Why do older men become bi-curious?

[canogagrizz]

I don't know if I was always bi or became that way or whatever. Doesn't really matter much to me honestly. But I do know that health issues were not the reason for a lack of sex in my marriage. I don't think less of my wife or anything but the fact is she lost interest in doing it and outright told me so.

I'd be lying if I said that it didn't cause me to explore more. Besides that getting older and being monogamous just naturally means that you crave something new even if you're faithful. I guess it only natural to eventually explore any curiosity you might have. My interest in the opposite sex has only gotten deeper over time.

Also I think as we get older we look for more things that we think are forbidden or give us that rush of doing something new and naughty again. The metaphor of forbidden fruit is a thing for a reason I think.

Totally true. What is forbidden gives out that rush of doing something naughty again 100%. That is probably the main factors of m2m sex being totally appealing for myself being a sexual turn on big time.

 

[timmy8]

Everybody has their own thrill.I like to masturbate and always have.I'd like to masturbate with another guy like myself and be naked and try oral.That's my thrill.A lot of guys enjoy panties and are interested in anal.I'm not but to each their own

 

[Threepio]

I was in my early 40s when I became curious about other men sexually. I remember coming across a video of two men having sex. It was the first gay video I had ever seen. I wasn't repulsed, but intrigued. Both men were well-built and handsome. I watched that particular video a number of times and was fascinated by it. It was so different by what usually attracted me when I was the surfing the web.

Now I am in my mid-50s and enjoy videos of of men with other men. It is not something unusual or odd now. I really enjoy erotic stories of (mostly straight) guys experimenting with each other. I still prefer heterosexual porn, but gay porn is a niche within me.

I have never done anything with another guy except engage with "I'll show you mine, if you show me yours" when I was just a kid. And it is doubtful that I will act on any male curiosities now. But it doesn't stop me from fantasizing about it.

I think that one of the reasons men may find themselves fantasizing about other guys when they enter mid-life is that my this time in life we are probably more comfortable with our sexuality and willing to discover any eccentricities when may discover. Maybe those impulses and yearnings were there all along. Maybe they are new. I'm not sure that it matters. Also, we live in a different time sexually than we did thirty+ years ago. Not only have there been huge advances for gays and lesbians - bisexuality is more embraced now than previously. Maybe we feel that is more okay to explore sexually than previously in our lives.

One particular fantasy of mine is about mutual masturbation with another guy. If that were to ever happen in real life, I'm not sure that I would have to have a deep emotional connection for this to take place. But when it comes to something more intimate - like oral or anal sex - I think I would need to have some sort of intimacy or emotional bond for this to happen. That said, I just can't imagine loving a man the way I love women. But I could see such intimacy growing out of deep friendship.

This is an interesting thread. Let's keep up the conversation.

Dru

Couldn’t have put that better myself.

 

[Beandip478]

In part, I think the reason shares something in common with an older man's attraction to young women: the magic of youth. Yes, we're curious about those beautiful big dicks, but I think in our suck fantasies, most of us are picturing a hairless "twink," a very young lad who penis is a font of youth.

 

[OldFred65]

In my mom's dad's case it was after his wife died he didn't want another woman so he found another widower guy his age. They got my dad to join them too and mom didn't mind a bit.

 

[Rayjay507]

You are lucky your wife gives you a blow job. Mine has never been interested in giving or receiving oral I know sex is not the "be - all and end -all" of a marriage.... .but some of us have needs to satisfy. We don't want to wreck a good marriage, and I think alot of guys are in this situation.

Hey Dolph. I couldn’t agree with you more. My wife is same. Has given bjs but reluctantly. Mostly gets me started and then she quickly wants me to jack off for her so I end up jacking off myself. Which I don’t mind I love to and love my own cum. But I believe we all would like someone to enjoy the act with us. So I fantasize about having a neighbor who has my same interest and desire. So curiosity begins. I’m more than curious myself. 68 here. I completely agree with you.

 

[Reggie2xx]

I don’t think my wife would enjoy finding out I like to suck cock.

 

[Oshkosh60]

I think in part as we want to check that off the bucket list even though we didn't even know it was a thing that we wanted to check off just a few years earlier. There is an eroticism to it that is very stimulating .....in theory at least. As I go into hardware stores and such I look around and say....Mehhhh... I don't know that I ever see one whom I am the least bit attracted to....but in theory it is hot. We both would probably prefer to be with someone of the opposite sex but as the saying goes....any port in a storm. I have had a dozen or so men suck me off when I was younger......masturbated with one (non-mutual). Perhaps the best was the first who was this kindly older gent in his late sixties complete with starched shirt, sports coat and bow tie.....he had a lovely hot mouth. I would have been tempted to suck him if we ever had met up again. So now, yeah, I think about masturbating with others, letting other men suck me off....and if I were very comfortable with the other man, taking a dick in my mouth for the first time.

 

[Reggie2xx]

These are things we keep to ourselves and don't tell our wives. Can you imagine saying "Hey honey I love to suck penis ." Well it's true. The best blow jobs I've ever had are from the mouths of other men .

That is so true I’ve had men who just could not get enough of my or anybody's cock. I also enjoy a nice cock in my mouth.

