Moaner, Screamer, or Quiet?
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Just the way I love it...
hrdmngd2find
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Women truly run the gamut in this area in my experience, but there is something piercing to me about the authentic sounds of a woman "losing it" in whatever way is her way. I think this is very hard to act, Meg Ryan's famous scene in "When Harry Met Sally" notwithstanding. It's why so much porn sounds fakey - a lot of porn actors are not great actors.
There's a scene in Madmen, I don't remember which season it was, one of the later ones: Draper is having a fling with this beautiful psychologist, and she's his age, a mature woman, a good match for him I thought, more than the other women he tangled with. At the start of the episode, I think it was, you hear her while he's fucking her. It's off camera, so you don't even see them at first, but you can tell, this is a woman, not a girl, and she's fully in the throes of getting off. Mmmmh, that was good acting. It got me.
Of course, natural sounds of ecstatic pleasure are not just during the orgasm itself, but through the whole process of a woman allowing her body to take over, and her becoming abandoned to or lost in the sheer pleasure for a bit. That's why we call it "losing it," it is a temporary abandonment of one's self-control and boundaries, and it is a key "skill" (if you can call it that) on the woman's part for her to be able let it happen. This is a slightly different subject, but women can be internally bound up in ways that hinder their ability to let go, and things like restraints or pretend non-consent can help release those inner bindings. That is, of course, aside from some good chemistry and enough skill on the part of her lover.
As a man, there is something profoundly gratifying to viscerally experience a woman responding naturally to what we're doing and to what I'm doing to her. I know women also often have a similar gratification in experiencing the powerful ways they can unhinge a man. I don't think it is a good idea to promote a "right way" to sound, or to even make it about sounds at all. The whole point of sex is being able to totally be yourself... isn't it? If not sex, then where? (ok, lol, getting way too philosophical!)
I know a lot of women fake it, and maybe, maybe... the average woman is pretty damn good at acting, lol. The fact that so many women are different from each other also makes the fake or not harder to determine. I would hope that women these days are getting to a point of better self-esteem overall that they're less inclined to do that (or that they're partnering more with guys who aren't pressuring them unconsciously to orgasm so they feel like they have to fake it). I would sort of expect women on lit to mainly ditch a guy like that, but...
There are some tell tail signs with some women that aren't sounds. I've had women's pussies practically eject my fingers or a toy. I've seen women's abdominal "ridging" with orgasmic contractions. I've also seen women "squirt," though that definitely isn't every woman, and it's not always at the point of orgasm. Anal contractions? Yes. Having said all that, I don't know that it is as visible with all women. Women vary too much.
There's a scene in Madmen, I don't remember which season it was, one of the later ones: Draper is having a fling with this beautiful psychologist, and she's his age, a mature woman, a good match for him I thought, more than the other women he tangled with. At the start of the episode, I think it was, you hear her while he's fucking her. It's off camera, so you don't even see them at first, but you can tell, this is a woman, not a girl, and she's fully in the throes of getting off. Mmmmh, that was good acting. It got me.
Of course, natural sounds of ecstatic pleasure are not just during the orgasm itself, but through the whole process of a woman allowing her body to take over, and her becoming abandoned to or lost in the sheer pleasure for a bit. That's why we call it "losing it," it is a temporary abandonment of one's self-control and boundaries, and it is a key "skill" (if you can call it that) on the woman's part for her to be able let it happen. This is a slightly different subject, but women can be internally bound up in ways that hinder their ability to let go, and things like restraints or pretend non-consent can help release those inner bindings. That is, of course, aside from some good chemistry and enough skill on the part of her lover.
As a man, there is something profoundly gratifying to viscerally experience a woman responding naturally to what we're doing and to what I'm doing to her. I know women also often have a similar gratification in experiencing the powerful ways they can unhinge a man. I don't think it is a good idea to promote a "right way" to sound, or to even make it about sounds at all. The whole point of sex is being able to totally be yourself... isn't it? If not sex, then where? (ok, lol, getting way too philosophical!)
I know a lot of women fake it, and maybe, maybe... the average woman is pretty damn good at acting, lol. The fact that so many women are different from each other also makes the fake or not harder to determine. I would hope that women these days are getting to a point of better self-esteem overall that they're less inclined to do that (or that they're partnering more with guys who aren't pressuring them unconsciously to orgasm so they feel like they have to fake it). I would sort of expect women on lit to mainly ditch a guy like that, but...
There are some tell tail signs with some women that aren't sounds. I've had women's pussies practically eject my fingers or a toy. I've seen women's abdominal "ridging" with orgasmic contractions. I've also seen women "squirt," though that definitely isn't every woman, and it's not always at the point of orgasm. Anal contractions? Yes. Having said all that, I don't know that it is as visible with all women. Women vary too much.
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newhere2learn
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Myself, moans and deep breaths. Some encouragement given.
My GF sadly, is quiet. Always has been, I'm slowly getting her to express herself.
Mercury_Maniac
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Quiet.
But I've never had any mind-blowing sex.
But I've never had any mind-blowing sex.
cypressknee
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The closer she getsā¦the dirtier I talkā¦I get bolder and bolder each timeā¦sometimes I describe situations that a think might turn her offā¦but she goes nuts and soaks the bed,my face,my lap,etc
Adrock1981
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all 3 of I'm really into it 
Carolinaman79
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Iām very vocalā¦moaning a lot
GoingBackToBed
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Fairly quiet
I love making some noise. I'd say I was a moaner and dirty talker.
AngelPanties
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Sigher, though i can moanā¦on occasion
kc_sweetNsour
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I can be quite loud if it's really good. Many times I say very VERY inappropriate things. Things I wouldn't dare say here.
shewantsmore
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Very much a moaner, screamer ,never ever quiet
Thats good to be that way. Then your lover knows if they are pleasing you or your getting board.
Secrethusband
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Iām very load moaner and sometimes scream if Iām brought there. But I do love the challenge of staying quiet or keeping a straight face to not get caught
Swingingbimn71
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Myself i am a Moaner and dirty talker.
Wife is a loud moaner and groaner as well as a dirty talker
Wife is a loud moaner and groaner as well as a dirty talker
vibes
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That's a good combo; whispering would also be good ... I am a growler, mostly
magicalmoments
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I give a bit of a grunt when I ejaculate but otherwise I'm quiet. My 1st wife was a screamer, alarmingly loud at times. My current wife is a moaner, with a tendency to grunt on those occasions she cums really hard. Also, my current wife is a talker as she is building up to orgasm, she says "good cock, good cock, good cock, good cock..." over and over until she comes with a grunt/moan.
