Sissies! What Type of Sissy are You?

[LanaBehave]

Are you a straight sissy? A gay “faggot” sissy? Something in between? Something else?

There's an intriguing posting on Reddit where a phone-sex professional—a qualified observer of the 'sissy' attitudes in fantasy and r/l dynamics—draws on his experience interacting with the variety of beta males, closeted bi and gay men, etc. who are attracted to the sissy lifestyle, and he offers some unique insights, at some length.

He divides sissies into four categories, based on their mix of gender identity and sexual orientation. And it is fascinating, in his concept, what differences and similarities there are between these distinct types of sissy. Of course, many have pointed out before that lots of cross dressers are actually straight men. Some say most of us are. But according to the “Sissy Master” and his breakdown of 4 sissy types, there's more to it than that. Much more.

Here's what he came up with:

1. The Gay / Effeminate Sissy
2. The Bisexual Sissy
3. The Transgender, Gender Fluid Sissy
4. The Straight Sissy

In his lengthy post, the author elaborates at length on each. It's an interesting take, and well worth reading. I can post more about it, we can discuss each, or all of these types, if there's interest. Is 4 types enough? In some cases it seems like the “sissy” identity is a transitional state, or even a role of convenience. A way to rationalize certain tendencies and urges. Also in the age of the internet, I think it's possible that the word itself, “sissy”, has broadened in it's meaning, compared to what it might have meant some decades ago.

 

[Jenna2641]

That certainly sounds like an interesting grouping, though I would think there is some crossover between categories as well.

 

[SissySalina]

Yes, first of all what does this expert consider a "sissy"?

 

[fma20fma]

hi

I think sissy is a male born with a female mind, and continues with the natural organs while secretly wears female attire and engages in sex acts willingly in female role, with oral and anal submission to a dominant male interested and inclined to use and satisfy the SISSY.

 

[fma20fma]

hi

Well that counts me out. I was born male and have a male mind, kinda broken but male. I don’t wear women’s cloths. Well a couple of times but not in any way we are talking about. I do engage in female role sex oral and anal submission with my dominant wife.

I came to this conclusion by reading various posts on lit on many threads.

 

[Escierto]

I think sissy is a male born with a female mind, and continues with the natural organs while secretly wears female attire and engages in sex acts willingly in female role, with oral and anal submission to a dominant male interested and inclined to use and satisfy the SISSY.

I am a man with a female heart and I delight in taking the female sex role with my lovely transgender girlfriend. I worship her and happily submit to her cock in every way. However I don’t wear feminine clothing and I have zero interest in men.

 

[LanaBehave]

Are you a straight sissy? A gay “faggot” sissy? Something in between? Something else?


Here's what he came up with:

1. The Gay / Effeminate Sissy
2. The Bisexual Sissy
3. The Transgender, Gender Fluid Sissy
4. The Straight Sissy

I think outside links are frowned upon, so for the sake of discussion, i have condensed the SissyMaster's 4 categories. I wouldn't call these definitions, but more like...explorations?

I do think creating and discussing these variations has value here, because we all know there's a vast difference, for instance, between a casual crossdresser and a fully transformed transsexual, but in the wider world, there are people who seem to equate them, believe it or not!

"1) The gay/effeminate Sissy

"He identifies as a man, likes his penis and enjoys the frilly, feminine, "faggoty" fantasy-play of being a sissy or super-bottom. The gay bottom sissy slut who is stereotypically "gay acting" and can't modify their affect even if they tried, and if it weren't for the stigma they suffer (by straights and gays), would live a happy, openly sissy life mincing and skipping about the planet. Being "sissy" simply comes natural for them, and being a sissy is their authentic sex-positive, self-affirming expressing of their their gender/sexuality.

"They are often a woman's "fag hag" and are highly adept at socializing with women - but want nothing to do with them sexually, and may fantasize exclusively about other sissies, gay tops, "real men," hypermasculine/dominant men, and the ultimate... straight, married man.

"These sissies are more likely to go to glory-holes and adult movie theatres, have hundreds of sex partners, etc., because there is no underlying barrier to them to express their love of men and their complete acceptance of their bottom leanings.

