Category X! I love it... LM, you can be a card carrying, charter member of my category X...
i'll happily be member number 2!
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Category X! I love it... LM, you can be a card carrying, charter member of my category X...
Here's mine, just love the thought of stuffing a hot gaping hole with my strap-on Damn, hot thread
So several weeks I posted how I'd been thinking about this for a while and really was hoping for some advice on how to communicate this with my wife. Well, I finally brought it up while we were resting after a good "go". I told her that I thought we had great sex, but wondered if she would want to add something to the experience. She asked what do you mean, and I asked her if she would want to try to start using some toys. She looked a little startled, and then said that I satisfied her and she didn't need any toys. I paused and then said "well what about some toys for me? ". I think this shocked her a bit, and as it sunk in with her, she said that she was sorry but that she really didn't think she could do that. So I guess that leaves me out of luck, but it's been two weeks and I still can't get the fantasy out of my mind. So all that said, how long should I wait before I bring it up again? Or after this, should this just stay a fantasy?
So several weeks I posted how I'd been thinking about this for a while and really was hoping for some advice on how to communicate this with my wife. Well, I finally brought it up while we were resting after a good "go". I told her that I thought we had great sex, but wondered if she would want to add something to the experience. She asked what do you mean, and I asked her if she would want to try to start using some toys. She looked a little startled, and then said that I satisfied her and she didn't need any toys. I paused and then said "well what about some toys for me? ". I think this shocked her a bit, and as it sunk in with her, she said that she was sorry but that she really didn't think she could do that. So I guess that leaves me out of luck, but it's been two weeks and I still can't get the fantasy out of my mind. So all that said, how long should I wait before I bring it up again? Or after this, should this just stay a fantasy?
I don't put him on his back all the time, the angle is much better with him on his side with one leg pulled up and mine in between them...more purchase for me and we can see each other..he can reach my tits too...
Love the strapon talk, but actions do speak louder than words.
I think it is scary for both people but I found out once we started talking about it it made both of us hot.
Maybe you could start a little lower down the ass play chain? Toys and strapping on might be a bit much for her, but if you could get her to finger your ass, and she sees how much it turns you on...there's nothing like a little positive feedback to make a girl feel good about what she's doing...
So several weeks I posted how I'd been thinking about this for a while and really was hoping for some advice on how to communicate this with my wife. Well, I finally brought it up while we were resting after a good "go". I told her that I thought we had great sex, but wondered if she would want to add something to the experience. She asked what do you mean, and I asked her if she would want to try to start using some toys. She looked a little startled, and then said that I satisfied her and she didn't need any toys. I paused and then said "well what about some toys for me? ". I think this shocked her a bit, and as it sunk in with her, she said that she was sorry but that she really didn't think she could do that. So I guess that leaves me out of luck, but it's been two weeks and I still can't get the fantasy out of my mind. So all that said, how long should I wait before I bring it up again? Or after this, should this just stay a fantasy?
I find the thought of this interesting but I could take or leave it..it is not anything that consumes me..
what I feel when I read some of these posts is condemnation for many of rhse women who are so fucking selfish and lazy!
there sre so many of these women who simply do not do thier job and take care of the men in the bedroom.
it may seem an overeaction but I almost feel men are warranted when they cheat...
why is it ok for the women to just leave thier partners unsatisfied ..
this is just another example of this fucked up dynamic where the woman is not really responsible in doing her part and then wonders why the husbands cheat...
I feel like trying to give this poor guy some advice on how to get his partner to participate in his fantasy but really want to say why does it have to be this big deal that she cannot see that she should be willing to try what he is suggesting...
she should get over herself and be a wife..
He knows, he's just not that into it... we have a sort of informal system regarding our kinks, a Category A and Category B.
Category A is when it's a sexual deal breaker in our life, like if we don't get it we'll never be sexually or emotionally satisfied. Going down on me for example, would be Cat A... deal breaker for me, I wouldn't be with someone who refused to do it. So if one of us it like, ok, I NEED this, we try to be game about it and make it happen. (Within reason... if he said his biggest turn on was if I kicked a puppy, I'd tell him to go fuck himself, literally and figuratively.)
Cat B is more like, "hey, I'm into this... how about you?" but no pressure.
Fucking him with a strap on for me is currently a Cat B... but we are allowed to change how important things are to us along the way, so who knows?
(To be fair, I should also say I have a Cat C, which is things I'd rather do- and sometimes act on- with people other than my husband. He's not aware of this category, though, as far as I know... I can be a terribly bad person like that sometimes.)
And now you know more than you ever wanted to about how my husband and I navigate our sex life together.....
Here's mine, just love the thought of stuffing a hot gaping hole with my strap-on Damn, hot thread
Wives aren't allowed to have their own sexual preferences and things that ick them out? I think it's nice that he's trying to talk to her about it and communicate his feelings without pressuring her.
If my husband told me to "get over myself" and "be a wife" he would be having no sex, let along sex with a strap on. And then he would no longer be married. Which makes me think that you, sir, aren't either....
well miss.. you are quite wrong there.
married 10 years thank you very much.
I know it is just so taboo to say these days that a woman can be selfish. call the pc people!
I will say I kinda was feeling a little reactionary...
I feel it is selfish of her to just shut it down cold...I can understand her not feeling all that comfortalbe with it....she should at least try it once for him.
He could possibly not want to do the dishes or help with the laundry but I am sure that is fair game for disscussion.
I made a blanket statment in a very gereral way..sorry about that.
I do not assume to know your personal situation so dont assume to know mine.
sounds like you have a wonderful relationship and sex life
Well there you go, you're much easier to talk to when you're not being reactionary and making blanket statements...
You're right: a selfish partner is no good. I would be very unhappy in that kind of relationship. But I also want to be able to say what I'm uncomfortable with, without being told that I'm not "doing my job." Middle ground!
(And this is all very ironic, since I'm the one into strapping on and my husband isn't.)