Dipping our toes into a threesome

We have decided to live out a long time fantasy of hers. She doesnt want to fuck another man, but she wants to give him head while I do. She is nervous she might back out and have the guy watch, or just jack him off. We don't know if its possible to find a normal looking dude who would be ok with coming into the bedroom and not know if he is only going to watch, or end up with a hummer. Can it happen?

houstongolfguy said:

We have decided to live out a long time fantasy of hers. She doesnt want to fuck another man, but she wants to give him head while I do. She is nervous she might back out and have the guy watch, or just jack him off. We don't know if its possible to find a normal looking dude who would be ok with coming into the bedroom and not know if he is only going to watch, or end up with a hummer. Can it happen?

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If I was in Houston I'd volunteer

Talk frankly about it. That's the only advice I can give.

Talk frankly about it to the guy you'd want to participate. Tell him everything that'll ensue, and don't hide anything. If he's okay with the BJ only thing, then you've found your man.

You and your partner should talk with this man together and get your partner comfortable with him. That should get rid of her inhibitions to a great extent. Just talk.

Good luck!

Poster above me is right - as long as you communicate A LOT before, during and after then you should all be fine. Just make sure everyone knows what's on the table and what isn't before you start, and choose someone who won't turn into an asshole if you decide to back out.

I would also recommend choosing someone you won't ever have to see again if it becomes unbearably awkward - so, no close friends or coworkers. Have fun!

houstongolfguy said:

We have decided to live out a long time fantasy of hers. She doesnt want to fuck another man, but she wants to give him head while I do. She is nervous she might back out and have the guy watch, or just jack him off. We don't know if its possible to find a normal looking dude who would be ok with coming into the bedroom and not know if he is only going to watch, or end up with a hummer. Can it happen?

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My wife has discussed this quite a few times as well. She's still apprehensive about trying but there has been times when she does get into it when we discuss it sooo there's hope one day sooner rather than later ??

Good luck and keep us posted as to how it all works out !?!?

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One thing you can try first is to get a dildo with a suction cup and stick it on the wall. Have your wife get on her hands and knees and suck the dildo while you fuck her from behind. If nothing else, it might fuel the fantasy a little bit and make things move forward faster. But, it would give her a small taste of what it "might be like" to have a cock in her mouth while she has a cock in her pussy. She may or may not like it. (I have a feeling she will like it a LOT, though!)

You can stick the dildo on a chair with a flat seat and have her sit on it and you can stand in front of her while she sucks your cock. This would give her an idea of what it would feel like to ride another man's cock while she sucks you.

My first wife and I played with sex toys quite a bit before we had our first group sex with a couple close to us. It was good practice.

Yes it can happen. Communication is crucial though. There is a world of difference between fantasy and reality. Both you and your wife must be 100% committed to the idea. As experienced swingers we have seen this go both ways. In some cases it has made relationships and marriages stronger. We have also seen the negative aspect of it where one member in the relationship was "pushing" the other into something they did not want. That never ends well.

If, however this is something you both are interested in, the above commentary hits on some good ideas. I would introduce the use of toys. There are flesh like dildos you can purchase so she can sense the feel of the real while having sex with you can be quite a turn on.

Another thing is either pull up MFM porn on your computer or on a DVD and let it play while having sex. That was what initiated the idea with us years ago. While I was bisexual when we first met and we had several FMF encounters it was several years before we brought a 2nd man into bed with us. While we were having sex my husband noticed I was intently watching scenes of a woman with two men and asked me if I was interested in that. I confessed I was and within a month I experienced my first MFM. Never one moment of regret.

Did Hubby enjoy a Man? Did it bring him out?

houstongolfguy said:

We have decided to live out a long time fantasy of hers. She doesnt want to fuck another man, but she wants to give him head while I do. She is nervous she might back out and have the guy watch, or just jack him off. We don't know if its possible to find a normal looking dude who would be ok with coming into the bedroom and not know if he is only going to watch, or end up with a hummer. Can it happen?