"They are likely the least oppressed sexually because they are continually "read" by the general public as "gay" or sissy anyway. This is a sissy who can't hide, is already marginalized by straights, hated by gays for "continuing the stereotypical faggot" image, and therefore has nothing to lose and everything to gain by being the sissy cum slut that he is.

"These are the sissies who do not have to live a double life, hide their clothes from their wife, sneak out to have an affair, etc. For this sissy, the feminization may just be a tool to make themselves more attractive to straight men and are not because of any need to dress or because it is a reflection of their inner female (which they don't have).

"2) The Bisexual Sissy

"This is likely the "secret" or "closeted" sissy. Identifies either as a man or transgender (and may not know where they are on the gender spectrum). They have powerful, repressed and unexpressed sissy feelings but they may not be sure about either their gender or sexual orientation. They like women sexually and emotionally and they may like men similarly but are often not sure. They may start and end their sissy journey obsessing over a man's cock but not the man attached to it, or they may be truly bisexual to include attraction and romance.

"They might be in a successful marriage and is often viewed by others as the "perfect" husband because he able to provide in all the traditional ways, but is also an effective communicator, sees his girlfriend/wife as his BFF or enjoys a certain feminine "sisterhood" bonding with her. He is primarily devoted to his wife, is very scared about venturing into the world and finding a man in real life to explore with and as a result is a very responsible, rule-following, dependable husband/boyfriend, provider and parent.

"This type of sissy may have one or two intense, emotional and ongoing email or phone based relationships with men. Despite having fantasies of being a complete cum slut, this sissy is likely to avoid opening that pandora's box and, instead, get all her needs met through sissy porn, erotica, fantasy, etc.

"This sissy has deeply unmet sexual needs and fantasies. However, this sissy is likely to have a great deal of guilt and shame. She dreams of being controlled because she knows that when she cums, she will lose her sissy mindset, run back to her "fake" straight man world, watch straight porn to "wash out" the memories of being and feeling sissy.

"This is the type of sissy who may purge repeatedly but keeps coming back because the deeper her sissy experience, the harder it is for her to stay away and the deeper the shame and guilt. This is a sissy stuck in a cycle. This is the sissy who seeks a Master to provide her with sissy training to push (and force) her. She likes abstinence, teasing and orgasm denial. If she cums, she knows she will rush right back into “man” mode.

"Until she breaks through the barriers holding her back, this is the sissy who is perched between ecstasy and fear. This is the conflicted sissy - who might think she is concocting some elaborate scheme to just "admit she is gay" but rather, is compelled to all things sissy in order to validate that she is, perhaps on some level - or ALL levels, a real girl on this inside and not a gay man.

"For the married, bi sissy, fantasies that might have their roots in shame/guilt might include small-penis humiliation, forced feminization, locked up in chastity, locked in high heels, have her "boy" clothes thrown out if she ever met a man in real life, etc.

"She may have deep cuckold fantasies. She wants the relationship she has with her wife/girlfriend but may want to also live vicariously through her as she watches her get fucked by a dominant male with a big hard dick.


"3) The Transgender/Gender Fluid Sissy

"This is the sissy who may or may not be able to "hide" their sissy affect. For them, being a sissy may be a transitional phase on their way to identifying as Transgender like the “Bisexual Sissy". They may be successful in a male/masculine role, but they regard themselves as "fake" or "beta males" and as they develop sissy and cross dressing fantasies, they imagine a dominant woman guiding and "forcing them" to accept this "obvious" truth that they are not a real man but a sissy.

"It is my opinion that the Trans Gender fluid sissy is the most marginalized and repressed. She has the most to lose in expressing her true self, unlike the gay sissy who can't hide his "gayness,” or the bi/Trans sissy may be adapt at navigating both worlds.

"But the Trans sissy faces real existential dilemma of self expression. It’s not just a fetish or fantasy. It’s not just about role “playing” but role “actualization.”

"If she feels strongly about transitioning into the woman she is on the inside, she knows the high price of that in real life. In the meantime, she may be able to live on the cusp of both sides, be successful at both, but is likely to be repressed and frustrated.

