I know you too well to share my kinks.

[hotwords229_A]

Are you the kid that reminded the teacher that she forgot to give homework?

Don't ruin a good thing!

I think you’re getting confused by assuming you are the one getting your dick sucked. The question is about being the sucker not the suckee.

Or are you saying you’d rather suck a guy’s dick than kiss him on the lips? If so, .

And no, I rarely did my homework even when that kid reminded the teacher to assign it.

Based on what I’m learning about guys would rather suck a dick than kiss another dude, I’m now wondering, if you were about to make out with a guy and then a third guy slipped his dick between both of your lips would that count as not being intimate at all?
Would it even be gay if your lips didn’t touch?

 

[LadyLascivious1]

I came across this thread about ‘would you rather kiss a guy or suck his dick?’
https://forum.literotica.com/thread...-cock-or-kiss-him-on-the-lips.1238008/page-26
and wondered . . .

I’ve also read that a lot of porn stars don’t kiss because it’s too intimate.

Can (do) you engage in lustful sex that has no intimacy?
How is kissing more intimate than going down on someone?
Isn’t a kiss after oral just good manners?
If the question was posed to females, would the answer be “kiss” by massive numbers? Or are they just as casual about sex, but choosy with intimacy as guys?
What, in your opinion, is different about sucking a dick as opposed to kissing?

I could make an argument why either, or neither, are the most intimate.

Kissing is a paired, synchronous activity. You can look into each other’s eyes. You can feel and express a wider range of emotion while kissing. There’s no inherent beginning or ending and it can be initiated for a multitude of reasons.

Oral sex requires you to bare yourself physically. You’re hyper focused on body parts you usually conceal. You are trusting your partner to pleasure you. There’s often some level of societal guilt or shame attached to the act, especially for younger individuals and women.

What you find the most intimate is a reflection of personal preferences - what makes you feel the most connected with someone, the most vulnerable, etc.

 

[hotwords229_A]

I think what is interesting about this is that it seems to be a really good exercise in emotion vs. logic.

I totally agree with the idea that making out with someone is more intimate than blowing someone, on an emotional level, but logically, it makes no sense whatsoever.

It like Schroedinger’s cock . . .

Two straight male actors can make out in a movie/TV show and it doesn’t mean anything, two straight male porn actors can suck each other off (gay for pay) and it doesn’t mean anything, but I bet we all feel like those are not the same thing.

On the other hand, in real life, kissing seems more intimate and sucking cock doesn’t. At least emotionally.

There’s a double standard/contradiction there and I love it!

 

[LadyLascivious1]

I think what is interesting about this is that it seems to be a really good exercise in emotion vs. logic.

I totally agree with the idea that making out with someone is more intimate than blowing someone, on an emotional level, but logically, it makes no sense whatsoever.

It like Schroedinger’s cock . . .

Two straight male actors can make out in a movie/TV show and it doesn’t mean anything, two straight male porn actors can suck each other off (gay for pay) and it doesn’t mean anything, but I bet we all feel like those are not the same thing.

On the other hand, in real life, kissing seems more intimate and sucking cock doesn’t. At least emotionally.

There’s a double standard/contradiction there and I love it!

So it’s heart versus head?

 

[hotwords229_A]

With the exception of the cooler people among us, most of us can look back and wish we had been more experimental with sex.

What is something you wish you had tried or experimented with when it comes to sex?
What’s is stopping you from trying it now?

 

[Beholders_Eye]

With the exception of the cooler people among us, most of us can look back and wish we had been more experimental with sex.

What is something you wish you had tried or experimented with when it comes to sex?
What’s is stopping you from trying it now?

I never had the opportunity (or the awareness that it could be a thing) to cum anywhere in or on a woman except in her vagina. More specifically, never got to cum into her mouth. It was an unknown act to me, or to them until, of course, the internet. [That is assuming the lady would have allowed/enjoyed that act in the first place.] But now I have been treated for prostate cancer and have no semen to offer and that is stopping me from trying it now. To be sure, orgasms still occur; they are so-called dry orgasms. Immense feeling but lacking that quintessential substance to impart.
Sic transit gloria spermi....

 

[hotwords229_A]

I never had the opportunity (or the awareness that it could be a thing) to cum anywhere in or on a woman except in her vagina. More specifically, never got to cum into her mouth. It was an unknown act to me, or to them until, of course, the internet. [That is assuming the lady would have allowed/enjoyed that act in the first place.] But now I have been treated for prostate cancer and have no semen to offer and that is stopping me from trying it now. To be sure, orgasms still occur; they are so-called dry orgasms. Immense feeling but lacking that quintessential substance to impart.
Sic transit gloria spermi....

Prostate cancer seems to run in my family so it’s probably something I’ll have to deal with (hopefully not until I’m super old). I guess all guys get it if they live long enough, but getting it young is horrible.

I have wondered what a dry orgasm is like? How does it compare to a regular orgasm? Does it feel like you never really finish? The moment the cum comes out is part of the orgasmic feeling, is that part just lost? Or does it still feel the same, with no mess?

You never got to cum in a woman’s mouth, but did you ever cum in your own? It’s pretty awesome.

Feel free not to answer if you don’t want to.

