How does edging fit into your understanding of orgasm control and or denial?

Inquiring minds want to know all this and more.

Any favorite techniques for edging or toys that work especially well for inducing a very heightened level of arousal but prevent/deny orgasm?

How do you use edging in your personal sexuality or in your power exchange relationships? Tell us about great successes or epic failures. Tell us about creative use of edging. Details! we want details!

Post your response on any of the above that speaks to you. No need to respond to all of it.

I doubt I'll be able to resist chiming in with my own thoughts and experiences. Let's talk about edging in women.

I love to edge. It is my #1 kink,fetish,whatever you want to call it. My favorite turn on and way to be aroused.
I prefer to edge for them. I have more control and ability to slow down and stop if I get too close to an orgasm. Self edging while being watched or listened to heightens the arousal for me knowing I am being exhibited in the most intimate moments.
I also like sending edging audios to my partner/dom/ that way they are out there,no turning back and they can listen to them anytime they want for their arousal and pleasure. I do not need to be present with them for them to use my body for their pleasure. If that makes sense.
I love being told to edge. Giving someone total control over my pussy,my orgasms,my edges makes me even more compliant and submissive. Having to beg to edge,to deny myself,to orgasm and still being told no shakes my tree!
Edging adds to my frustration of my sexulaity by knowing I've willingly given up my autonomy to someone ,my arousal,my denial, my basic body function of an orgasm is in someone else's hands

Edging

As a submissive woman I have really come to love and crave edging. It's an overt way to keep my sexual needs/arousal front and center while keeping orgasm control entirely his.

Women -

• do you like being edged?
• Does it matter whether your PYL is edging you directly or if you edge yourself for them?
• Does it matter if your PYL is in the room/on line/ or not?
• Do you like being told to edge?
• How does edging add to or frustrate your sexuality?
• Does edging increase your sense of submission?

Men/Doms/Dommes -

• What does making your sub edge do for you?
• Have you found it to be an effective way to increase connection or submission in your partners?
• Any tips for others regarding edging? (For connection, management, funishment, punishment, denial etc)
• How does edging fit into your understanding of orgasm control and or denial?

Inquiring minds want to know all this and more.

Any favorite techniques for edging or toys that work especially well for inducing a very heightened level of arousal but prevent/deny orgasm?

How do you use edging in your personal sexuality or in your power exchange relationships? Tell us about great successes or epic failures. Tell us about creative use of edging. Details! we want details!

Post your response on any of the above that speaks to you. No need to respond to all of it.

I doubt I'll be able to resist chiming in with my own thoughts and experiences. Let's talk about edging in women.

I love to edge. It is my # 1 way to get aroused,my favorite turn on.
I prefer to edge myself. Gives me better control over the stimulating and being able to slow down and prevent orgasm.
I love when my dom is present and is watching me edge for him. Showing him my arousal,my obedience, my compliance, my submission as he watches me serve him.
Online,or leaving him audio messages is also very arousing for me because I know it is now out there and he can listen anytime,as often as he wishes for his pleasure in hearing my obedience and submission to him. I dont have to be physically present for him to use me for his pleasure, and I may not be physically present but he can rejoice in my denial and obedience.
I love being told to edge. The fact of giving someone total control of my autonomy is very arousing for me. He controls when I edge,how I edge, my orgasms and I willingly submit to him begging him to let me edge and deny is very arousing.
Edging frustrates my sexuality by I get to the point I want to fuck anything that moves, hump a table,a shoe,anything for that stimulation. For me that frustration is an adrenaline rush. I have so much energy,get so much done and all I think about is sex and fucking. It's a high.
Definitely increases my sense of submission, needing permission for basic body function,to touch,to tease,to stimulate,to cum is very arousing. The permission and control belongs to someone else and I get very submission while begging for permission.
I prefer clit lickers,direct clit stimulation for arousal but easier to slow down,go indirect stimulation helps me ride that edge better.
Creative edging...I once had a dom when I got close started counting down from 10 and I couldn't cum til they said 1. Put on a long song...think 8 minute version of American pie...and I could cum til it was over.
Edgemeplease.com id a great site to edge and deny yourself with. More geared to men but females can adapt it to their use.

 

[Pad_Foot]

Any ladies experience edging with strangers using their Lovense like apps?

 

[EboniMidnite]

I do like to edge, or at least do lenghty masturbation when there's time. Usually it's self-directed, not like by phone or vid with a partner. Not my thing I guess.

I mentioned in another thread, i have a female friend who likes to photograph while I masturbate, and she directs me like a photo shoot with a model. The first time was spontaneous and wild and i got off fast.

Now, she draws it out and gets me close and then makes me hold position while she moves around and shoots different angles. She's gotten to understand my body and sexuality and how i build up my orgasms so now she's really good at edging me along.