Why do you choose to be a sub?

[tristantrotsky]

Definitely and it also reminds you that your owned

I'd love to own an obedient three-hole slut like you. How do I apply for one...?

 

[tristantrotsky]

Definitely and it also reminds you that your owned

Which is the sweetest ache?
Ass, throat or cunt?

 

[Ciceri]

I've never had a desire to dominate. First time I was ever punished in a sexual setting I stood with my hands against the wall and took a harsh beating. It was very painful and prolonged but I needed to prove to him -and to myself - I could take it obediently. Then he penetrated me and I took that, too. None of it was a surprise.

 

[apantyhoselovr]

well without subs what would doms do?

 

[Aisline2007]

Yay! Someone like me. *waves hysterically*

Waves enthusiastically from the back and jumps up and down like a mad woman! Hi besties! I found my people, it seems!

 

[SmoothAndSweet]

Waves enthusiastically from the back and jumps up and down like a mad woman! Hi besties! I found my people, it seems!

It's always nice to have comfirmaation. Thanks! I was feeling like I was too critical, but it is true, huh?

 

[fma20fma]

all hard work is done by dom. I just lay back--face down and enjoy the act.

 

[Dearelliot]

It makes me the center of attraction, especially my genitals, she abuses and handles, and works with, so nice.
She makes me do the things I want to do, perform oral lick up her spit and pee. If she made me wash her car, I wouldn't play.
I do like to dom women but I doubt they want a real dominant man, spanking should hurt, and I think they just want to make believe, most of them, the real subs are few and far between.

 

[Strixaluco]

I do like to dom women but I doubt they want a real dominant man, spanking should hurt, and I think they just want to make believe, most of them, the real subs are few and far between.

You should check you definitions. Submission isn't dependent on if you're ok with pain. You can be into D/s without being into S/m. And vice versa - liking serious spanking does not make one a sub - some are masochistic without being submissive. There are those who have a limit concerning spanking, but live D/s 24/7 and the partner may not just control lifestyle stuff but even make decisions concerning their career. Being OK with that is some deep submission I'd say. Way more than session-based spanking.

I do know many submissive women who like serious spanking, though. They are way more common that those who are really ready to go to deep end with 24/t and total power exchange.

 

[Dearelliot]

Yes, I'm sure you are right. I know so few women subs...I've been married since the age of 25 and not at all in the area where I might meet ladies like that. I've had little experience with sub ladies.

 

[watsit2ya69]

It makes me the center of attraction, especially my genitals, she abuses and handles, and works with, so nice.
She makes me do the things I want to do, perform oral lick up her spit and pee. If she made me wash her car, I wouldn't play.
I do like to dom women but I doubt they want a real dominant man, spanking should hurt, and I think they just want to make believe, most of them, the real subs are few and far between.

I am female and a true sub. I've taken whippings,spankings...etc. it is all part of the domination,control,the submission,subservient behavior.
I understand what you are saying though, but as with men,there are women who are true submissive.

 

[Dearelliot]

You should check you definitions. Submission isn't dependent on if you're ok with pain. You can be into D/s without being into S/m. And vice versa - liking serious spanking does not make one a sub - some are masochistic without being submissive. There are those who have a limit concerning spanking, but live D/s 24/7 and the partner may not just control lifestyle stuff but even make decisions concerning their career. Being OK with that is some deep submission I'd say. Way more than session-based spanking.

I do know many submissive women who like serious spanking, though. They are way more common that those who are really ready to go to deep end with 24/t and total power exchange.

I'm sure you are right I have had little experience with sub ladies,...I'd love to hear about sub ladies and how hard they are spanked and punished
the few sub males I know like myself expect as fairly good beating.

 

[Strixaluco]

Yes, I'm sure you are right. I know so few women subs...I've been married since the age of 25 and not at all in the area where I might meet ladies like that. I've had little experience with sub ladies.

Whereas I've been very active in the discussions within the BDSM scene in my country in the recent years. The variation is huge. You can have basically any combination of the different areas of bdsm. Even very surprising combinations.

I actually even found my teenage crush being there. Had no idea over 30 years ago (yeah it was very innocent back then, very G-rated....)

 

[Strixaluco]

I'm sure you are right I have had little experience with sub ladies,...I'd love to hear about sub ladies and how hard they are spanked and punished
the few sub males I know like myself expect as fairly good beating.

Something I've learned: There is no general level. For either sex. Limits are VERY personal.

 

[Dearelliot]

I am female and a true sub. I've taken whippings,spankings...etc. it is all part of the domination,control,the submission,subservient behavior.
I understand what you are saying though, but as with men,there are women who are true submissive.