"I find this sissy to have the most intense sissy feelings, overwhelmingly sissy fantasies and fetishes, are drawn to being "forced," "blackmailed" or otherwise made to admit she is a sissy and can never turn back.

"She typically has body transformation fantasies. Overwhelmingly, for the Trans sissy, her sissy nature is just the start of a long process of feminine maturation. This is the sissy who is actually a woman on the inside and desperately needs acceptance and validation from others to move past what are almost always feelings of guilt, shame, etc.

"This sissy's developmental path likely starts out reaching out to other sissies like her, then progresses to a dominant female, then a man. These are sissies who I would tell... "when you're tired of the strap-on and are ready for the real thing, call me."

"For married, secret sissies, it is often their wish that her wife would teach her how to be a woman and eventually help her get ready for her first date with a man. Her sissy behavior may be more a result of not being able to be the female they are (that cisfemales take for granted) but a hyperfeminization/manifestation of years-long repressed feminine feelings. The sissy behavior is the overwhelming bubbling up of unmet needs that may (probably) tone down when the Trans woman underneath the sissy is able to mature her inner girl into woman-hood. This type of person who is a sissy (in transition only) eventually moves on to some type of transition (social, 24/7 dressing, hormones, surgery, etc.)

"For the sissy in this category who can "pass," she is likely the one who will change her name, move to another city, divorce herself from all past ties, and become a ghost - fully integrating into society as a woman, being accepted as a woman, and seeking the type of seemingly "ordinary" life that women have.


"4) The Straight Sissy

"This is the sissy who identifies as a straight man, but has a fetish for cross dressing and may or may not know why. This is a very conflicted sissy, because there is no underlying gender fluid issue. He dresses because of the look or feel of the clothing - OR - (and this enters into the realm of modern day civilization), his expression as a sissy is a projection of what he desires so deeply for women to be for him. This seemingly contradictory sissy is actually a testosterone pumped, hyper-masculine male. He is conflicted with the expectations that women have of him. He is a man who deep down wants a submissive, beautiful wife (i.e., a woman who behaves like a sissy) but is unavailable to him. In his "real life," he is concerned with "alpha" vs "beta" male identities. He is hard on others and himself.

"He is competitive and often binary in his thinking and feeling regarding the powers and dynamics of masculininity and femininity. This sissy struggles with "submitting" to a man. He is not attracted to men and sees men as purely an object - and in his fantasies meets a man who "forces" him to be the woman that he wants a woman to be for him but isn't because feminism and modern civilization and other 1st world privileges have changed women's roles faster than men like he can adapt to - and by cross dressing and being a "sissy" is able to create the perfect woman, so he can then dominate her."

Pretty thorough in his thoughts, I think. Subjective, but also I think substantially accurate.

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Mature closet sissy likes little dresses, strict alpha daddies, and uncertainty
https://literotica.com/stories/membe...ge=submissions

 

[SissySalina]

How about this?
Sissy Type
"1) The gay/effeminate Sissy

Being "sissy" simply comes natural for them, and being a sissy is their authentic sex-positive, self-affirming expressing of their their gender/sexuality.


"2) The Bisexual Sissy

They may start and end their sissy journey obsessing over a man's cock but not the man attached to it, or they may be truly bisexual to include attraction and romance.

She likes abstinence, teasing and orgasm denial.
"She may have deep cuckold fantasies. She wants the relationship she has with her wife/girlfriend but may want to also live vicariously through her as she watches her get fucked by a dominant male with a big hard dick.


"3) The Transgender/Gender Fluid Sissy

For them, being a sissy may be a transitional phase on their way to identifying as Transgender like the “Bisexual Sissy".

It’s not just a fetish or fantasy. It’s not just about role “playing” but role “actualization.”

This is the sissy who is actually a woman on the inside and desperately needs acceptance and validation from others to move past what are almost always feelings of guilt, shame, etc.

The sissy behavior is the overwhelming bubbling up of unmet needs that may (probably) tone down when the Trans woman underneath the sissy is able to mature her inner girl into woman-hood.


