CookingDom
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- Joined
- Nov 10, 2010
- Posts
- 119
Whether you are an online Dom with a hoard of virtual trolls/sock puppets/submissives, or a real life Dom who simply uses this site, and sites like it must be understood that you have a duty of care to the submissives you speak to.
A recent thread I decided to amuse myself with involved a sub who was obviously in some kind of mental state that meant being involved on these forums in the way that was perhaps not in her best interests.
Whether she was brainwashed into her state of mind or simply someone with no grasp of the essence of D/s, if a Dom takes on a sub for whatever reason, whether a few
hours/days of wank fodder or something more, then he has a responsibility to see it through.
This sub clearly needed help, not necessarily medically, but certainly from the Dom who lit the fuse by having her post on here.
When she was being ridiculed (yes by me too), he chose to stay away and wait until the thread had grown, only to come back to defend and distance himself rather than show that he cared about the sub in question.
If you begin 'dominating' a submissive, even more so with a newbie, have the balls to see it through instead of dropping him/her the minute she doesn't fit in with your 'standards'.
This sub was memoing other Doms, myself included, expressing concern that she couldn't get hold of him but believing everything these doms were telling her. In one memo to me, she was upset at not being able to set up a checking account?? Why would a sub be setting up a checking account 3 days into serving a dom?
When it became apparent this person was not 'all there' the dom should have done the decent thing and took her to one side and got her to understand exactly what she was doing and how it has nothing to do with D/s - instead of exploiting her.
I just hope that other potential subs see the threads like those on here and see them for what they are,
and see the doms for what they aren't.
It's scary enough for anyone new beginning their journey into submission, especially when most of what they see online while researching are either the extremes of the lifestyle that they will probably never experience, or the results of years of commitment between an established Dom and sub couple.
How about we welcome them to the lifestyle and actually think about what THEY are going through and not be complete cunts and abuse the position of trust they have bestowed on us.
A recent thread I decided to amuse myself with involved a sub who was obviously in some kind of mental state that meant being involved on these forums in the way that was perhaps not in her best interests.
Whether she was brainwashed into her state of mind or simply someone with no grasp of the essence of D/s, if a Dom takes on a sub for whatever reason, whether a few
hours/days of wank fodder or something more, then he has a responsibility to see it through.
This sub clearly needed help, not necessarily medically, but certainly from the Dom who lit the fuse by having her post on here.
When she was being ridiculed (yes by me too), he chose to stay away and wait until the thread had grown, only to come back to defend and distance himself rather than show that he cared about the sub in question.
If you begin 'dominating' a submissive, even more so with a newbie, have the balls to see it through instead of dropping him/her the minute she doesn't fit in with your 'standards'.
This sub was memoing other Doms, myself included, expressing concern that she couldn't get hold of him but believing everything these doms were telling her. In one memo to me, she was upset at not being able to set up a checking account?? Why would a sub be setting up a checking account 3 days into serving a dom?
When it became apparent this person was not 'all there' the dom should have done the decent thing and took her to one side and got her to understand exactly what she was doing and how it has nothing to do with D/s - instead of exploiting her.
I just hope that other potential subs see the threads like those on here and see them for what they are,
and see the doms for what they aren't.
It's scary enough for anyone new beginning their journey into submission, especially when most of what they see online while researching are either the extremes of the lifestyle that they will probably never experience, or the results of years of commitment between an established Dom and sub couple.
How about we welcome them to the lifestyle and actually think about what THEY are going through and not be complete cunts and abuse the position of trust they have bestowed on us.