WTF is up with so called straight guys?

[Wiggerboi]

On many gay hookup sites I see dudes looking for a blowjob or whatever but they are claiming they are straight. What's up wit dat?

If you let a guy hang on your Johnson you at least bi dude.

 

[FloridaCouple]

They're confusing being the "top" with being "straight." In high school I remember arguing with my friends who had gotten blow jobs from a kid who was gay that their acts made them just as gay as him. They vehemently denied it, and insisted that their actions were different from his. Some things will never change, as Bruce Hornsby wrote.

In prison, the guy getting sucked is not gay. But the sucker is. Maybe your friends were playing by prison rules

 

[FloridaCouple]

Lol! The difference is that in prison there are boys who are girls, but no real girls. In high school there were plenty of real girls who were girls. At that stage of my life I thought things were a bit simpler than real life has proven them to be, too. This was almost forty years ago, and there were no transgenders, no lesbians, and only a couple of known gay boys in a high school with 1800 students. Oh, yeah, transgenders were called Female Impersonators.

In any case, I agree with the OP, guys who accept head from other guys are not "Straight."

I guess if we look at just the sex act itself, then maybe the act is "gay" but the guy really can be straight guy who just happens to be engaged in a gay sex act.

 

[nick4671]

It could be that they have heard that guys give better blowjobs. My opinion would be that you might identify as straight but if you are seeking a sexual act with someone of the same sex then at best I would call it bi-curious.

 

[Missouribiguy]

Well, this is coming from a BISEXUAL guy, I can see it this way. The guys who get a blowjob (or even have intercourse) from/with another guy are either curious or in denial of either being homosexual or bisexual. However, I view it that the guys still identify themselves as straight.

Does it really matter? It shouldn't, as I view sexuality has become linear with these labels. Not meaning they are a bad idea, but they tend to be complete bullshit after a while.

 

[nick4671]

Personally I look at it as you like what you like. There are days when I want to pound my gf till she can't walk right and days when I want to suck cock till my jaw hurts.

 

[Queen_Vicki]

God I really dislike men like that. They lie about their sexuality to up a front. They need to admit they are GAY, and shut the hell up, and live their lives.

 

[Queen_Vicki]

Well, this is coming from a BISEXUAL guy, I can see it this way. The guys who get a blowjob (or even have intercourse) from/with another guy are either curious or in denial of either being homosexual or bisexual. However, I view it that the guys still identify themselves as straight.

Does it really matter? It shouldn't, as I view sexuality has become linear with these labels. Not meaning they are a bad idea, but they tend to be complete bullshit after a while.

To be honest about it. I think it does kind of matter to me ( and this just my opinion) especially when a woman gets involved with a 'so called straight man'. A woman should have the right to break up with some man that is not truthful about his sexuality, granted a lot of women do not like the idea of their man liking men as well, but's their preference.

 

[Hitchiker69]

When I was young and restless I did a lot of hitchiking. I often got picked up by gay guys. They took advantage of my youthful horniness, and offered me blow jobs. I usually accepted, and enjoyed it, just as much as I would enjoy a blowjob from a girl. But girls weren't available.

I learned that blow jobs from guys were easy to find. Plus I didn't have to buy them dinner or take them to a movie. I just lay back and let them do what they wanted, and I got a nice blowjob. I didn't consider myself gay, or even bi.

At some point I became curious, and began to stroke guys while they were sucking me. Just sort of returning the favor, giving a 'reach around.' Eventually, over a period of years, I learned to fully participate and enjoy gay sex.

So at what point did I become 'bi'? Maybe the first time I took a cock in my mouth. Or the first time I choose to seek out a man, instead of a woman for sex.

My view of gay sex is that its like junk food; easily available, uncomplicated and satisfying.
Sex with a woman is rarely that simple.

 

[McMurphywrites]

I will never understand why the thought of being bisexual is so scary.

Funny how it is never talked about in the military. It would have really messed up the "don't ask , don't tell" policy. Guess it would break their brains if they thought about it too much!

 

[Queen_Vicki]

When I was young and restless I did a lot of hitchiking. I often got picked up by gay guys. They took advantage of my youthful horniness, and offered me blow jobs. I usually accepted, and enjoyed it, just as much as I would enjoy a blowjob from a girl. But girls weren't available.

I learned that blow jobs from guys were easy to find. Plus I didn't have to buy them dinner or take them to a movie. I just lay back and let them do what they wanted, and I got a nice blowjob. I didn't consider myself gay, or even bi.

At some point I became curious, and began to stroke guys while they were sucking me. Just sort of returning the favor, giving a 'reach around.' Eventually, over a period of years, I learned to fully participate and enjoy gay sex.

So at what point did I become 'bi'? Maybe the first time I took a cock in my mouth. Or the first time I choose to seek out a man, instead of a woman for sex.

My view of gay sex is that its like junk food; easily available, uncomplicated and satisfying.
Sex with a woman is rarely that simple.

Why do bisexual men act like we are so complicated when it comes to finding sex? I mean are we that difficult to find, and enjoy?

 

[Chrissi]

This thread makes me sad.

 

[rbone04]

Well, this is coming from a BISEXUAL guy, I can see it this way. The guys who get a blowjob (or even have intercourse) from/with another guy are either curious or in denial of either being homosexual or bisexual. However, I view it that the guys still identify themselves as straight.

Does it really matter? It shouldn't, as I view sexuality has become linear with these labels. Not meaning they are a bad idea, but they tend to be complete bullshit after a while.

...and here's food for thought...

In order to receive a (pleasurable) blow job or to "top" when it comes to anal with a man... An erection is a necessity. This usually means sexual arousal doesn't it?

BUT... in order to give a blow job or to "bottom" when engaging with a man, neither an erection nor sexual arousal is necessary.