"4) The Straight Sissy

He dresses because of the look or feel of the clothing - OR - (and this enters into the realm of modern day civilization), his expression as a sissy is a projection of what he desires so deeply for women to be for him.
He is not attracted to men and sees men as purely an object - and in his fantasies meets a man who "forces" him to be the woman that he wants a woman to be for him but isn't because feminism and modern civilization and other 1st world privileges have changed women's roles faster than men like he can adapt to - and by cross dressing and being a "sissy" is able to create the perfect woman, so he can then dominate her."

They are all the parts that apply to Sissy Salina, so which type is Sissy Silina?

 

[EroticSounds]

Are you a straight sissy? A gay “faggot” sissy? Something in between? Something else?

There's an intriguing posting on Reddit where a phone-sex professional—a qualified observer of the 'sissy' attitudes in fantasy and r/l dynamics—draws on his experience interacting with the variety of beta males, closeted bi and gay men, etc. who are attracted to the sissy lifestyle, and he offers some unique insights, at some length.

He divides sissies into four categories, based on their mix of gender identity and sexual orientation. And it is fascinating, in his concept, what differences and similarities there are between these distinct types of sissy. Of course, many have pointed out before that lots of cross dressers are actually straight men. Some say most of us are. But according to the “Sissy Master” and his breakdown of 4 sissy types, there's more to it than that. Much more.

Here's what he came up with:

1. The Gay / Effeminate Sissy
2. The Bisexual Sissy
3. The Transgender, Gender Fluid Sissy
4. The Straight Sissy

In his lengthy post, the author elaborates at length on each. It's an interesting take, and well worth reading. I can post more about it, we can discuss each, or all of these types, if there's interest. Is 4 types enough? In some cases it seems like the “sissy” identity is a transitional state, or even a role of convenience. A way to rationalize certain tendencies and urges. Also in the age of the internet, I think it's possible that the word itself, “sissy”, has broadened in it's meaning, compared to what it might have meant some decades ago.

I get mistaken for female frequently. I love it when that happens. It's easy today because so many women look like hell. Long hair fine facial features and have little body hair helps. 30 years ago that would not be the case becase women were not as obese and butchy. I'll walk through Walmart and count on one hand the fuckble ones I see and of the other hands the unfuckable ones and it is rare that I see more fuckable ones than unfuckable ones. Welcome to America. It's depressing. I see some sow with a couple of kids in tow and I think to myself, "Who fucked that?"

I could screw a Thia Lady Boy before I'd pork and American pork beast.

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[EroticSounds]

I am a man with a female heart and I delight in taking the female sex role with my lovely transgender girlfriend. I worship her and happily submit to her cock in every way. However I don’t wear feminine clothing and I have zero interest in men.

America needs more transwomen.

I'm not attracted to the male form either. If I met a pre-op XY female and fell in love with her I would probably prefer that she not have bottom surgery unless she really wanted it. I could easily accept her with male parts. Surgery can be very dangerous.

 

[Marcs4u]

Hmmmm...

... very intrigued bi this subject. Not sure where I'd land...I truely believe I am a mix of all 4 of these catagories.
I love pleasing men with my body
I love that my body is pleasing to men
I love submitting to men who are respectful
I dress for men who like me to, don't for those who aren't into it
A man could get me to do, just about, anything sexually but, could never force me
Love my wife and family
Don't feel a need to "come out", nobody's business what anyone does, anyway
I suck and fuck like I wish women would want to(from the male perspective, of course)

I think we need another catagory...lol

 

[LanaBehave]

... very intrigued bi this subject. Not sure where I'd land...I truely believe I am a mix of all 4 of these catagories.

I think we need another catagory...lol

Yes, I'm glad to see there's a tendency to mix and match, to a degree, because I had the same reaction.

Each unique sissy will likely find themselves a mix, or hybrid of some qualities from more than one category.

I see Lana as mostly bits of 2. Bi sissy and 4. Straight sissy. And very little of 1 and/or 3.

 

[ChrissyCD64]

I don't really consider myself a sissy, but I am a full time CD and I love pleasuring men more than women. Over the years I have become more feminine with the help of my wife, but I would still consider myself the bisexual type.

