Does anyone here have a hard time getting laid?

SweetSam42 said:

I have trouble all the time. Last time I asked, he asked me "are you trimmed?" Um. Really?

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Wow, that's some shallow bs.

Kitty92 said:

It's strange how open you are about your troubles.

Almost as if, you want a promiscuous woman to just offer herself to you, heroically of course.

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yeah that'll never happen and i gave up on it anyways

SweetSam42 said:

I have trouble all the time. Last time I asked, he asked me "are you trimmed?" Um. Really?

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Sam you sweet. I guess from your profile you're speaking of your husband here. And so many married litsters have stories such as this.

To make a general point if I may:

This so saddens me, and it angers me too. We hear talk of "unfaithfulness" in a marriage,and one time cheating and it has to be all over. But so little is said about the unfaithfulness of a spouse to their commitment to pleasure their partner. It seems to me that this is a greater 'failure' than cheating is, in terms of the misery it can cause for years.

In the English context, church anyhow, people commit thus: "With my body I honour you."

OK I get it that there are entirely valid reasons why someone is not in a position to offer their body to their spouse; we had that for two years, as a consequence of serious depression. But for a husband or a wife to shift into a routine of not bothering to meet the sexual desires of their partner - that surely is "unfaithfulness"?

suckonsimon said:

Sam you sweet. I guess from your profile you're speaking of your husband here. And so many married litsters have stories such as this.

To make a general point if I may:

This so saddens me, and it angers me too. We hear talk of "unfaithfulness" in a marriage,and one time cheating and it has to be all over. But so little is said about the unfaithfulness of a spouse to their commitment to pleasure their partner. It seems to me that this is a greater 'failure' than cheating is, in terms of the misery it can cause for years.

In the English context, church anyhow, people commit thus: "With my body I honour you."

OK I get it that there are entirely valid reasons why someone is not in a position to offer their body to their spouse; we had that for two years, as a consequence of serious depression. But for a husband or a wife to shift into a routine of not bothering to meet the sexual desires of their partner - that surely is "unfaithfulness"?

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Thank you for this Simon.
It is such a miserable way of living.

Celibacy is not the same as monogamy.... And is not what I thought I was signing up for.

Seriously thinking about starting a new thread - ANYONE WANT TO GET LAID?

SweetSam42 said:

I have trouble all the time. Last time I asked, he asked me "are you trimmed?" Um. Really?

You can say that again.

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Unreal. You are sexy, smart, sweet and the list goes on. I'm sorry he's not a better lover for you. You deserve it.

SweetSam42 said:

I have trouble all the time. Last time I asked, he asked me "are you trimmed?" Um. Really?

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Wow. If she's offering, I'm game. End of story. I don't care if it's Saturday evening and neither of us has showered since Friday morning and we've both gotten two workouts in.

Then again, I usually get the reverse. I try to initiate and get shot down for some trivial reason.

SweetSam42 said:

I have trouble all the time. Last time I asked, he asked me "are you trimmed?" Um. Really?

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I'm pretty sure my response would have been, "I'll trim when you can fuck me right"
But then I'm a bitch sometimes too.

Oh and since I've come to like this song, When I heard it, it kinda reminded me of your comment Sam.
Dear Future Husband

Makes no difference where she is waxed, natural, trimmed ...she is who she is ..no problem

I would say yes to be truthful, but only because I don't go looking for it.

i'm 38 yrs old . I can count on 1 hand how many female partners i've had. And how many times i've had sexual intercourse with females on same hand .


bluntly. i'm bi- so here goes.

females: Oral: 5 times
females: intercourse 2times (2 different women no relationship escorts)

male : oral (giving 5/6 times)
male : oral (recieving 5times)
male: anal ( recieving 3times)


i'm about to meet up with a girl i was seeing while in school ( when i say seeing i mean literally seeing while we were in school,its a long story to get into) its 21yrs in the making we're finally gona spend some bed time monday and tuesday.. i live in another state and this is the first i've had the opportunity to financially and ability to get to see her at this level.. sense finding her almost 5yrs ago .

lowMaz said:

i'm 38 yrs old . I can count on 1 hand how many female partners i've had. And how many times i've had sexual intercourse with females on same hand .

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i'm about to meet up with a girl i was seeing while in school ( when i say seeing i mean literally seeing while we were in school,its a long story to get into) its 21yrs in the making we're finally gona spend some bed time monday and tuesday.. i live in another state and this is the first i've had the opportunity to financially and ability to get to see her at this level.. sense finding her almost 5yrs ago .

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I wish you well mate with this meet up and what you have with each other! Relax into it ... Enjoy.

SweetSam42 said:

I have trouble all the time. Last time I asked, he asked me "are you trimmed?" Um. Really?



You can say that again.

