Sex is everywhere nowadays!

[HotDamn_]

I get that this forum is more of a "what gets you going" kind of place.

Just felt like sharing a thought, nothing too deep, may sound obvious (and consequently boring) to you guys but here we go:

Is not sex everywhere today?

For the best and worst. Don't get me wrong : I love sex. Having grown up in an age where technology allows us to look at pictures, reading books about, watching videos of sex certainly has its perks.

Many of us also remember a time before all the digitalized sex content : calendars, magazines, videotapes... Some things might not have changed much since the 60's and I think there is a case to be made there. Unfortunately (maybe?) that's not where I'm going with this...

What I mean is I think sex is featured, now more than ever, in almost every aspects of life.
Now let us set aside some obvious side effects of IT right away : I don't mean on internet necessarily, even thought my logic applies there too.

So set aside Pornhub and the equivalent websites : What I really mean is I feel like we can find sex today on Facebook, Instagram, Pinterest, TikTok and the like (and it might not be so subtle...) but also everywhere outside our phones.

Some examples to support and exemplify my point:
- Went to the mall recently. Can't walk for 2 minutes before seeing some sexually suggestive pictures (those on the front or side walls of very large businesses for sports/clothing/hair salons... One instance where I thought to myself : my god, it's everywhere!

- Another instance (may surprise you) was at a classical music festival. A woman came to play the piano. She was obviously very talented. Unfortunately, my focus was trouble by the fact that she had a very lowcut top and impressive cleavage. I don't at all mean to criticize her choice of clothing! I liked the view, which was a plus for me. Still, sex was there again, looling at her heavy looking breasts bouncing as she was playing this beautiful melody on my favourite instrument. Sex sex sex.

- I also remember going to classes at the local University. The way people used to dress, either inside or outside of the gym, felt like it gave, most of the time, sexual vibes to the point of feeling dissonant with the academic context : shirts that looked like brassieres, clothes you'd wear at a club... Anyways!

Obviously I also can't remember the last time I went to a cinema, watching a movie (low or high budget) and did "This or that character is there for pure sexual undertones." Most of the time it's in a scene where a character (90% female) wears something unnecessarily revealing.

A few more :
- Publicity ;
- News anchors ;
- TV
- Netflix
- ...

Am I the problem here? Is sexuality more "normalized" than ever or am I sexualizing everything? Did you have those thoughts also?

Comment if you like

 

[debrajane]

I get that this forum is more of a "what gets you going" kind of place.

Just felt like sharing a thought, nothing too deep, may sound obvious (and consequently boring) to you guys but here we go:

Is not sex everywhere today?

For the best and worst. Don't get me wrong : I love sex. Having grown up in an age where technology allows us to look at pictures, reading books about, watching videos of sex certainly has its perks.

Many of us also remember a time before all the digitalized sex content : calendars, magazines, videotapes... Some things might not have changed much since the 60's and I think there is a case to be made there. Unfortunately (maybe?) that's not where I'm going with this...

What I mean is I think sex is featured, now more than ever, in almost every aspects of life.
Now let us set aside some obvious side effects of IT right away : I don't mean on internet necessarily, even thought my logic applies there too.

So set aside Pornhub and the equivalent websites : What I really mean is I feel like we can find sex today on Facebook, Instagram, Pinterest, TikTok and the like (and it might not be so subtle...) but also everywhere outside our phones.

Some examples to support and exemplify my point:
- Went to the mall recently. Can't walk for 2 minutes before seeing some sexually suggestive pictures (those on the front or side walls of very large businesses for sports/clothing/hair salons... One instance where I thought to myself : my god, it's everywhere!

- Another instance (may surprise you) was at a classical music festival. A woman came to play the piano. She was obviously very talented. Unfortunately, my focus was trouble by the fact that she had a very lowcut top and impressive cleavage. I don't at all mean to criticize her choice of clothing! I liked the view, which was a plus for me. Still, sex was there again, looling at her heavy looking breasts bouncing as she was playing this beautiful melody on my favourite instrument. Sex sex sex.

- I also remember going to classes at the local University. The way people used to dress, either inside or outside of the gym, felt like it gave, most of the time, sexual vibes to the point of feeling dissonant with the academic context : shirts that looked like brassieres, clothes you'd wear at a club... Anyways!

Obviously I also can't remember the last time I went to a cinema, watching a movie (low or high budget) and did "This or that character is there for pure sexual undertones." Most of the time it's in a scene where a character (90% female) wears something unnecessarily revealing.

A few more :
- Publicity ;
- News anchors ;
- TV
- Netflix
- ...

Am I the problem here? Is sexuality more "normalized" than ever or am I sexualizing everything? Did you have those thoughts also?

Comment if you like

Greatly admire your awareness, and you are very "spot on" let's call it.
Sexuality is everywhere and while not a new thing, with more mediums available and accessible to all, it can seem to be, and like perhaps is, everywhere.
I am not disapproving, but I wanted to add that a healthy education is ever more so necessary to comprehend it all and build the knowledge to deal with it all. Society needs to acknowledge and find, and apply the proper resources for our children and younger minds to be able to regonize, comprehend, understand and build confidence. Many adults could benefit as well.
Is amazing to speak the language of sex, and embrace how amazing the human body and mind is.

 

[MorlockIam]

It is everywhere and always has been.

Just my take on it but I think a lot of people on sites like this aren't just looking for your standard type vanilla sex. They have fantasies or a specific take on a fetish etc and are seeking someone they can role play with or even just chat to.

 

[Bill_Doubleu]

"Sex sells" has been an "of course" ever since I can remember, which is around 1955. There wasn't as much crass as I remember in the before time.

 

[jehoram]

Am I the problem here? Is sexuality more "normalized" than ever or am I sexualizing everything? Did you have those thoughts also?

No, it is more common. A half a century ago, it would have been unthinkable for two people to be in one bed in a network sitcom. Now we have people who are not only in the same bed, but it's obvious that they've been fucking or are about to fuck. Only the actual act, or any nudity associated with it, is considered improper to broadcast. You'll have to go to cable for that, at least for now.

You could see it as a way that the media is aligning itself with real life, stuff that's always been going on but wasn't considered fit to show before. Or you could say that with the advent of pornography on the internet, stuff that was considered racy before is now considered common-place.

And, as others have noted, sex sells. And the better it sells, the more the advertisers push the envelope to increase sales.

I think it's an example of a culture evolving. Fundamentalist countries like Iran and Afghanistan are still scandalized by stuff that the Western countries don't consider improper, like bare arms or legs. I've had this discussion elsewhere, about how yoga pants are now seen in public because some women don't consider them as "sexy," just comfortable. If they show a camel toe now and then, well, that's the way women are shaped, and men should just get over it, just like they've gotten over bare arms and legs.

That's not to say that there will never be men who aren't over-stimulated by the sight of bare arms and legs, or nipples visible under sheer tops, or women whose breasts bobble as they walk. But we'll come to see that sort of thing as his problem, not her problem or society's problem.