Ladies Define the perfect Dom/daddy

[Jcm412]

I am new to the life style and have very little true experience. I would like to hear from the ladies what makes a perfect Dom or daddy. What makes you want to submit to him and please him?

 

[Licia]

Perfect does not exist in this world, methinks.

 

[Jcm412]

Perfect does not exist in this world, methinks.

Then what would be your ideal daddy/dom?

 

[CutieMouse]

The problem with questions like these is that there probably won't be any real consensus... For example, one of the things I love most about one of The Men is that we have similar taste in books. One of the things I love about the other (there are two of them), is his artwork.

Are either of those things Dominant/Daddy traits? No... But neither man would be my lover (much less in a power based relationship) without it.

 

[Curious_in_Cali]

Agreed.

I kinda think of people and their traits as a list of ingredients. When you get together you both get dumped into a big pot & apply some heat and it makes a unique sort of soup. It is either pleasing to your palate or it is not. But each pairing is unique, that is what makes it such a wonder of discovery.

I don't think there is a universal ideal for a lover/mate/relationship regardless of kink factors. I mean, how could there be when we are all so different. However, it is ideal that you seek out the one that is perfect for YOU, as imperfect as they may actually be in the eyes of anyone else.

 

[Stella_Omega]

Leather daddies are, mostly, about raising their boy to manhood while enjoying all the benefits of a young, willing, sexually enthusiastic dependent. They will discipline a brat, reward a good boy-- often with the same activities-- and in some cases (but not all) the boy leaves the relationship and becomes a Leatherman master or daddy in his own right, after learning all the technical stuff of SM and the honor and responsibilities of D/s.

The het daddies that I know seem to be more conscious of the playful, gentle sides of SM, which is more like roughhousing with them, and babytalk is often indulged in. A Daddy can be authoritarian and stern as any dominant, but the relationship is based on love and care more than on possession.

 

[Primalex]

I am new to the life style and have very little true experience. I would like to hear from the ladies what makes a perfect Dom or daddy. What makes you want to submit to him and please him?

That he doesn't need to ask this question.

 

[Kajira Callista]

The perfect Daddy?
Dunno, I have two Daddies that are completely different and both are absolutely perfect.

*sigh* and why is you're Dom in caps but not Daddy?
My Daddies are Doms whom I call Daddy, and it is a BDSM relationship and not your every day D/lil cause its D/lil/D

 

[Stella_Omega]

That he doesn't need to ask this question.

Is that what makes you want to submit to a Daddy Dom, Primalex?

 

[Keroin]

1. Always has a ready supply of dark chocolate.
2. Knows how to mix the perfect martini.
3. Looks shockingly like Clive Owen.


There's probably more but those are the ones that came to mind first.

 

[BiBunny]

A rich one.

 

[submissive_fire]

A Daddy can be authoritarian and stern as any dominant, but the relationship is based on love and care more than on possession.

^That

Being yourself and true to who you are is what is going to make you "perfect", not being somebody fake based on a list or other's opinions.

 

[Marquis]

Leather daddies are, mostly, about raising their boy to manhood while enjoying all the benefits of a young, willing, sexually enthusiastic dependent. They will discipline a brat, reward a good boy-- often with the same activities-- and in some cases (but not all) the boy leaves the relationship and becomes a Leatherman master or daddy in his own right, after learning all the technical stuff of SM and the honor and responsibilities of D/s.

The het daddies that I know seem to be more conscious of the playful, gentle sides of SM, which is more like roughhousing with them, and babytalk is often indulged in. A Daddy can be authoritarian and stern as any dominant, but the relationship is based on love and care more than on possession.

The gay systems sounds SO MUCH better.

wtf?

That he doesn't need to ask this question.

I'm always annoyed by these kinds of responses.

Is there no place where a man can come to express his doubts and insecurities without being essentially called a little bitch?

Fuck you.

The perfect Daddy?
Dunno, I have two Daddies that are completely different and both are absolutely perfect.

What is with all these girls with two daddies lately?

This I do not understand.

1. Always has a ready supply of dark chocolate.
2. Knows how to mix the perfect martini.
3. Looks shockingly like Clive Owen.


There's probably more but those are the ones that came to mind first.

A rich one.

These are the kind of genuine answers I appreciate.

 

[kiwi_submissive]

A pulse is a great start and anything else is just a bonus

 

[knot_sweet]

sorry couldn't help this...

his name is Christian Grey

sheesh, don't you people know anything??

 

[Stella_Omega]

Is there no place where a man can come to express his doubts and insecurities without being essentially called a little bitch?

A man can easily figure out who to ignore.

 

[Netzach]

In my experience there's no one gay system, but yeah, there is an emphasis often on bottom-who-will-eventually-phase-out-and-top.

Not always.

I've also seen Daddy/boy or Daddy/girl be more or less the equivalent of Dom/sub versus Master/slave, more informal, less authoritarian.

I think my answer to this post would be so far off-axis as to be irrelevant, ha.

 

[CutieMouse]

I think my answer to this post would be so far off-axis as to be irrelevant, ha.

I wanna hear the irrelevance...

 

[IrisAlthea]

I wanna hear the irrelevance...

Me too!

 

[eastern sun]

In my experience there's no one gay system, but yeah, there is an emphasis often on bottom-who-will-eventually-phase-out-and-top.

Not always.

I've also seen Daddy/boy or Daddy/girl be more or less the equivalent of Dom/sub versus Master/slave, more informal, less authoritarian.

I think my answer to this post would be so far off-axis as to be irrelevant, ha.

Me, three.

 

[eastern sun]

The perfect Dom/Daddy?

Patient.

 

[Primalex]

I'm always annoyed by these kinds of responses.

Is there no place where a man can come to express his doubts and insecurities without being essentially called a little bitch?

I guess if you are one, then you shouldn't mind the proper label. And if you aren't one, then you don't care about a wrong label.

And if you want to turn yourself into something else for somebody else, then you are a little bitch. Sorry that you don't like this information.

Emo Doms get on my nerves, especially those fishing for approval.

 

[shewantsmore]

in the real world there is nothing that is perfect,you have to work on it,trial and error

 

[Netzach]

I am a rock, I am an iiiiiiisland.

*swings schlong*

 

[Stella_Omega]

I am a rock, I am an iiiiiiisland.

*swings schlong*

I am a Daddy. But probably not a very good one-- neglectful.