I always wonder why it has to be so complicated to find other bi men or be able to pick up on signs! Even on the Bi sites and the gay apps where i know that is what guys are looking for, but so many there wont reply or just seem to want to chat then they abandon the conversation. There has to be a better way to detect guys you are around every day. Eye contact can be tough to detect too. Any one got any ideas without being blunt and risk of bad by openly asking them?
Why is it so complicated to find other Bi men
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sweettalk4u
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No, but fetlife.com is a good place to start. You can message and go to local monthly events too. You can also learn about the bdsm lifestyle
I have tried fetlife, could never get anywhere with that site, abandoned my profile on it. I figure chances of finding out guys would be much better chance in real life then online.
BDSM is a turnoff for me!
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Sorry, yes it is different. I was seduced by an older friend from church years ago. I had never given him any idea whatsoever
Then one day we just got done singing and I complained about a back ache. In a flash I was on this bench at his house getting this super massage with these hand massagers as he peeled off my clothes. Then he turned me over and finished the job!
So I guess you just have to take a leap sometimes
hey ...
everyone it seems--, of the bi or bi curious state, is wondering the same thing. The one thing I have learned in my short time strolling the dirt on this rock, ya make it EASY on or for a human being, to achieve or gain anything; and that human being or beings will wind up despising what they gain with ease. And abuse or otherwise treat badly--: case in point (?) look at what they have done to this planet.
everyone it seems--, of the bi or bi curious state, is wondering the same thing. The one thing I have learned in my short time strolling the dirt on this rock, ya make it EASY on or for a human being, to achieve or gain anything; and that human being or beings will wind up despising what they gain with ease. And abuse or otherwise treat badly--: case in point (?) look at what they have done to this planet.
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Amen brother!
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Was always very difficult but I was very specific in my desires
So that complicated the process immensely.
When I was seeking BBC to suck I had a bit of luck on adam4adam but most were gay and wanted to fuck, just oral was boring to most.
Met a couple through Craigslist that were more bi oriented to my desires but didn't meet my criteria.
Not sure where to look these days for DL BBC to suck
This area here, internet and apps are a JOKE! Same BSers on every day! That is why my posting was directed towards finding guys in real life, guys around you every day.
take a drive to a coffee shop and use there wifi. use that time to research the web for the best apps or sites to meet.
There isn't the old days that you would read in the personals that give you the hints. for instance, sign up at squirt dot org. or some other site. ask what are the signals or the places bi guys meet..
Even here you're still going to get the fantasy / or BS
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I suspect a lot of this has to do with where you live - if it’s not a bigger city you will have more flakes and fakes. Also I think if you’re willing to host you can make things happen and get what you are looking for if you place the ad.
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We need a signal or something?
There certainly seems to be alot of bi or bi curious men here on Lit. Many of these show a serious interest in finding someone to play and explore with. The problem here is that its next to impossible to hookup with anyone here since we're spread out all over the map.
like here, there is no one on this that is within 150 miles of me!
Nice avatar
,I'm sure if you wave that around in the right places it will signal what your looking for mm
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I agree that FAB can be a good place but I found a lot of dreamers and timewasters on there, I have met a few genuine guys off there, some who I'm still in contact with to this day. I went off it a while back, has it got any better.
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Squirt dot com
Squirt dot com is another option. Probably half of the members in my area are listed as Bi. There are two memberships free and pay. The free side provides enough access to find what you're looking for.
Squirt dot com is another option. Probably half of the members in my area are listed as Bi. There are two memberships free and pay. The free side provides enough access to find what you're looking for.
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The last time I used it was over a year ago. It's OK if you can filter the time wasters and the just plain weird.
I get it
I’ve had the same experience. Tried Grindr, Sniffies and others, but they always end the same way... they either just want to see your dick or they end they conversation and disappear. I’m married so I understand the hesitation or the need to just look at a nice cock and get off fantasizing sometimes, but it would be nice to build some kind of friendship first to develop trust and then hookup. A long term guy on the side would be perfect.
North central Florida here.
I’ve had the same experience. Tried Grindr, Sniffies and others, but they always end the same way... they either just want to see your dick or they end they conversation and disappear. I’m married so I understand the hesitation or the need to just look at a nice cock and get off fantasizing sometimes, but it would be nice to build some kind of friendship first to develop trust and then hookup. A long term guy on the side would be perfect.
North central Florida here.
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I like to have some sort of connection before meeting. I prefer to meet in public before getting together. If you don't connect in person then no harm done. If you filter properly you can meet some OK guys for fun.
That makes sense, there needs to be some sort of chemistry or it could turn out to be a really bad experience
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