Guys into SPH, did you start out as genuinely embarrassed or ashamed?

[LittleGuyFreddie]

Nudity was very rare for us and really embarrassing. We'd all get in real close to the urinals as well so no one would see our dicks. Outside of porn I never saw another guys dick in person until adulthood.

It wasn't rare at my school. I remember after PE classes having to go to the locker room strip off, take a shower and get dressed. This was about the time of integration and I remember some of the black boys had really big dicks and were proud to show them off! I also remember getting teased a few times, including by our macho coaches. THAT was really embarrassing! My friends would talk afterwards about how we couldn't believe how big those black boys were compared to us, especially me...

 

[LittleGuyFreddie]

Wow, thank you for sharing. It's definitely safe to say your experiences are atypical, but can totally see how they contributed to how you are now.

Again, you experiences are undoubtedly more extreme than most, but it does give an interesting window into the development of the fetish. I'm sure most people would likely have it traced back to what were at the time shameful or humiliating experiences.

Only a slight dysfunctional childhood!

 

[LizVegas79]

Some women do in fact have smaller vaginas and bigger ones hurt them. Also, in the right position a small one can hit the g-spot just right!

I totally love SPH and being told it's "inadequate" but truth be told I know from personal experience women really can enjoy small ones.

That's true. A thick short penis can feel just as wonderful as a long thick one sometimes. I will always prefer a short thick penis over a pencil dick!

Except in the ass. I struggle to handle my husband in my ass because he's so big. He loves listening to me whimper and struggle though so I let him have his way with me whenever he wants. Big dick guys generally have that privilege with most women - we might complain a little but we actually love it - at least when he's slow and gentle at first.

I enjoy seeing my husband with other women too. The look in their eyes the first time they see his mast at full glory is priceless and sooooo fucking hot. Our current houseguest is a hot little 5'4" Asian and my 6'4" husband goes balls deep in her. I have to cover her mouth when he's fucking her sometimes or she would wake our kids. Hell, he has to cover my mouth sometimes too because I've woken our kids on more than one occassion. Hearing, "Mommy? Are you all right?" at our bedroom door is always a mood buster!

 

[Luv4hotwives]

That's true. A thick short penis can feel just as wonderful as a long thick one sometimes. I will always prefer a short thick penis over a pencil dick!

Except in the ass. I struggle to handle my husband in my ass because he's so big. He loves listening to me whimper and struggle though so I let him have his way with me whenever he wants. Big dick guys generally have that privilege with most women - we might complain a little but we actually love it - at least when he's slow and gentle at first.

I enjoy seeing my husband with other women too. The look in their eyes the first time they see his mast at full glory is priceless and sooooo fucking hot. Our current houseguest is a hot little 5'4" Asian and my 6'4" husband practically splits her in half when he goes balls deep in her. I have to cover her mouth when he's fucking her sometimes or she would wake our kids. Hell, he has to cover my mouth sometimes too because I've woken our kids on more than one occassion. Hearing, "Mommy? Are you all right?" at our bedroom door is always a mood buster!

I've noticed volume is something women lose control of when in a lot of pleasure. Especially when playing with other people. They can try say you are just as good or they aren't better, just different, but sometimes you just need to listen to the sounds a woman makes to realize that sometimes it is just better.

When swinging with my ex she was fucking a guy who was simply average size. Now I was pretty good at getting her off, could even do it during sex despite not being hung, but the moment that dick sank into her... I could hear it in her voice. Even before pumping or anything. Later she felt guilty and said it was because it was so much better. I told her not to feel bad, and maybe I can learn some skills from him and get better myself! That's when she told me flat out that it wasn't a skill thing, but in this instance a penis size thing. She said "your penis is just too small. It felt better because he has a bigger penis."

Those big dicks sure make women vocal!

 

[Escierto]

Nudity was very rare for us and really embarrassing. We'd all get in real close to the urinals as well so no one would see our dicks. Outside of porn I never saw another guys dick in person until adulthood.

That's unbelievable to me although I don't doubt what you are saying. It also explains why some guys have argued with me about average dick size because like you, they haven't seen enough cocks in normal life. Their whole knowledge is based on porn! My locker room experience is completely foreign to them. Well, live and learn!

