Why do you choose to be a sub?

[Xplrngplsr]

I haven't experienced abuse.

However, life is often simply too much. Submission is a relief, a relaxation. Even despite ne being rather strong-willed a lot of the time. It just takes an even stronger person to dominate me, to give me that peace.

Yes. This. Exactly

 

[TinaCole]

I don't think I chose, it was made clear it was my place.

 

[Mrs_and_mr]

It’s not a choice.

 

[9to5]

I think it just happens. its just in you

 

[YourNewEnglandGirl]

I didn't choose to be a sub any more than I chose the color of my eyes. It's just who I am.

 

[Ciceri]

We all make choices and sometimes it’s overwhelming. When I met a Dom, I found someone who was willing to make choices for me - at least for the few hours a week we were together. It was an escape for me. I also like harsh punishment (for a couple reasons) and he loved administering pain. So it was a perfect arrangement. No one knows about this side of me and I trusted my Dom completely. His place was completely safe

 

[Ciceri]

We all make choices and sometimes it’s overwhelming. When I met a Dom, I found someone who was willing to make choices for me - at least for the few hours a week we were together. It was an escape for me. I also like harsh punishment (for a couple reasons) and he loved administering pain. So it was a perfect arrangement. No one knows about this side of me and I trusted my Dom completely. His place was completely safe

I have been with women and don’t feel a need to control or be controlled. It’s equilibrium. But being in a homosexual relationship brings my need to submit. It goes hand in hand

 

[SmilingLez]

i find strength in my submission, my true self flows.

 

[SweetTessyBen329]

I have been talking to my college friend and fuck-buddy who came to visit to cheer me up. She has some dom tendencies, whereas I lean the other way.

For me, I think part of being submissive in a sexual context is because I am the opposite IRL. I’m probably the person who wants to be in charge and to have a plan. She is the opposite, IRL she wouldn’t say boo to a goose, but gets off on controlling people sexually.

It it like this with other people?

Em

We’re all wired different I’m prefer being submissive the feeling of giving the pleasure and being owned in a respectful way