Attracted to women, turned on by men

[Thwiq1]

So I’m sure my story is not uncommon. I’m 48, married, but I’ve always wondered what it would be like to be with a man. The desire has been their since I was a teenager and has only grown stronger over the years. I’ve never had any gay experiences, I’m not looking to cheat and I’m comfortable with myself. The thing that I can’t wrap my brain around is that in real life I’m completely attracted to women. I’m constantly checking them out as I always have. But when I’m alone my thoughts only go to men. Of course the easy access to gay porn has only helped fuel this fire. It’s just strange to me that I could be pulled toward women on one level and yet be obsessed toward men on another level. It seems like, given how strongly I’m turned on by gay porn and thoughts of men, that it would translate to the real world. Yet I don’t find myself checking out men like I do women. Does anyone else feel this way? I don’t just obsess over cock, I fantasize about being with a man completely. The first date, flirting and kissing. The body contact, and feeling his strength and and energy, so different from a woman. And of course the sex, but hot and sweaty and slow and sensual. I sometimes think it’s just a kink and curiosity, other times I think I must be bi, and then sometimes I wonder if this is what it’s like to be in denial and in the closet. Would love to hear any genuine feedback, any thoughts about all of this. You can pm me as well. Thanks

 

[FL30]

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[Gumby11747]

I am definitely of the same frame of mind. I am not attracted to men but find myself fantasizing about being the bottom to an aggressive male, willingly or coerced. It is definitely a powerful fantasy and I find that I cum hard while thinking about it.

 

[fitandfresh]

I am definitely of the same frame of mind. I am not attracted to men but find myself fantasizing about being the bottom to an aggressive male, willingly or coerced. It is definitely a powerful fantasy and I find that I cum hard while thinking about it.

Don't think we are alone in those thoughts......have had many women and enjoyed them all but the older I have got the more curious I have become about how good it would be to have a male buddy......perhaps j/o to start then seeing how and what developed

 

[AlexBailey]

Hmmm,

I am married, a similar age and have similar fantasies (though mine include self-feminization). What is it for you? Are you actually attracted to the male anatomy or is it more a matter of sexual roles?


I'm less attracted to male bodies than female but the idea of having a lover take control and make love to me by penetrating me is extremely erotic. I've always been an enthusiastic heterosexual lover but I ache to spread my legs and be on the receiving end of the encounter with someone else getting off and orgasming while fucking me.

I'm an average size male so it happens that there are few women big enough to 'take me' the way I imagine. I've been pegged but I can tell that a real cock on a bigger person would feel far better. I often have fantasies of being with a 'gentle giant' of a man who would treat me like a beautiful girl, both in and out of the bedroom. I had some bi-experimentation when I was younger but I regret that I was not emotionally ready for it at the time so it did not get as far as I would have liked.

The biggest fantasy I have these days is to be with another femme guy where we do each other as equals, taking turns honoring the feminine and masculine in each other. Currently I find few things more erotic than a cute chick with a nice dick. Alas, my wife is strictly monogamous and would leave me if I slept with someone else. I love her too much and we have too much invested in our shared lives for me to forsake our marriage, so sadly my fringe desires live only in my imagination.

But yeah, "The body contact, and feeling his strength and and energy..." I get it!

 

[Thwiq1]

go here: https://forum.literotica.com/showthread.php?t=1107507

Thanks for this link, looks like it could be helpful.

 

[Thwiq1]

go here: https://forum.literotica.com/showthread.php?t=1107507

I am definitely of the same frame of mind. I am not attracted to men but find myself fantasizing about being the bottom to an aggressive male, willingly or coerced. It is definitely a powerful fantasy and I find that I cum hard while thinking about it.

Exactly. It’s an extremely powerful fantasy, one that gets me off over and over. I rarely fantasize about women these days, it’s all cock all the time.

 

[Thwiq1]

Don't think we are alone in those thoughts......have had many women and enjoyed them all but the older I have got the more curious I have become about how good it would be to have a male buddy......perhaps j/o to start then seeing how and what developed

Yes, realistically starting out slow with a male buddy is probably how it would happen. But my fantasies are always way more involved than that. I want it all.