 

[whenagain]

My embrace of this fetish definitely came about because of genuine insecurities and embarrassment I felt around my size.

Ironically, the women who gave a frank assessment weren’t the ones who stirred insecurity; it was the ones who would say “oh sweetie, you’re. . . Fine” but then when we were hanging out w their girlfriends they all looked at me with a sense of pity and amusement.

May also be where I got my gossip fetish.

 

[Luv4hotwives]

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My embrace of this fetish definitely came about because of genuine insecurities and embarrassment I felt around my size.

Ironically, the women who gave a frank assessment weren’t the ones who stirred insecurity; it was the ones who would say “oh sweetie, you’re. . . Fine” but then when we were hanging out w their girlfriends they all looked at me with a sense of pity and amusement.

May also be where I got my gossip fetish.

I love it when they tell their friends! Or even when they confide in another guy about it. Once saw part of a chat between my ex and guy that wanted to get in her pants. She told him I was too small to satisfy her.

 

[whenagain]

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I love it when they tell their friends! Or even when they confide in another guy about it. Once saw part of a chat between my ex and guy that wanted to get in her pants. She told him I was too small to satisfy her.

Did he succeed?

 

[Luv4hotwives]

Did he succeed?

I don't think that guy in particular succeeded, but many other guys did.

 

[bux_fan]

My ex wife always said that she never wanted a big dick. She was happy with about 2 - 3 inches and mine was perfect. (the last thing anyone wants to hear.) My current wife loves it, she says it fills her perfectly. She is self conscious of her B's, they look and feel very nice to me. I think it is all about the "receiver." As long as it makes her feel good, that's all I care about.

I was kinda embarrassed when she kept telling me how small I was compared to her friend's boyfriend. After we divorced I found out she was taking at least 2 more of unknown sizes on the side.

 

[Luv4hotwives]

I was kinda embarrassed when she kept telling me how small I was compared to her friend's boyfriend. After we divorced I found out she was taking at least 2 more of unknown sizes on the side.

My ex was chatting with her cousin once. Her cousin was bragging about her new boyfriends dick and showed her a picture. My ex slipped up and said "oh (bull's name) is almost the same size."

She tried saying that she didn't think her cousin noticed her using the wrong name but idk... besides I know she had already mentioned to her cousin I was small.

But yeah I've learned plenty of women discuss their partners sizes. My ex admitted I was small sometimes if she was complaining, but otherwise found it embarrassing I was so small. It was greatly dependent on her mood.

 

[LittleGuyFreddie]

I think the term "SPH" means different things to different people. Some associate the humiliation part as a verbal degradation like put-downs, shaming, criticizing, etc. Some (like myself), it's more subtle. More non-verbal reactions expressed that is assumed. Plus, it's hard to find situations where you can have somewhat control over what to expect. Different people react differently to your SP. This can take a lot of planning sometimes that doesn't turn out as you may expect.

Example one: You're out on a date with someone you don't really know (or, maybe you do), and you're seeking her reaction to your humiliation as she sees your cock. She sees it and begins a long tirade of insults. If this is what you want, fine, but it's difficult to have any control over the outcome. Things can go bad here.

Example two: You're in a controlled situation where the other person is caught off-guard, or, shows an emotional reaction similar to being shocked, or maybe, says something expressing their surprise. This can also be a serious or funny situation. I like things like a medical environment, maybe massage session, etc. This example you have much more control over, and usually get the intended result.

Any thoughts?

 

[Luv4hotwives]

I think the term "SPH" means different things to different people. Some associate the humiliation part as a verbal degradation like put-downs, shaming, criticizing, etc. Some (like myself), it's more subtle. More non-verbal reactions expressed that is assumed. Plus, it's hard to find situations where you can have somewhat control over what to expect. Different people react differently to your SP. This can take a lot of planning sometimes that doesn't turn out as you may expect.

Example one: You're out on a date with someone you don't really know (or, maybe you do), and you're seeking her reaction to your humiliation as she sees your cock. She sees it and begins a long tirade of insults. If this is what you want, fine, but it's difficult to have any control over the outcome. Things can go bad here.

