Attracted to women, turned on by men

[wyzrd]

Not the only one

I have been there myself much like the others. Curiosity for me didn't start until my mid-30s. It really caught me off guard when it did. I grew strong enough that I had to explore.

I ended up on a yahoo group and decided to meet a guy and see what happened from there. We went back to my hotel and I had a taste of my first cock. Wow, what an experience. It was better than I could have imagined. Fast forward about a year later and the same guy I again wanted to make curiosity reality and let him take my ass.

With all that said I have been with 5 guys over the years. Three things that have happened with all of them. We have sucked each other off. I have been their bottom, and I have never kissed any of them. This being said I do not consider myself attracted to men at all. I don't look at a guy in public and think about being with him. I am attracted to the cock and what can be done with it. No more, no less. I have tried to explain that to someone before and they don't think it is possible to love women and want cock without being some label. Nice that I am not the only person that thinks that way.

 

[SurreyGent]

Not uncommon when you are getting older and life seems a little stale you think of would I ever? Site like this lets you live at least in your imagination what you will probably never do.

So true. At the age of 56 I'm married, kids grown up. I love my wife and still find other women attractive and sometimes flirt. I have no attraction to men other than a physical lust to suck and pleasure an older man and possibly let him fuck me. I don't want to be sucked. I just want to give. Strange isn't it.

 

[Tayloroc]

Not strange at all! Happened to me too

 

[Marsmonkey]

+1 here too.

I'm in my early 40s, however I can relate to almost all of the topics in this thread...early onset guy interest, the girly side of life, growing guy interest, cuckoldry interest, primary attraction to women, finding guys attractive, etc.

I have found this to be a recurring discussion across a plethora of platforms over countless years.

There is definitely a commonality, yet I've never come across any studies, firm theories, etc.

 

[Astroman72]

55 here. I've dealt with this all my life, and didn't realize how common it was until I got on this forum.

Never had the slightest bit of romantic or emotional interest in men. And even in the physical sense, if I see a hot woman in tight leggings, my eyes are instantly drawn to that butt. I literally don't think I've ever once been drawn to look at a guy that way in public, or in non-sexual media images.

But when the clothes come off, a thick, white, circumcised penis (especially that looks like mine) just drives me wild with desire, and I'm a big fan of both oral and anal (straight or gay, giving or receiving) as well.

I'm not submissive or feminine, and really dominant, controlling guys turn me off on every level--but aside from that, I do fantasize about gay sex on a regular basis.

For me, I guess I kind of see gay sex as a really exciting form of masturbation---incredible sexual pleasure, but more of a bodily function than any emotional or romantic experience. Because of this, I've chosen to keep my gay desires in the realm of fantasy, masturbation, and discussion boards like this. I concluded long ago that my life is a lot simpler and more stress-free if I stick to women in the real world. I suppose it might be different if I really felt I was gay, but with me it's more of an intense sexual fetish than anything else, and I don't feel a need to pursue that in real life. Now, if the ideal gay sex scenario presented itself to me, I probably wouldn't be able to resist--but I don't seek it out.

I have a very vivid sexual imagination and wide range of desires, and there's no way I could live them all out anyways. I figure I have to draw a line somewhere, anyway.

 

[mtsnowrider]

No doubt a shrink would have a field day analyzing all these conflicting feelings. Looking back I know I was always attracted to the confident, good looking cool guys. Maybe I just wanted to be one of them because, even though I projected being cool and aloof, I really felt somehow inadequate - smart, high achiever but not comfortable with my body or anything not cerebral. Fast forward to a solid marriage, children and now grandchildren, successful career, prominent and respected in my community but still envious of the "cool guys" . I realize I have never had any truly close men friends, never felt like "one of the guys." Increasingly I find myself looking at attractive older men and wondering what it would be like to have them as a friend and, maybe, a lover. i would bever consider sharing these feelings with the few friends i do have. No sex at home anymore and my wanking is always to gay porn but the idea of a random hook up with a stranger does not interest me at all.

 

[lit_ch3]

55 here. I've dealt with this all my life, and didn't realize how common it was until I got on this forum.

Never had the slightest bit of romantic or emotional interest in men. And even in the physical sense, if I see a hot woman in tight leggings, my eyes are instantly drawn to that butt. I literally don't think I've ever once been drawn to look at a guy that way in public, or in non-sexual media images.

But when the clothes come off, a thick, white, circumcised penis (especially that looks like mine) just drives me wild with desire, and I'm a big fan of both oral and anal (straight or gay, giving or receiving) as well.

I'm not submissive or feminine, and really dominant, controlling guys turn me off on every level--but aside from that, I do fantasize about gay sex on a regular basis.