 

[luvemboth]

I have absolutely no attraction to men, and quite honsetly couldn't tell the difference between a handsome/non-handsome man. However, I'm a sucker (literally) for a nice cock. My attraction to women, however, extends to the entire package. Weird? Could be. Who knows?

 

[GentlemanJedi63]

Cocks are beautiful

So I’m sure my story is not uncommon. I’m 48, married, but I’ve always wondered what it would be like to be with a man. The desire has been their since I was a teenager and has only grown stronger over the years. I’ve never had any gay experiences, I’m not looking to cheat and I’m comfortable with myself. The thing that I can’t wrap my brain around is that in real life I’m completely attracted to women. I’m constantly checking them out as I always have. But when I’m alone my thoughts only go to men. Of course the easy access to gay porn has only helped fuel this fire. It’s just strange to me that I could be pulled toward women on one level and yet be obsessed toward men on another level. It seems like, given how strongly I’m turned on by gay porn and thoughts of men, that it would translate to the real world. Yet I don’t find myself checking out men like I do women. Does anyone else feel this way? I don’t just obsess over cock, I fantasize about being with a man completely. The first date, flirting and kissing. The body contact, and feeling his strength and and energy, so different from a woman. And of course the sex, but hot and sweaty and slow and sensual. I sometimes think it’s just a kink and curiosity, other times I think I must be bi, and then sometimes I wonder if this is what it’s like to be in denial and in the closet. Would love to hear any genuine feedback, any thoughts about all of this. You can pm me as well. Thanks

I am 57, and this description fits me perfectly. I am married, attracted to women, but love cock. I have never taken the plunge although I became aware of my curiosity at 19 due to fear of disease, discovery, etc. I do not consider myself as gay, but my desires are definitely homosexual in nature.
Over time, my interests, desires, have become more pronounced, and I have developed preferences. For example, at 57, I find myself preferring men over 60, having dad bods, married, and preferably gay.

Although I fantasize about women, many of my sexual fantasies involve cock. I fantasize about being seduced by an older gay man, taught how to enjoy the cock, and to fully embrace those desires. I also fantasize about wearing bra, panties, etc., and being the girl

I enjoy men in tight underwear, and do not notice the man as much, but spend time drooling over a well defined bulge.

I guess this may explain why I enjoy shemale porn. I can see the feminine beauty along with the beauty of the cock.

 

[Jaime1493]

Turned On By Men

I started at age 15 with my best friend. Been bi ever since.

 

[betabrad]

I am attracted to women , not attracted to men, but I admit that i get turned on by looking at a big hard cock.

 

[stargame]

As a feminine being I admit I am attracted to handsome men. But I am attracted to beautiful women too. Albeit I wish to be treated as feminine by both.

 

[Hitchiker69]

I've been attracted to men ever since I can remember. Sometimes, in the presence of a larger attractive man, I can get giddy and act like a silly girl. I can't help myself.
But I also enjoy women. Can't do without tits and ass, and admire a nice body.
Fortunately I had a fair amount of gay experiences in my younger years. Now, as an older married man, it's just easier to be straight.
But I still have the desire to embrace a naked man, suck a hard warm cock, and get a solid fuck from him. There is no substitute for gay sex, it is unique and very hot.
I need both, and to play both roles, and enjoy both cocks, tits and asses. Always have been this way, always will be.
In a perfect world I'd have an understanding wife, who accepts that I need men, too.
Even better if she loved pussy, and got off being watched while she
has lesbian sex.

 

[klippert]

I am attracted to women , not attracted to men, but I admit that i get turned on by looking at a big hard cock.