Example two: You're in a controlled situation where the other person is caught off-guard, or, shows an emotional reaction similar to being shocked, or maybe, says something expressing their surprise. This can also be a serious or funny situation. I like things like a medical environment, maybe massage session, etc. This example you have much more control over, and usually get the intended result.

Any thoughts?

I totally agree!

SPH comes at different severities and flavors. I often find myself wanting it in different ways.

On rare occasion I like it more aggressive, but a lot of time I like it to be casual and matter of fact. Like in a way they aren't trying to mean. Just being honest that it's small and they like bigger.

Other times I like it subtle. Like getting a check up and a woman during your checkup glancing down and apologizing for the room being so cold. Or stifling a laugh.

That being said, controlling or predicting is really hard. Unless it's with a partner where you've discussed it ahead of time. Otherwise you don't know how or even if someone will react. I guess that's part of the fun of it! The unexpected SPH is often the best!

 

[LittleGuyFreddie]

I totally agree!

SPH comes at different severities and flavors. I often find myself wanting it in different ways.

On rare occasion I like it more aggressive, but a lot of time I like it to be casual and matter of fact. Like in a way they aren't trying to mean. Just being honest that it's small and they like bigger.

Other times I like it subtle. Like getting a check up and a woman during your checkup glancing down and apologizing for the room being so cold. Or stifling a laugh.

That being said, controlling or predicting is really hard. Unless it's with a partner where you've discussed it ahead of time. Otherwise you don't know how or even if someone will react. I guess that's part of the fun of it! The unexpected SPH is often the best!

I think the surprise part is what makes it so exciting and interesting. If the observer is already in on it from the beginning, it takes the element of genuine shock value out of it and runs the embarrassment, humiliation part. In other words, it's hard to tell a joke if the other person already knows the punch line. Seeing the look on the observer's face and eyes, telling to read their mind as what they're thinking about seeing your little cock, is all part of the excitement. An off cuff remark may be okay, but not a military drill sergeant yells things at you. That gets old in a hurry.

 

[Luv4hotwives]

I think the surprise part is what makes it so exciting and interesting. If the observer is already in on it from the beginning, it takes the element of genuine shock value out of it and runs the embarrassment, humiliation part. In other words, it's hard to tell a joke if the other person already knows the punch line. Seeing the look on the observer's face and eyes, telling to read their mind as what they're thinking about seeing your little cock, is all part of the excitement. An off cuff remark may be okay, but not a military drill sergeant yells things at you. That gets old in a hurry.

lol I like they way you describe it as a military drill sergeant. I find that sort of things always feels forced. Like they are trying to say what they think you to hear. I think that happens more in relationships where the guy has the kink, but the partner is still trying to figure it out. I sympathize, it's got to me hard to be mean without being mean so to speak.

Surprise is the best though. It's genuine.

 

[IARainman]

That's true. A thick short penis can feel just as wonderful as a long thick one sometimes. I will always prefer a short thick penis over a pencil dick!

Except in the ass. I struggle to handle my husband in my ass because he's so big. He loves listening to me whimper and struggle though so I let him have his way with me whenever he wants. Big dick guys generally have that privilege with most women - we might complain a little but we actually love it - at least when he's slow and gentle at first.

I enjoy seeing my husband with other women too. The look in their eyes the first time they see his mast at full glory is priceless and sooooo fucking hot. Our current houseguest is a hot little 5'4" Asian and my 6'4" husband practically splits her in half when he goes balls deep in her. I have to cover her mouth when he's fucking her sometimes or she would wake our kids. Hell, he has to cover my mouth sometimes too because I've woken our kids on more than one occassion. Hearing, "Mommy? Are you all right?" at our bedroom door is always a mood buster!

Question please, just what do you cover her mouth with?

 

[LizVegas79]

I've noticed volume is something women lose control of when in a lot of pleasure. Especially when playing with other people. They can try say you are just as good or they aren't better, just different, but sometimes you just need to listen to the sounds a woman makes to realize that sometimes it is just better.