 

[stargame]

"This sissy has deeply unmet sexual needs and fantasies. However, this sissy is likely to have a great deal of guilt and shame. She dreams of being controlled because she knows that when she cums, she will lose her sissy mindset, run back to her "fake" straight man world, watch straight porn to "wash out" the memories of being and feeling sissy.

"This is the type of sissy who may purge repeatedly but keeps coming back because the deeper her sissy experience, the harder it is for her to stay away and the deeper the shame and guilt. This is a sissy stuck in a cycle. This is the sissy who seeks a Master to provide her with sissy training to push (and force) her. She likes abstinence, teasing and orgasm denial. If she cums, she knows she will rush right back into “man” mode.

Those two are agony but so true. I just came after trying not to for a few days, and I've done so many humiliating things, taken some big risks, and now that I came I feel so down and asking myself what the hell I've been doing.

It really is a nightmare cycle to go through. Either I am constantly edging myself and going crazy, having great difficulties being productive and doing work all day long every day while doing increasingly humiliating things which will probably some day spiral out of control, or I'm feeling depressed and confused and disappointed in what I've done and see no way out of it because soon enough I'll be horny again.

It wasn't always like this though. When I had a partner I was able to keep it all under control thanks to her, but i can't erase my history or the intrusive fantasies I have, and that was a deal breaker for her.

But now I find myself in a situation in my life where I'm alone and don't have much going on, so it's causing the sissy in me to appear and feminize and humiliate myself.

So true.
But I always return to being and wanting to continue to be feminine and go shopping for cute panties and stocks and cute clothing.
I did hormones for years and that changed me in so many ways and levels. Wearing panties everyday keeps me in touch with whoi am.

 

[Afterhours22]

I have to be honest...

So true.
But I always return to being and wanting to continue to be feminine and go shopping for cute panties and stocks and cute clothing.
I did hormones for years and that changed me in so many ways and levels. Wearing panties everyday keeps me in touch with whoi am.

I want to slide those panties off you Star and have my way with you.

 

[Escierto]

I wish I had the courage to begin hormones treatment/change or what the correct term is. I'm actually in a great situation now in life with remote work and no friends or partner. The "only" connection I have are my family (parents & siblings). My ex-partner tried to convince me to begin the hormones change treatment and she was convincing, I couldn't argue against her. My parents are understanding and would accept me and probably even support me, same for my siblings. But I just can't do it, it's just too humiliating for me (humiliation is opinionated kinda like food). It's really crazy because I could probably be convinced and pushed into doing all kinds of other types of humiliating scenarios, but coming out of the closet before my family is just too much. However, I wonder if she would have been able to convince me to do it if she was more insistent and pushy about it constantly, and kept trying to push me into "coming out" while horny and doing humiliating things. I think if she stepped up to that level and didn't give up too fast, she could have succeeded. Wishful thinking I guess. I don't think I would be able to come out of the closet on my own.

You shouldn’t beat yourself up about it. It is very difficult to make these kinds of changes.

 

[stargame]

I wish I had the courage to begin hormones treatment/change or what the correct term is. I'm actually in a great situation now in life with remote work and no friends or partner. The "only" connection I have are my family (parents & siblings). My ex-partner tried to convince me to begin the hormones change treatment and she was convincing, I couldn't argue against her. My parents are understanding and would accept me and probably even support me, same for my siblings. But I just can't do it, it's just too humiliating for me (humiliation is opinionated kinda like food). It's really crazy because I could probably be convinced and pushed into doing all kinds of other types of humiliating scenarios, but coming out of the closet before my family is just too much. However, I wonder if she would have been able to convince me to do it if she was more insistent and pushy about it constantly, and kept trying to push me into "coming out" while horny and doing humiliating things. I think if she stepped up to that level and didn't give up too fast, she could have succeeded. Wishful thinking I guess. I don't think I would be able to come out of the closet on my own.

