ColtonWrites
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Not a personal ad! Just wondering - how do you find people locally who are also into BDSM? The internet is...okay, but I'd really rather meet people in real life.
Not really looking to just find someone to date who's into BDSM - for that I'd just look on a dating site and filter it. I'm happily married to a gorgeous woman. But I'm exclusively sub, and she would prefer to switch sometimes. Plus (as often happens I think) I'm interested in receiving more pain than she's comfortable dishing out, and squicks at some stuff that I'd be into. Ideally we need a FWB-type third who is bisexual/pansexual, likes to top, and understands about sex with trans people without us having to do too much explaining. (As a trans masc person I'm wildly uncomfortable with having to admit that the perfect person here should have a penis, but yeah. That would be good too.)
If we could find a group locally it would increase the chance of finding this person. How do I do that without having to wade through a cesspool of porn bots etc.?
Not really looking to just find someone to date who's into BDSM - for that I'd just look on a dating site and filter it. I'm happily married to a gorgeous woman. But I'm exclusively sub, and she would prefer to switch sometimes. Plus (as often happens I think) I'm interested in receiving more pain than she's comfortable dishing out, and squicks at some stuff that I'd be into. Ideally we need a FWB-type third who is bisexual/pansexual, likes to top, and understands about sex with trans people without us having to do too much explaining. (As a trans masc person I'm wildly uncomfortable with having to admit that the perfect person here should have a penis, but yeah. That would be good too.)
If we could find a group locally it would increase the chance of finding this person. How do I do that without having to wade through a cesspool of porn bots etc.?