As do I, and their round butts...only because I have the urge to suck and rim him

 

[FL30]

I've been attracted to men ever since I can remember. Sometimes, in the presence of a larger attractive man, I can get giddy and act like a silly girl. I can't help myself.
But I also enjoy women. Can't do without tits and ass, and admire a nice body.
Fortunately I had a fair amount of gay experiences in my younger years. Now, as an older married man, it's just easier to be straight.
But I still have the desire to embrace a naked man, suck a hard warm cock, and get a solid fuck from him. There is no substitute for gay sex, it is unique and very hot.
I need both, and to play both roles, and enjoy both cocks, tits and asses. Always have been this way, always will be.
In a perfect world I'd have an understanding wife, who accepts that I need men, too.
Even better if she loved pussy, and got off being watched while she
has lesbian sex.

yes, life would be easier if everyone was bi and accepting of others that were bi, as well. then we could all just share and share alike and no one would be bothered by us having sex with the same sex or the opposite sex.

 

[hulmule]

Sexless marriage so i look at all kinds of porn. Would be nice to be doing a guys wife doggy while he's under her licking my cock. Pull out and give him a few deep pumps in the mouth and back to her. Guess depends how horny Iam what I like.

 

[Wanking_Frank]

I have absolutely no attraction to men, and quite honsetly couldn't tell the difference between a handsome/non-handsome man. However, I'm a sucker (literally) for a nice cock. My attraction to women, however, extends to the entire package. Weird? Could be. Who knows?

That’s closer to what my reality is. I love everything about women and could only have a fulfilling relationship with a woman. A deep emotional and intimiate connection, with nothing held back.

When it comes to men, I just want dick, balls, cum, in my mouth and in my ass. I want to feel like a complete slut. Don’t give a shit about my own cock, just his.

 

[Chi_Guy_68]

Jon the club. Many of us in this form are very similar to you.

I'm a 51 year old married man. I am also attracted to women in that I can't help but check them out when I see an attractive woman.

But I'm very curious about having sex with a man. Like you I want the whole package - kissing, touching, licking each other's bodies, sucking a nice hard dick (and him sucking mine), and getting fucked (having an amazing prostate orgasm).

At first I also was mostly focused on a nice cock. But now I can admit when a man is attractive - especially with a nice body.

I guess I would identify as bi (once I take the plunge to have gay sex). But I only ever see myself in a romantic relationship with a woman.

 

[rickdickerson]

Straight to Bi to Gay.

So I’m sure my story is not uncommon. I’m 48, married, but I’ve always wondered what it would be like to be with a man. The desire has been their since I was a teenager and has only grown stronger over the years. I’ve never had any gay experiences, I’m not looking to cheat and I’m comfortable with myself. The thing that I can’t wrap my brain around is that in real life I’m completely attracted to women. I’m constantly checking them out as I always have. But when I’m alone my thoughts only go to men. Of course the easy access to gay porn has only helped fuel this fire. It’s just strange to me that I could be pulled toward women on one level and yet be obsessed toward men on another level. It seems like, given how strongly I’m turned on by gay porn and thoughts of men, that it would translate to the real world. Yet I don’t find myself checking out men like I do women. Does anyone else feel this way? I don’t just obsess over cock, I fantasize about being with a man completely. The first date, flirting and kissing. The body contact, and feeling his strength and and energy, so different from a woman. And of course the sex, but hot and sweaty and slow and sensual. I sometimes think it’s just a kink and curiosity, other times I think I must be bi, and then sometimes I wonder if this is what it’s like to be in denial and in the closet. Would love to hear any genuine feedback, any thoughts about all of this. You can pm me as well. Thanks

Your story is far more common than you think. I too am attracted to women and their absolute femininity and gentle soft beauty. But over the years I've come to accept that I am also attracted to Men. It started out being attracted to other crossdressers ( I grew up crossdressing), and then transgender / shemales with Big Juicy Cocks - The best of both worlds, feminine with a big Dick. As I grew older and found myself in a sexless marriage situation, my attraction to Men grew. I was never attracted to Men physically, but now I absolutely love big, bulky big chested, thick thighed hairy Men. Especially if they have a well-groomed beard. I find them so hot... I've conditioned myself by masturbating to these type of Men so much, that I can barely get hard for women anymore.

