desertslave
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Ok, this brought me back
(i'm a slow learner)
What is consent?
Take the earlier poster who got the extra five for tears. Suppose she didn't really want the five, but was afraid to say no, afraid to disappoint him. Yet he knows she doesn't want them.
Is that consent?
A cop comes to arrest me, i don't want to go to jail, but i'm afraid to run or shoot it out, so i raise my hands. Is that really consent or capitulation?
These are the blurred lines of bdsm.
If the Dom asks, "may i spank you five more times? The dynamics are blown to shit.
Nothing is only black or white.
This is quibbling just a bit, but the "take 5 more for me" tends to push me over that ragged edge; I'm not receiving them because of tears, but because it pleases him. If it happens to make me cry, that seems to turn him on even more.
I consented to this and many other aspects of our relationship when I became His. It's very possible that I might not want those extra five, right in the moment, but that's largely irrelevant. He leads, I follow. The rest is spectator overthink.