Attracted to women, turned on by men

[Travisspank]

Married, similar age, but have been a bi-bottom for 20 years. Not physically attracted to guys and still check out and fantasize about women, but sexually I much prefer being with guys. Marriage isn’t active at all but we are still life partners, but for sex I go almost exclusively with a guy I’ve been fucking exclusively for a few years now.. it may be because as I’ve gotten older the possibility of me getting with the women I’m attracted to physically is pretty slim, but I think I’m now wired more to being the recipient of cock and cum, rather than the provider.

 

[Swuchmann]

Although I love women I have been a bi bottom for many years. With my wife/women I am always the dominate partner.

As a bottom I enjoy the feeling of being dominated and degraded by a dominant top. Totally being submissive to him and his sexual desires.

It provides a balance to my sexual being.

 

[roseburgsteve]

Married, similar age, but have been a bi-bottom for 20 years. Not physically attracted to guys and still check out and fantasize about women, but sexually I much prefer being with guys. Marriage isn’t active at all but we are still life partners, but for sex I go almost exclusively with a guy I’ve been fucking exclusively for a few years now.. it may be because as I’ve gotten older the possibility of me getting with the women I’m attracted to physically is pretty slim, but I think I’m now wired more to being the recipient of cock and cum, rather than the provider.

I am right there with you, only difference is I am attracted to men as much as women. But yes still married and sexless I mostly only been having gay sex

 

[Travisspank]

I am right there with you, only difference is I am attracted to men as much as women. But yes still married and sexless I mostly only been having gay sex

Have you thought what you would do if happened to be single again someday? I’m not sure…

 

[Iwillgo]

Sexless marriage so i look at all kinds of porn. Would be nice to be doing a guys wife doggy while he's under her licking my cock. Pull out and give him a few deep pumps in the mouth and back to her. Guess depends how horny Iam what I like.

Many times when I was in a 69 with my wife, I would fantasize of another guy sliding his cock into my mouth and then back into her wet pussy...

 

[AlexBailey]

Many times when I was in a 69 with my wife, I would fantasize of another guy sliding his cock into my mouth and then back into her wet pussy...

One of the yummiest things I’ve tasted is a cock that just came out of a pussy

 

[chapter6plan]

So I’m sure my story is not uncommon. I’m 48, married, but I’ve always wondered what it would be like to be with a man. The desire has been their since I was a teenager and has only grown stronger over the years. I’ve never had any gay experiences, I’m not looking to cheat and I’m comfortable with myself. The thing that I can’t wrap my brain around is that in real life I’m completely attracted to women. I’m constantly checking them out as I always have. But when I’m alone my thoughts only go to men. Of course the easy access to gay porn has only helped fuel this fire. It’s just strange to me that I could be pulled toward women on one level and yet be obsessed toward men on another level. It seems like, given how strongly I’m turned on by gay porn and thoughts of men, that it would translate to the real world. Yet I don’t find myself checking out men like I do women. Does anyone else feel this way? I don’t just obsess over cock, I fantasize about being with a man completely. The first date, flirting and kissing. The body contact, and feeling his strength and and energy, so different from a woman. And of course the sex, but hot and sweaty and slow and sensual. I sometimes think it’s just a kink and curiosity, other times I think I must be bi, and then sometimes I wonder if this is what it’s like to be in denial and in the closet. Would love to hear any genuine feedback, any thoughts about all of this. You can pm me as well. Thanks

I don't check out men either, unless they are nude (or nearly nude) and nicely built. Then, I can't take my eyes off them. I can entertain a fantasy with an average woman, but any man with a body less than about a 8.5/10 invokes a 'yuk!' from me. This is why I left Sniffies.com ... to many guys were kinda gross. Not that I'm anywhere near a 8/10, mind you.
I'm a virgin with men, but like you, I fantasize about having a male lover ... at least a fuck-buddy to play with. I think it's partly because I've done just about everything I ever wanted to do with a woman. Men are the undiscovered country. Also, during vaginal sex with my wife, my only job is to satisfy her. We tried anal intercourse a couple of times and it was really nice ... we both knew she wouldn't orgasm, so I was able to focus on my orgasm. I would like to both give and receive that selfish pleasure with another man.