 

[klippert]

I've been attracted to men ever since I can remember. Sometimes, in the presence of a larger attractive man, I can get giddy and act like a silly girl. I can't help myself.
But I also enjoy women. Can't do without tits and ass, and admire a nice body.
Fortunately I had a fair amount of gay experiences in my younger years. Now, as an older married man, it's just easier to be straight.
But I still have the desire to embrace a naked man, suck a hard warm cock, and get a solid fuck from him. There is no substitute for gay sex, it is unique and very hot.
I need both, and to play both roles, and enjoy both cocks, tits and asses. Always have been this way, always will be.
In a perfect world I'd have an understanding wife, who accepts that I need men, too.
Even better if she loved pussy, and got off being watched while she
has lesbian sex.

I have this unique perspective as well....can't get enough of women..all shapes and sizes...but, that attraction to men...well...male male sex is that battle. I just want to tell my wife and get it over with...but, I don't want the drama. nor is running around and taking a health risk (not SARS panic 2020).
that's why I chat with some of the Bros here...it would certainly be nice to find a married gent with same interest ... that wouldn't red flag for the mrs.

 

[yukonnights]

Your story is far more common than you think. I too am attracted to women and their absolute femininity and gentle soft beauty. But over the years I've come to accept that I am also attracted to Men. It started out being attracted to other crossdressers ( I grew up crossdressing), and then transgender / shemales with Big Juicy Cocks - The best of both worlds, feminine with a big Dick. As I grew older and found myself in a sexless marriage situation, my attraction to Men grew. I was never attracted to Men physically, but now I absolutely love big, bulky big chested, thick thighed hairy Men. Especially if they have a well-groomed beard. I find them so hot... I've conditioned myself by masturbating to these type of Men so much, that I can barely get hard for women anymore.

Wow, a sexless marriage at 45 years of age is a tough situation. I've always avoided married men who have to cheat in order to satisfy their bisexual side — but in such a situation as this I'm not sure what to say. At the least I can hear your pain and say follow your inner voice — and don't make any decisions when your really horny. Think it all out with the big head, not the smaller one.

 

[exgovie]

So I’m sure my story is not uncommon. I’m 48, married, but I’ve always wondered what it would be like to be with a man. The desire has been their since I was a teenager and has only grown stronger over the years. I’ve never had any gay experiences, I’m not looking to cheat and I’m comfortable with myself. The thing that I can’t wrap my brain around is that in real life I’m completely attracted to women. I’m constantly checking them out as I always have. But when I’m alone my thoughts only go to men. Of course the easy access to gay porn has only helped fuel this fire. It’s just strange to me that I could be pulled toward women on one level and yet be obsessed toward men on another level. It seems like, given how strongly I’m turned on by gay porn and thoughts of men, that it would translate to the real world. Yet I don’t find myself checking out men like I do women. Does anyone else feel this way? I don’t just obsess over cock, I fantasize about being with a man completely. The first date, flirting and kissing. The body contact, and feeling his strength and and energy, so different from a woman. And of course the sex, but hot and sweaty and slow and sensual. I sometimes think it’s just a kink and curiosity, other times I think I must be bi, and then sometimes I wonder if this is what it’s like to be in denial and in the closet. Would love to hear any genuine feedback, any thoughts about all of this. You can pm me as well. Thanks

Not uncommon when you are getting older and life seems a little stale you think of would I ever? Site like this lets you live at least in your imagination what you will probably never do.

 

[cuck72]

Let me join this club. I'm always thinking of other men fucking all my wife's holes, filling her old cunt, mouth and asshole. I LOVE! checking out other women, their asses, tit's and hopefully see a nice camel toe. But I also beat off, thinking of being a guys GF. I get excited thinking of acting out in panties and girl cloths, and satisfying a big strong man. The thought of being the opposite sex at times, sucking my mans cock, and being fucked.

 

[carln3346]

Not uncommon when you are getting older and life seems a little stale you think of would I ever? Site like this lets you live at least in your imagination what you will probably never do.

Sometimes the fantasy is better than reality, but then again sometimes a man discovers something he likes.