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No freaking way!

isn't having a hard time getting laid the reason why most of the people on lit are on lit? I know that's why I joined in the first place and the more I get laid, the less I post here

lucky you

Hmm this is a difficult one, do I have a hard time getting laid......no, however having it quite as much as I want ie at least every day, not so easy. He is happy with 2-3 times a week, but I suppose that is more than some are getting.

Aconitum19 said:

Hmm this is a difficult one, do I have a hard time getting laid......no, however having it quite as much as I want ie at least every day, not so easy. He is happy with 2-3 times a week, but I suppose that is more than some are getting.

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It's a lot more than some of us are getting

don't have a problem...

in a committed relationship but when I'm not, SHIT... I can't get laid to save my life! And it drives me flipping cray cray! lol

looking for a partner now since it doesn't seem like the situation I'm in with the current lady I'm with is going anywhere fast!

blackstallion21 said:

in a committed relationship but when I'm not, SHIT... I can't get laid to save my life! And it drives me flipping cray cray! lol

looking for a partner now since it doesn't seem like the situation I'm in with the current lady I'm with is going anywhere fast!

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Stallion, find yourself a frisky mare and get in there deep and often.

My answer?

Yes...

Mercury_Maniac said:

Just curious.


It seems some have no issues at all having casual sex, unlike myself.

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Not at all. I'm married and we have a great sex life. If I had a hard time getting laid I wouldn't be married.

Mercury_Maniac said:

Just curious.


It seems some have no issues at all having casual sex, unlike myself.

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Hiyo26 said:

I couldn't get laid to save my life.

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I'm overweight and a 49 year old male. I don't have a problem finding ladies. You have to be able to talk to them with confidence and not arrogance. I have the most luck on dating websites. If I'm looking for a relationship, I go to regular dating sites (plenty of fish, ok cupid). If I'm just looking for sex I use Adult friend finder.

It's not how big your tool is, but how you use all your tools.

This is for Guys: Before dating, practice edging. You don't want to stick it in and cum quick. You won't be invited back. Also if you are a good kisser that will be a plus on your side. Women love a guy that can make out. If you lick her pussy to orgasm, you will most definitely get a return visit. Research that online if you aren't good at it or don't know how. BIG points with women! I have former girlfriends texting me occasionally wanting to hook up because of my incredible tongue. It pays dividends if you are a great lover.

A key phrase to remember. LOT's of FOREPLAY with women.
Lot's of foreplay when you are with them will help you, and get them off. Most women need lots of light touching or light kissing all over their body to get them crazy excited. I usually give them 10-45 minutes of foreplay if we have time. Sometimes, especially the first time together you both will be trying to go fast and hard. Nothing wrong with that, unless you are quick cummer. If you can't last, take control in the bedroom. Slow her down. She will enjoy your control and controlling the situation. This is if your goal is to have sex often with her. If it is a one nightstand then do what comes natural.



This is for regular dating sites:
If you stroke her mind you can have her body. You have to woo and impress.

You can't msg with hey whats up. All that does it get you deleted. I play off their profiles. I use my humor and I've been complimented over the years. My profile is always a few paragraphs. This intrigues the opposite sex. You have to look at it like this. There are probably 5 guys to 1 women. What makes you stand out? You don't have to be a male model. Women aren't visual like guys. They like romance, at least most of them do. In my questioning, during the get to know you portion. I always ask their favorite flower and bring it on a first date. Something simple that sticks with them. Most guys don't do that. I've been told numerous times this is the first time they got flowers on a date. A few times I've gotten lucky on a first date, that turned into sex on many more dates. Some women you have to prove your worthiness over several dates before you have sex. Don't be pushy. They hate that. Let it go with the flow. Let them control the situation and you will be surprised how they want sex just as bad as you do.

Good luck on your search. Mercury_Maniac & Hiyo26

suckonsimon said:

Sam you sweet. I guess from your profile you're speaking of your husband here. And so many married litsters have stories such as this.

To make a general point if I may:

This so saddens me, and it angers me too. We hear talk of "unfaithfulness" in a marriage,and one time cheating and it has to be all over. But so little is said about the unfaithfulness of a spouse to their commitment to pleasure their partner. It seems to me that this is a greater 'failure' than cheating is, in terms of the misery it can cause for years.

In the English context, church anyhow, people commit thus: "With my body I honour you."

OK I get it that there are entirely valid reasons why someone is not in a position to offer their body to their spouse; we had that for two years, as a consequence of serious depression. But for a husband or a wife to shift into a routine of not bothering to meet the sexual desires of their partner - that surely is "unfaithfulness"?

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Your approach to it is enlightening as always, Simon.

I have a tough time, more so as the years progress. I'm told often by women that I shouldn't have the problem, but I do. -Shrugs-

Luckily no. All I have to do is walk up behind her and kiss her neck.

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