So who's "more gay" now?

 

[Missouribiguy]

...and here's food for thought...

In order to receive a (pleasurable) blow job or to "top" when it comes to anal with a man... An erection is a necessity. This usually means sexual arousal doesn't it?

BUT... in order to give a blow job or to "bottom" when engaging with a man, neither an erection nor sexual arousal is necessary.

So who's "more gay" now?

What the fuck are you talking about?

 

[howbo]

bi

I think we are all somewhere on a continuum between homo and hetero if we are in touch with our selves, and at differenct places at different times. That is simply on the level of attraction and affection. As for activity we all differ on our behavior choices. After all, the pleasure is really our own no matter who or what it comes from. As for giving pleasure, do we ever do it without getting it ourselves? I don't think sexuality is simple at all. It is very complicated as are human beings.

 

[MagicFlute]

Sex is more than the sum of the physical parts

I am a 39yr old male. I don't choose my sexual partners based on which type of genitals they possess. That would be no different to choosing someone because of the size or shape or colour of their breasts or cock or lips etc. I am more attracted to the spirit and attitude of a person. Whether they are male or female only means a slight difference in activities you can do to each other. Does this make me gay or straight or bi? No. It makes me sexual. I enjoy sex in many forms and in many ways. Especially if I'm on the same wave length as my partners... Comments?

 

[AdjectiveNounVerb]

Well, this is coming from a BISEXUAL guy, I can see it this way. The guys who get a blowjob (or even have intercourse) from/with another guy are either curious or in denial of either being homosexual or bisexual. However, I view it that the guys still identify themselves as straight.

Does it really matter? It shouldn't, as I view sexuality has become linear with these labels. Not meaning they are a bad idea, but they tend to be complete bullshit after a while.

I've always taken the word "straight" to mean "impossible for a homosexual act to be consensual" and "gay" to mean "impossible for a heterosexual act to be consensual", with "bi" covering everything that isn't one of those two points. That, at least, is what I understand someone is telling me when they tell me they're either straight or gay.

 

[rbone04]

What the fuck are you talking about?

I'm talking about how ridiculous this thread is... Basically I'm being a smart ass and agreeing with your statement that labels are complete bullshit and that it shouldn't matter. My bad if it looks like I'm bashing you. Not the case.

 

[titerear71106]

I have blown alot of so called "straight" guys

 

[44special]

Living by the Slick Willy code: Deny, deny, deny...

 

[njlauren]

It gets even more complicated in the world of T girl admirers...a lot of the admirers will tell you they are straight but like t girls for being different yet technically (especially with cd's) they are with 'men'. In my experience, some of them mostly are straight, they seem to like t girls but treat them like girls, when they have sex want to have sex as if they were having sex with a woman and don't obsess about the genitals (don't even want to do anything with them). Others though IMO were definitely either bi or guys guilty about being gay but find being with a t girls is a compromise, because they look like a girl....why do I say this? Because this second group is more then likely to want to get fucked and/or suck the t girl off.

Personally I find the labels are problematic, I only wish people could enjoy sex and if they like it with girls alone, guys alone or some mix, enjoy it. What I do object to are many of the admirers and the 'straight' guys who go to glory holes at ABS's and the like, is that they often publicly are homophobic, will defend banning same sex marriage and will vote for what passes for conservatives these days (Goldwater had a great name for them, the loony right; Buckley called them the no brain wonders; Mencken in his day called them the KKK branch of the Democratic party). I don't care what people do and I can't blame them for being closeted or whatever, but holy shit, you spent a saturday night trying to get me to suck you off or let you fuck me, and on monday you are telling everyone else that GLBT people are perverts, don't deserve equal rights, etc? I knew one tranny chaser like that, real loud and proud GOP type, used to go to gay bar that had a lot of T girls there, and used to make all kinds of nasty comments...patrons finally got pissed off at the clown (he was some sort of hotshot lawyer type), and they got video and pictures of him in action with t girls at the bar (making out, feeling them up, at least one BJ) and made it public......I generally don't like outing, but this clown had it coming, though I personally felt sorry for his wife and kids, they didn't deserve having to deal with it..but neither did the people this a-hole was deliberately hurting.

 

[ndoorfin]

this might be off topic a little but many yearars ago I gave a guy a blow when I stood up he hit me called me a fag proceeded to hit and kick the living shit out of me, I think some guys just realy hate themselves

about 6 weeks later I saw him again I beat the shit out of him stripped him and left him there

 

[KinkyGoose]

this might be off topic a little but many yearars ago I gave a guy a blow when I stood up he hit me called me a fag proceeded to hit and kick the living shit out of me, I think some guys just realy hate themselves

about 6 weeks later I saw him again I beat the shit out of him stripped him and left him there

Thanks for sharing, that was a great story. Not the part where you got hit, I mean. You know what I mean.

And it's ok that it's off topic, this topic got asinine fast.

 

[sexycuriousman]

I know some of this has been covered by others but I thought I would throw in my opinion.

Some people are raised and being GBLT isn't talked about, or sheltered some people would call it. When does someone decide they are straight, gay, bi, or anything else? If you have never been with the same sex but find them attractive what are you? What if you would be in a serious relationship with one of the sexes but find both attractive? It is all labels, if you asked these questions to numerous people you would get multiple answers. You have the people that hate labels, but without labels how do you convey yourself to others. I would say a lot of people try to choose a label that most conveys there own opinion of their selves. Not everyone will agree. Think about the Kinsey study, people fluctuate if you agree with that. When it comes down to it we all have opinions, you can agree or disagree with anything I or anyone else says.

 

[TallOne]

It's a double standard that goes back to the Greek/Roman days. There was nothing wrong with men having sex with men as long as they were the penetrator. More a power thing rather than sexual orientation.