For me, I guess I kind of see gay sex as a really exciting form of masturbation---incredible sexual pleasure, but more of a bodily function than any emotional or romantic experience. Because of this, I've chosen to keep my gay desires in the realm of fantasy, masturbation, and discussion boards like this. I concluded long ago that my life is a lot simpler and more stress-free if I stick to women in the real world. I suppose it might be different if I really felt I was gay, but with me it's more of an intense sexual fetish than anything else, and I don't feel a need to pursue that in real life. Now, if the ideal gay sex scenario presented itself to me, I probably wouldn't be able to resist--but I don't seek it out.

I have a very vivid sexual imagination and wide range of desires, and there's no way I could live them all out anyways. I figure I have to draw a line somewhere, anyway.

Agree with you on a lot of this. I put something up in another thread that went like "I'm not going to initiate, but would I reciprocate? Absolutely."

 

[Escierto]

I have absolutely zero attraction to men but I love women. I am not only attracted to them - unlike many men I like women. As far as being turned on by men, I would not say that’s true but I do love a cock on a woman. In fact I am a complete slut for a woman with a cock. As I am with my transgender girlfriend who has a beautiful big cock. Lucky for me, she is a pure top and I delight in being her bottom.

 

[Funguy63]

I'm 60 and long been interested in what women and gay men see in a cock. The more I watched Trans porn the more I got it.
The desire to see a cock up close, to feel it and maybe suck it. I have always liked my ass played with so reading stories of male submission turn me on.

 

[Bisexguy70]

I think i feel the same as most on here. My first porno mag showed this hot chic but as i turned the pages, a cock was revealed under the skirt. Im a young boy with raging hormones and this set me on fire. I jerked off to those photos a lot. Later in life i was drawn to she-male tranny section in adult vid/mag stores. I realized that the site of a big cock turned me on. I actually wanted to become like the models i saw. This is where i dabbled in crossdressing. I wasnt going to change my persona, just wanted to feel the sexual energy they had. I finally was so curious and i had an NSA hook up and sucked my first cock. Not attracted to men but i cant deny the raging hard on I got feeling a cock in my mouth throb. Just admitting that is making me get hard now. Then i tried wearing lingerie as i met more and more men to have mutual oral fun. I love the feel of being vulnerable and the submissive, on my knees and hearing a guy moan. I don't see men as attractive and still get turned on by a hot woman. However sometimes i imagine myself being them and how hot it would be pleasing their husbands or BF. Any time ive been naked with another man and we played with each other led me to have intense orgasms. So much more fulfilling then just jerking off. When i watch pornos im always picturing myself as the female actor and how good it must feel to be in her shoes…err heels… or basically in her place. I love being the object of a mans widest and dirtiest fantasy

 

[Chi_Guy_68]

55 here. I've dealt with this all my life, and didn't realize how common it was until I got on this forum.

Never had the slightest bit of romantic or emotional interest in men. And even in the physical sense, if I see a hot woman in tight leggings, my eyes are instantly drawn to that butt. I literally don't think I've ever once been drawn to look at a guy that way in public, or in non-sexual media images.

But when the clothes come off, a thick, white, circumcised penis (especially that looks like mine) just drives me wild with desire, and I'm a big fan of both oral and anal (straight or gay, giving or receiving) as well.

I'm not submissive or feminine, and really dominant, controlling guys turn me off on every level--but aside from that, I do fantasize about gay sex on a regular basis.

For me, I guess I kind of see gay sex as a really exciting form of masturbation---incredible sexual pleasure, but more of a bodily function than any emotional or romantic experience. Because of this, I've chosen to keep my gay desires in the realm of fantasy, masturbation, and discussion boards like this. I concluded long ago that my life is a lot simpler and more stress-free if I stick to women in the real world. I suppose it might be different if I really felt I was gay, but with me it's more of an intense sexual fetish than anything else, and I don't feel a need to pursue that in real life. Now, if the ideal gay sex scenario presented itself to me, I probably wouldn't be able to resist--but I don't seek it out.

I have a very vivid sexual imagination and wide range of desires, and there's no way I could live them all out anyways. I figure I have to draw a line somewhere, anyway.

I can identify with a lot of what you said. But I'm more and more leaning towards acting on my desire for gay/bi sex rather than just fantasizing.

One reason is hey, we've only one life to live so why not try something we desire.

And the other is - how will I ever know if I actually like it or not unless I try it? I know I like pussy because I've had it; I should try dick to find out if I like dick too....

 

[J1biboi]

I can identify with a lot of what you said. But I'm more and more leaning towards acting on my desire for gay/bi sex rather than just fantasizing.

One reason is hey, we've only one life to live so why not try something we desire.

And the other is - how will I ever know if I actually like it or not unless I try it? I know I like pussy because I've had it; I should try dick to find out if I like dick too....

Yes, you should try it and I would bet you will like it!

 

[Jodaily]

Love women! Fantasize about sucking cock and swallowing hot gooey loads. Damn, just made myself hard. Again!

 

[Wag_that_tail86]

Women are beautiful and I love straight and gay porn, but more often find myself dreaming of men with strong bodies, taking a smoothed, shaved cock and balls in my mouth, sucking and loving it until he is ready to cum, and just before he needs release he turns me over and fucks me.