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Yes it most certainly can, and even include a round of golf beforehand so everyone can get acquainted!

Pretty significant update. We have talked and played with toys to simulate a threesome. She is sure she wants to give head while I screw her. She is also game for a FMF threesome as long as I don't do more than get some head from the other girl. I told her i would just sit and watch and mess with her. anything else is just gravy lol.
I also told her about a couple of bi experiences in college and explained i am still a bit curious/interested in giving head. but thats it. I wouldnt want to make out with a guy, or even have him suck me. but if a cock ended up close to my mouth i would be inclined to explore it...She thought it was kinda hot. and the next night while she was riding me and sucking her dildo, she shoved the dildo in my mouth!!
Saturday we were roleplaying, she was a dominatrix. she had me suck her strap on in a 69 with her, then fucked me with it.
We arent posting online to find a third. have agreed to let it happen organically....now i have to hope i bump into the right guy who will A, be good with not fucking her and b, not care if i shre him orally a bit wiht her.

As long as he's in line with how attractive (or not) the two of you are this would be incredibly easy to find.

houstongolfguy said:

Pretty significant update. We have talked and played with toys to simulate a threesome. She is sure she wants to give head while I screw her. She is also game for a FMF threesome as long as I don't do more than get some head from the other girl. I told her i would just sit and watch and mess with her. anything else is just gravy lol.
I also told her about a couple of bi experiences in college and explained i am still a bit curious/interested in giving head. but thats it. I wouldnt want to make out with a guy, or even have him suck me. but if a cock ended up close to my mouth i would be inclined to explore it...She thought it was kinda hot. and the next night while she was riding me and sucking her dildo, she shoved the dildo in my mouth!!
Saturday we were roleplaying, she was a dominatrix. she had me suck her strap on in a 69 with her, then fucked me with it.
We arent posting online to find a third. have agreed to let it happen organically....now i have to hope i bump into the right guy who will A, be good with not fucking her and b, not care if i shre him orally a bit wiht her.

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Yay! Congrats!

"organically" is a good goal, at least compared to posting personals ads, but depending on where you live you may want to look into the local scene (clubs, etc) for meeting like-minded people, if only because you might find a more respectful "culture" there and it might be less awkward. just a thought. Certainly beats craigslist, anyway.

houstongolfguy said:

Saturday we were roleplaying, she was a dominatrix. she had me suck her strap on in a 69 with her, then fucked me with it.
We arent posting online to find a third. have agreed to let it happen organically....now i have to hope i bump into the right guy who will A, be good with not fucking her and b, not care if i shre him orally a bit wiht her.

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I think your wife should tie you up and fuck you with that dildo while the other guy is present. And if you complain about it, she should put a ball gag in your mouth and tell you to shut the fuck up. Then she should throw you on the floor, straddle you on her hands and knees, and let the other guy fuck her from behind above your face - to provide you with the best view.

That's what I would do.

Just my two cents.

houstongolfguy said:

We have decided to live out a long time fantasy of hers. She doesnt want to fuck another man, but she wants to give him head while I do. She is nervous she might back out and have the guy watch, or just jack him off. We don't know if its possible to find a normal looking dude who would be ok with coming into the bedroom and not know if he is only going to watch, or end up with a hummer. Can it happen?

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Of course it can.

greenjacobin said:

I think your wife should tie you up and fuck you with that dildo while the other guy is present. And if you complain about it, she should put a ball gag in your mouth and tell you to shut the fuck up. Then she should throw you on the floor, straddle you on her hands and knees, and let the other guy fuck her from behind above your face - to provide you with the best view.

That's what I would do.

Just my two cents.

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Sounds a little extreme, kinda rough, but I think I like your style.

ShyMaleSub said:

Sounds a little extreme, kinda rough, but I think I like your style.

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Hmm. I thought it was rather mild.

greenjacobin said:

Hmm. I thought it was rather mild.

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I do admit to being "shy". That doesn't mean I don't want to try things ... or have things tried on me.