I'm sure you are correct... and as someone said, I do connect pain with sub and that isn't always the case.

 

[watsit2ya69]

You should check you definitions. Submission isn't dependent on if you're ok with pain. You can be into D/s without being into S/m. And vice versa - liking serious spanking does not make one a sub - some are masochistic without being submissive. There are those who have a limit concerning spanking, but live D/s 24/7 and the partner may not just control lifestyle stuff but even make decisions concerning their career. Being OK with that is some deep submission I'd say. Way more than session-based spanking.

I do know many submissive women who like serious spanking, though. They are way more common that those who are really ready to go to deep end with 24/t and total power exchange.

I did not mean to imply i was just superficial, I have led the lifestyle 24/7 before. It was not an issue for me to do that.

 

[kneelingmatt]

I love to please and having a lady to guide me to be better for her is a wonderful feeling.

 

[amx99]

I didn't choose . I found it in me to take orders and be submissive and get aroused at that. nothing match that feeling

 

[MasterDarcy]

I'm a Dom.

Subs, like Doms, fundamentally, it's not a choice. It's who you are and it's who you were born to be.

The only choice to be made is to embrace aforementioned role, or to like in denial.

 

[FoxtrotJulietRomeo]

Do you actually ‘choose’ to be submissive or do you just somehow feel or recognise it? I’m very definitely a Dom but I didn’t choose it - it just became apparent over time.

I’ve met submissive women who I firmly believe have taken that course as the result of or as a reaction to abusive experiences in their life where it appears (to me) that they have ‘chosen’ submission as a mechanism to carry them through something which should not have been happening to them.

They have all very clearly been emotionally damaged by their previous lives and I don’t believe their chosen path actually helps them now. It seem to serve only to make them fragile and vulnerable in all the wrong ways

I’ve only known one - incredibly special lady - who I would describe as ‘pathologically submissive’ to the extent that she had no real understanding of what she was feeling until we started to explore together, then she ‘took off’ to stratospheric levels and certainly challenged and tested what I perceived as my own capabilities as I tried to keep up!

 

[Carmina24]

I haven’t chosen to be a sub… not yet.
But the thought lingers—like a whisper against bare skin.
There’s something undeniably seductive about surrendering on my terms…
To be guided, claimed, undone… not because I must, but because I want to.
Because the right voice, the right touch, could make obedience feel like ecstasy.
So no—I haven’t bowed yet.
But maybe, just maybe… I’m waiting for the one who knows how to make me melt into it.

 

[CuriousJInLA]

I haven’t chosen to be a sub… not yet.
But the thought lingers—like a whisper against bare skin.
There’s something undeniably seductive about surrendering on my terms…
To be guided, claimed, undone… not because I must, but because I want to.
Because the right voice, the right touch, could make obedience feel like ecstasy.
So no—I haven’t bowed yet.
But maybe, just maybe… I’m waiting for the one who knows how to make me melt into it.

This is the most succinct answer I’ve seen. Also never been a sub but I want to and this is the ideal scenario

 

[masterslave00]

I haven’t chosen to be a sub… not yet.
But the thought lingers—like a whisper against bare skin.
There’s something undeniably seductive about surrendering on my terms…
To be guided, claimed, undone… not because I must, but because I want to.
Because the right voice, the right touch, could make obedience feel like ecstasy.
So no—I haven’t bowed yet.
But maybe, just maybe… I’m waiting for the one who knows how to make me melt into it.

Perfection!!!

 

[Strixaluco]

This is the most succinct answer I’ve seen. Also never been a sub but I want to and this is the ideal scenario

It's also wild when it happens. Suddenly melting into it like you didn't even know was possible.

 

[Strixaluco]

Do you actually ‘choose’ to be submissive or do you just somehow feel or recognise it? I’m very definitely a Dom but I didn’t choose it - it just became apparent over time.

I’ve met submissive women who I firmly believe have taken that course as the result of or as a reaction to abusive experiences in their life where it appears (to me) that they have ‘chosen’ submission as a mechanism to carry them through something which should not have been happening to them.

They have all very clearly been emotionally damaged by their previous lives and I don’t believe their chosen path actually helps them now. It seem to serve only to make them fragile and vulnerable in all the wrong ways

I’ve only known one - incredibly special lady - who I would describe as ‘pathologically submissive’ to the extent that she had no real understanding of what she was feeling until we started to explore together, then she ‘took off’ to stratospheric levels and certainly challenged and tested what I perceived as my own capabilities as I tried to keep up!

I haven't experienced abuse.

However, life is often simply too much. Submission is a relief, a relaxation. Even despite ne being rather strong-willed a lot of the time. It just takes an even stronger person to dominate me, to give me that peace.