Wild_Honey_66
sweet freak
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Frankly, I like to be told what to do. Because I love his response when I do it.
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I am untethered, I am entirely vulnerable. And yet, he holds me.
As "something-other-than-a-submissive," I confess that I've read this thread through with a great deal of curiosity. I mean, intellectually I know maybe a little bit more than the average bear about the psychological and societal underpinnings of submission and what makes it so appealing for some. At least I generally got those questions right on tests...
However, I sometimes despair that I will ever completely understand it. It's just so counter to everything inside me. Asking me to do something will usually work. Trying to make, much less force me is just going to end up with both of us sorry and sore. (And typically more "them" than me.)
Any road, my point is that I, for one, appreciate the quiet strength and dignity so many of you who feel this need sharing just what it is that you feel. And I know you didn't do so for me or for others like me, but to help others like yourselves trying to grapple with their own internal struggles. Regardless, though, I for one do appreciate your strength and openness in sharing.
With the right person, submission feels like this. And it makes me feel safe and whole.
What do you feel when you are being /humiliated/dominated?
What is the feeling and the aim of being submissive to another person? How does it feel good?
Let's all share our feelings.
I'm just beginning to explore my sub side. I've been an type A executive for 30 years. IDK, there is something that gets me going, servicing a Dom either M or F.
Again, just started to enjoy my sub side.
For me, being submissive is a need: to serve and please a man. To let go and enjoy release of the outside world. It is about being not what I need to do for the world, but just Sir.
This is not at all unusual. Many executive types, who have stressful lives, where they hire and fire and have a lot on their minds during their day to day lives prefer to be submissive in their sexual lives.
It doesn't always work out that way, but many times it does. I think the subconscious mind has something to do with this. It knows when you need release from that stress and it ends up where you prefer someone else taking over the control in your sex life.
I've been with several executive ladies who either owned a company or were high enough up on the executive ladder that they were very submissive in their sexual lives. Men are no different.
I concur,
Have been in a position of power at work for many years, and have to make stressful and hard decisions constantly, as well as hold my household together, family together (financially), take care of everything.
In the bedroom, I don't want to be provider, I want to be pampered, coddled, told what to do and how to do it, resign from any decision making whatsoever...
I want to be treated like a lady.
Exactly...it's the fact that He's completely taken over my being, and has a direct connection to what's going on in my head, and with a look can send shivers through my body. It's the fact that I *want* Him to know me completely, and at my most vulnerable. I have met a few people who were submissive solely in the bedroom, but for me it's beyond that. Of course I derive pleasure from being submissive sexually, but I also get extreme pleasure knowing that I've done something to make Him happy outside of the bedroom.
Again...so hard to put into words, because it's not something that can really be explained (at least not for me...) it's mostly the connection, and the feeling I get...it's a natural groove that we both fit into....
The loss of control and feelings of helplessness are a powerful aphrodisiac for me. When I'm bound, restrained or held down and I know I can't move, there's a feeling over being overwhelmed, like being swept up in a powerful tidal wave that is impossible to swim against.
My heart beats faster, my body temperature goes up, I feel feverish and copious amounts of adrenaline end up in my bloodstream.
In many ways the thrill I get from being helpless, punished and dominated is probably similar to the thrill people get from being on a roller-coaster, being helplessly hurled through the air, yanked around at and spun about at 140 mph.
Of course, (most) people don't get sexually aroused at being helplessly rocketed through the air by a roller coaster, however, the overwhelming loss of control is similar and the best illustration I can think of to explain how I feel when I give up control to a master or mistress.
For me I get great pleasure in serving and seeing a Lady happy. I want so much to feel her guidance and control as I strive to make her happy.
I asked my wife this question when we started this journey. After pondering it for a few minutes she said " You know how people always say life was easier when they were a child and their parents made all their decisions for them. It's the same thing to me. "
Made sense to me. Even more so when I looked at my wife and our life through those eyes. She had always looked to me to make big decisions. She had almost always done what i wanted over what she wanted. It wasnt really going to change the dynamics between us so much as just add to them.
If you can convince yourself that someone else has complete authority over you and you must obey them and do whatever they order you to do then you carry no responsibility for your behaviors and you can perform the most degrading acts that you secretly want to do and incur no blame.