 

[Chi_Guy_68]

Yes, you should try it and I would bet you will like it!

I agree and I think I will love it - once I try it.
Only one way to know for sure....

 

[stargame]

Women are beautiful and I love straight and gay porn, but more often find myself dreaming of men with strong bodies, taking a smoothed, shaved cock and balls in my mouth, sucking and loving it until he is ready to cum, and just before he needs release he turns me over and fucks me.

Yes, as in a real dream!

 

[stargame]

There is nothing more intimate than being touch by a handsome masculine man. Again like most here, the female form is magical and magnificent, but there is so much power in a hard hard cock that I must acknowledge.

 

[Escierto]

There is nothing more intimate than being touch by a handsome masculine man. Again like most here, the female form is magical and magnificent, but there is so much power in a hard hard cock that I must acknowledge.

Unless of course you find the two together?

 

[stargame]

Unless of course you find the two together?
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[stargame]

I think i feel the same as most on here. My first porno mag showed this hot chic but as i turned the pages, a cock was revealed under the skirt. Im a young boy with raging hormones and this set me on fire. I jerked off to those photos a lot. Later in life i was drawn to she-male tranny section in adult vid/mag stores. I realized that the site of a big cock turned me on. I actually wanted to become like the models i saw. This is where i dabbled in crossdressing. I wasnt going to change my persona, just wanted to feel the sexual energy they had. I finally was so curious and i had an NSA hook up and sucked my first cock. Not attracted to men but i cant deny the raging hard on I got feeling a cock in my mouth throb. Just admitting that is making me get hard now. Then i tried wearing lingerie as i met more and more men to have mutual oral fun. I love the feel of being vulnerable and the submissive, on my knees and hearing a guy moan. I don't see men as attractive and still get turned on by a hot woman. However sometimes i imagine myself being them and how hot it would be pleasing their husbands or BF. Any time ive been naked with another man and we played with each other led me to have intense orgasms. So much more fulfilling then just jerking off. When i watch pornos im always picturing myself as the female actor and how good it must feel to be in her shoes…err heels… or basically in her place. I love being the object of a mans widest and dirtiest fantasy

So so true.
I am always the girl too when I watch videos.

 

[Jodaily]

I absolutely love women, but there's something about cock that's just hot. Not necessarily the man, but the cock.

 

[Dreamer110]

I absolutely love women, but there's something about cock that's just hot. Not necessarily the man, but the cock.

I'd have to agree.

 

[fungent1103]

I guess I would say I have always adored a fine feminine body. Over the last 20 years or so I have developed a longing to
be with a man. Aside from the few experiences I've had with guys, Women are the objects of my eye.
Lately though I find that I think about men sexually, and I enjoy the thoughts of being with a guy.
I would like to find a fwb to play and explore with. Massage and sexual contact are real ejnjoyable th think about.
When I have some time I sit on lit here and enjoy all the photos while using a toy or two.

I like smaller body frames, I would think. Smooth is sexy.

I would like to pm with someone and have a good time.

 

[Twincam1550]

I have absolutely no attraction to men, and quite honsetly couldn't tell the difference between a handsome/non-handsome man. However, I'm a sucker (literally) for a nice cock. My attraction to women, however, extends to the entire package. Weird? Could be. Who knows?

Me too, I only check out women really like sucking cock when I get a chance

 

[kimjohnsoncd]

Hmmm,

I am married, a similar age and have similar fantasies (though mine include self-feminization). What is it for you? Are you actually attracted to the male anatomy or is it more a matter of sexual roles?


I'm less attracted to male bodies than female but the idea of having a lover take control and make love to me by penetrating me is extremely erotic. I've always been an enthusiastic heterosexual lover but I ache to spread my legs and be on the receiving end of the encounter with someone else getting off and orgasming while fucking me.

I'm an average size male so it happens that there are few women big enough to 'take me' the way I imagine. I've been pegged but I can tell that a real cock on a bigger person would feel far better. I often have fantasies of being with a 'gentle giant' of a man who would treat me like a beautiful girl, both in and out of the bedroom. I had some bi-experimentation when I was younger but I regret that I was not emotionally ready for it at the time so it did not get as far as I would have liked.

The biggest fantasy I have these days is to be with another femme guy where we do each other as equals, taking turns honoring the feminine and masculine in each other. Currently I find few things more erotic than a cute chick with a nice dick. Alas, my wife is strictly monogamous and would leave me if I slept with someone else. I love her too much and we have too much invested in our shared lives for me to forsake our marriage, so sadly my fringe desires live only in my imagination.

But yeah, "The body contact, and feeling his strength and and energy..." I get it!

The complications of life. I have always cross dressed, practically lived with a man as his woman when I was much younger and passable. I often think about how that was. I also think about finding another feminized and loving partner to have a sort of translesbian fling with. Fantasy or possibility, it's all mind boggling.