I have gone through many stages with my sexualiy. I was never what some would say manly. My mo. And sister encouraged me to dress either feminine or just androgenus. I dated girls who were more powerful than me, and actually was involved with men before I ever kissed a real girl.
At one time I was very passable and confident. Several years of doing hormones has changed me very much. My breasts are rounded and sensitive. Funny thing, I walked into a door and the door brushed against my breast and I thought, oh, that's what it is like to have your breast stick out.
I have practiced being feminine and love where I am. I do wear panties everyday as a way to stay in touch with my feminine side. I do unfortunately have to wear yucky guy clothes sometimes, but I still keep towards a feminine look. As I guess I am more than just a sissy.
Ask me any questions you wish.

 

[sissyatheart]

I'm, not sure what kind of sissy i am or even if you would really call me a sissy. But I know I don't feel like a man either.

I don't look or act feminine. I don't really have a desire to actually dress as a girl but I do have fantasies about it that I get off to. I am not attracted to men , nor do I want to kiss a man ( I am attracted to women and I am hetero-romantic) , but I do have fantasies of sucking cock and being fucked.

 

[irishblade]

I feel like I’m firmly entrenched in 4. No desire to do anything with a man (unless a powerful woman decrees it and even then, it’s to give her pleasure). I love wearing female things (as rare as it is) and feeling effeminate.

 

[LanaBehave]

Playful quiz

Here's a playful (and when completed, quite informative) quiz that has surfaced, to answer the question at hand...

https://betablocker.trinket.io/sites/cryers-simps-assessment

 

[stargame]

Here's a playful (and when completed, quite informative) quiz that has surfaced, to answer the question at hand...

https://betablocker.trinket.io/sites/cryers-simps-assessment

Fun survey....yep, I am a sissy

 

[LindsayGurl]

wow number two sounds a lot like me!

 

[Escierto]

I feel so sad when I go outside and see a beautiful woman, especially now that it's summer and they dress so light and sexy. I just become so jealous and think of how tough work it is to become like them.

I've just begun the journey, and I think I have a good body and hair to start with, but even then it's a long way to go. I don't want to make any permanent changes which will expose me to my family (parents + siblings).

Have to shave my face twice a day too. Actually have to shave the entire body every day if I would be expecting any closer contact with anyone.

But I will probably buy an IPL and get rid of all hair on my body that way. I'll just have to avoid wearing shorts and t-shirts around family. Might even IPL my facial hair and say that it's too much work to shave every day. Allthough they might get suspiscous because I've had a beard for a long time until recently. But I think it's just something I need to do, it's not enough of a dead give away.

Not sure what to do about breasts though. And I'll always have my cock and balls between my legs too giving me a noticable bulge. Oh and the voice too. I don't have a deep manly voice but you can still tell it's a man talking.

It just seems that even if I put in a lot of work it's just to become passable, as in litterally passable on the street when someone passes by me and throws a glance.

I just become so jealous of all the beautiful women born with those bodies they rock without a penis, and they don't even need to think about all this shit, they just live their life freely without any of the limitations we have when trying to feminize our bodies. Just can't help myself from becoming sad when I see those women.

Even cisgender women get depressed when they compare themselves to other women. They are always complaining about their bodies and spending huge amounts of time and money on “self improvement “. You are unique. I know it’s difficult not to make comparisons but every one has their own beauty.

 

[LanaBehave]

Here's a playful (and when completed, quite informative) quiz that has surfaced, to answer the question at hand...

https://betablocker.trinket.io/sites/cryers-simps-assessment

Results:

Insecure
Virginal
Objectifying
Masturbation-Obsessed
Porn-Addicted
Sissy

Press enter to continue

Some fun pop psychology in the 'analysis' as well!

 

[AlexBailey]

I’m a strong mix of 2+3

I’d say that in recent years I’ve been changing from the Bisexual Sissy to the Transgender, Gender Fluid Sissy and am still somewhere in between. Honestly I never liked the term ‘sissy’ for myself until after meeting so many of us here on lit. I’ve always felt more like a tomboy than like a sissy or a guy - I’m liking the term ‘tomgurl’ a lot lately.

I have a dear sweet and supportive wife but I fantasize about having a fluid sissy gurlfriend with benefits.