 

[Beholders_Eye]

Prostate cancer seems to run in my family so it’s probably something I’ll have to deal with (hopefully not until I’m super old). I guess all guys get it if they live long enough, but getting it young is horrible.

I have wondered what a dry orgasm is like? How does it compare to a regular orgasm? Does it feel like you never really finish? The moment the cum comes out is part of the orgasmic feeling, is that part just lost? Or does it still feel the same, with no mess?

You never got to cum in a woman’s mouth, but did you ever cum in your own? It’s pretty awesome.

Feel free not to answer if you don’t want to.

The plus part of it is the 'no mess' part. As far as 'finishing', there is a just as strong a feeling as with semen. The penis expands at the climax, all the internal parts clench and pulse. Other parts of your body react the same as they used to; heavy breathing, etc. Almost a 'simulated' ejaculation, if that makes sense.

The orgasm is just as much desirable and sought after as before. Yes, there is a bit of 'anticlimax' so to speak, in that the visible evidence is not there. But, a guy's gotta do what a guy's gotta do...

 

[hotwords229_A]

The plus part of it is the 'no mess' part. As far as 'finishing', there is a just as strong a feeling as with semen. The penis expands at the climax, all the internal parts clench and pulse. Other parts of your body react the same as they used to; heavy breathing, etc. Almost a 'simulated' ejaculation, if that makes sense.

The orgasm is just as much desirable and sought after as before. Yes, there is a bit of 'anticlimax' so to speak, in that the visible evidence is not there. But, a guy's gotta do what a guy's gotta do...

Cool. I’m glad to hear that there isn’t a big difference.
I guess you could always splat some warm mayonnaise on yourself at just the right time.

 

[Orchidea73]

I've never understood the whole "kissing is more intimate than sucking a dick" thing.

Me neither. And I'm big on kissing and be kissed. Love it.
However, there are kisses and there are KISSES. Context is important too. You know, it depends from the person and kind of attachment you have. The way you kiss a person can reveal a lot.

 

[magic_rat]

I've never understood the whole "kissing is more intimate than sucking a dick" thing.

You've never been properly kissed, then.

When you have your dick in someone's mouth there is no challenge - it's all going on. And to be honest, close your eyes and it could be anyone.

Kissing is about anticipation and expectation - you can tell how good a person is in bed by how they kiss.

 

[hotwords229_A]

Does your sexual activity increase or decrease during the holidays/time off?
Why?

 

[Crownvic]

Does your sexual activity increase or decrease during the holidays/time off?
Why?

Up scope...

 

[Mnkinkcpl]

Does your sexual activity increase or decrease during the holidays/time off?
Why?

For me/us it tends to taper off a bit since our "friends" tend to have other obligations. New years eve is the restart of the swinging season, we have 3 couples and a single female coming over for a night of fun and debauchery.

I'm really looking forward to it, it's the first group activity for the single female and I am excited to see her reactions.

 

[may_I_please]

Does your sexual activity increase or decrease during the holidays/time off?
Why?

Well since the pandemic we are both at home a lot more so not really much difference

 

[Mtnmike]

Does your sexual activity increase or decrease during the holidays/time off?
Why?

A long term sexless marriage so guess i'd say neither.

 

[Crownvic]

A long term sexless marriage so guess i'd say neither.

That’s too bad...sorry!

 

[hotwords229_A]

A long term sexless marriage so guess i'd say neither.

Your hand still works (I assume). That counts as sexual activity in my book.

 

[may_I_please]

Last night I was res-erecting old threads and I found a few that I was a little embarrassed to dig out of the old Lit basement.

It occurred to me that when you are new to Lit it’s easy to walk in and share all kinds of crazy stuff, but as we get to know each other, it may become awkward to overshare.

Yeah I get it, it’s easy if you stay playful and not serious to be honest. But then you start to read certain posters and feel like you can’t connect because they intimidate the carefree persona you’ve adopted

This is, in my opinion, one of the issues with relationships. You may want your wife/girlfriend to don a strap-on and go to town on your butthole, but you are afraid to admit it, tell her about it or you are concerned that she might not be into seeing her man taking one for the team.

this is why you share porn to judge reactions. Then you can laugh it off if no positive reactions

Does this happen to you on Lit?
Do you find yourself not sharing as much with the people you become closer to so as to not tarnish your awesome, carefully cultivated Lit persona?

LOL, yeah I bite back some comments

Are you a little more bi than you let on?

Not at all. Though I do find it sexy to watch gay porn I have no personal interest

Are you kind of embarrassed to admit you “maybe” looked at the BDSM threads longer than you want people to know. Ter.

LOL, hell no

Have you considered creating another Lit account so you can post in (or create) threads that you are curious about, but you want to do it “anonymously”?

No I don’t have energy or subterfuge required and would fuck it up royally

Tell us, we know each other well enough.

 

[Mtnmike]

Your hand still works (I assume). That counts as sexual activity in my book.

It counts, problem is it's happened so much, he don't get excited bout that very often either.

 

[Orchidea73]

Does your sexual activity increase or decrease during the holidays/time off?
Why?

Neither. It's just that during the winter holidays it's more crowded and busy with family. So, less time and opportunities available, I guess.