When swinging with my ex she was fucking a guy who was simply average size. Now I was pretty good at getting her off, could even do it during sex despite not being hung, but the moment that dick sank into her... I could hear it in her voice. Even before pumping or anything. Later she felt guilty and said it was because it was so much better. I told her not to feel bad, and maybe I can learn some skills from him and get better myself! That's when she told me flat out that it wasn't a skill thing, but in this instance a penis size thing. She said "your penis is just too small. It felt better because he has a bigger penis."

Those big dicks sure make women vocal!

They sure can!

Question please, just what do you cover her mouth with?

Oh sometimes I use my hand, other times I just sit on her face and make out with my husband while he's fucking her.

Why do you ask? Do you have any suggestions?

 

[IARainman]

Why do you ask? Do you have any suggestions?

I was hoping you might occupy her mouth with your pussy out ass, fun for you and effective on her

 

[LizVegas79]

I hope I didn't hijack your thread. I've just found it so interesting to follow I had to comment. I'll stop though. I promise (fingers crossed)

Here's a little apology gift for all of you brave, eloquent guys.

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Now you have music to write your next posts to so please continue your discussion!

(apologies to those of you who do not actually enjoy sph ... and you're welcome to those of you who do! )

 

[whenagain]

I’m pretty sure everyone who follows this thread is into sph

I hope I didn't hijack your thread. I've just found it so interesting to follow I had to comment. I'll stop though. I promise (fingers crossed)

Here's a little apology gift for all of you brave, eloquent guys.

It's A Small World

Now you have music to write your next posts to so please continue your discussion!

(apologies to those of you who do not actually enjoy sph ... and you're welcome to those of you who do! )

I’m pretty sure everyone on this thread is into Sph

 

[Cob083]

I'm 7.7" and 5.5" while erect. A woman I briefly went out with told me that her ex man had a much smaller penis and was into this sort of thing. She was actually content with his smaller size member but went along with it to appease him. When it came down to sex between us she found my dick size to be too big and rather painful and would often ask me to take some out . She was more compatible sexually with a smaller guy.

 

[mizuno1]

I didn't know I was small until I started watching porn. Some of these guys are two or three times bigger than me. I'm almost an innie when soft. For me, the fantasy of sph came through a past girlfriend. She was way out of my league, especially given my lack of manhood. She was extremely dominant and loved to take charge. She would often make me stay naked around the apartment just so she could laugh at my little cock, which would always make it hard, making her laugh even harder.

I was young and naive and, man, if I could be with her today, the fun we'd have with my fantasies and her dominance would be unbelievable.

 

[WonderPonder]

In my early years I was deathly afraid of being seen in the changerooms. I had major anxiety about how small I am flaccid.
Hard I can get 4 1/2" but I'm also very thin with a 3 1/2" circumference.
Flaccid I'm micro small. I've only ever been able to pee standing up if I'm wearing shorts as I'm to small trying to use a zipper. I literally have a tiny nub so I have to sit all the time or I'd be pissing all over myself.

Once I got into cuckold fantasies I liked being small but in private. Now that I'm officially a cuckold I've fully embraced it to the point where I'd actually like to walk around naked in a changeroom and be seen.
As for sph my wife and I talk about my small size while she gives me a handjob. She's not heavy into it but knows how to get me going.

 

[t1m1d1]

The sports changing rooms at school with communal showers were where I realised I was tiny, it was really humiliating as a teenager as I was already lacking confidence. Flaccid it’s like a thimble.

 

[MorlockIam]

MY first SPH was non consensual and completely by surprise. I was in the change rooms at school and the boys noticed and made fun of me. I did not like it but kind of liked it when word got out and the girls started to look at me in that kind of condescending yet understanding way.

My first consensual SPH session were much later on and usually via cam. I liked that the woman knew she was about to see a smaller one and was keen to make fun of it, some admired it too. I started off ashamed but my submissive side enjoyed entertaining and being on display for a woman or women.

My fave experience was for two women who started off mocking me and bonding together and they got a little upset when they realized I was enjoying it. It wasn't a planned SPH thing it was on an adult website and SPH wasn't spoken about in advance.

One woman I was talking to and it looked like we might date told me that she would get me to wear a strap on dildo when we have sex as I was smaller than she would like.

I like CFNM type situations where women bond over the naked guy.