 

[sixfoot4]

Moving from worshipping cunts to worshipping pricks.

 

[OldFred65]

Moving from worshipping cunts to worshipping pricks.

I worship both and have ever since my wife introduced me to cock sucking.

 

[44special]

To me, it's not so much that getting older made me bi-curious and more, but it relaxed my resistance to it.

 

[canogagrizz]

To me, it's not so much that getting older made me bi-curious and more, but it relaxed my resistance to it.

The prospects & idea of wanting m2m sex arouses me because at my age (59), that is the only viable options or maybe possibility for future sex if there ever was to be any anymore. It's exciting now to think about. Had I had other options or a wife that was still able to physically have sex, the thought of m2m sex would have remained a back burner fantasy and not the forefront of my thoughts or porn viewing either.

 

[BenHoping]

To me, it's not so much that getting older made me bi-curious and more, but it relaxed my resistance to it.

I find myself coming around to that point of view--relaxed resistance, that is. Sure like ass play--might take a cock there before I'd suck one, but . . .

 

[emperor0379]

In my case I'd say it has something to do with staring all those years at my own cock while jacking off

 

[ChrissyCD64]

I have been bi all my life, ever since I started playing with dolls as a toddler so my parents dressed me in girls clothes except for school (I wore panties under my boy clothes) so I can't answer the question. My dad became bi when he and his poker buddies started started playing strip poker and once the clothes were all gone the bets became blowjobs and/or handjobs, and eventually butt fucks.

 

[SuperSissy]

Been having sex with men since 1974. I fit allot of labels.

 

[X4_Quickee]

The prospects & idea of wanting m2m sex arouses me because at my age (59), that is the only viable options or maybe possibility for future sex if there ever was to be any anymore. It's exciting now to think about. Had I had other options or a wife that was still able to physically have sex, the thought of m2m sex would have remained a back burner fantasy and not the forefront of my thoughts or porn viewing either.

I totally agree. I think most women our age have a diminished libido, and as a result they don’t have a strong enough desire to have an affair. M2M seems to be the best option.

 

[Colonelinguist]

For those who are bi-curious, do you find yourself checking out guys while out and about?

While I'm interested in being taken by a guy while I'm dressed in Sandy, I'm still not attracted to a guys looks. It's more about me being desired so my motivations may be different.

Emotional intimacy is at best, a fragile and intangible state of mind, and we always have to wonder if the other person involved is feeling those same things that you are.

But I think that guys today have come to a realization that when the sexual desire For someone ends, they will instinctually seek out that same sexual desire with another person, be it a male or a female. And regardless of a man’s advanced aging, his libido remains intact.

I don’t think I’d be comfortable having sex with a guy who’s been a close friend of mine and like you, being desired is what really turns me on, and I want to make him (sexual partner)
Feel the same thing. Watching a guy enjoying me sucking his cock, usually gives me a total erection and I have noticed that giving me a BJ effects ever guy I’ve been with that very same way, and the more I get physically into the prelude leading up to my own ejaculation, the better a man will sucks me. But I don’t think There’s any emotional Intimacy involved at all.

And at 70, I find that a neater arrangement; idea really. ‘What’s love got to do - got to do with it’! And when I get a desire for some female femininity, I’ve found crossdressers more satisfying because, let’s face it;
Men give better head than women do. And women perform cunnilingus way better than men for exactly the same reasons if you haven’t already noticed.

 

[Colonelinguist]

I wonder how many guys here who want to suck a cock have felt like a woman or feminine in their submissive desires.

Absolutely hikingman. It seems to me that in all heterosexual, gay or lesbian sexual couplings, ultimately one person assumes the alpha - but not necessarily dominant - role.

Before I was 50 or so, if a buddy of mine had made sexual advances on me, I would have more than likely, broken his nose. In other words, he thought l would want to be his bitch. And I’m certain that would have been my knee jerk reaction. When I was born, Harry Truman was President for god’s sake, so naturally men my age were programmed to be macho about that kind of stuff, and it’s in each and every one of us male Boomers.

I have read through this entire thread up to this point and frankly I’m surprised that it hasn’t come up one time with all this talk about what’s a proper way to approach close males friends that they are sexually attracted to. If I really cared about a true friendship a guy, I myself would never go there.

 

[Jimbo5825]

Yes that’s exactly right. I think about sucking cock all the time,it torments me with need and longing.

I never thought about sucking cock until I hit 57 or 58 i have not sucked one yet and im 64 but i sure have practiced on some dildos. I also admit that there are days that i seem to think about it all day

 

[crazy4myhusband]

I'm not diminished, I have hit my third stride, and I love getting my husband to go bi, and I also get you guys. Any way a wife who is not providing enough for her man should encourage it. But participating is so much more fun!

 

[Wageslave]

I'm not diminished, I have hit my third stride, and I love getting my husband to go bi, and I also get you guys. Any way a wife who is not providing enough for her man should encourage it. But participating is so much more fun!

If only more women shared that outlook, the world would be a happier place

 

[Jimbo5825]

Sorry babe......



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The babecock might have got me started down this road. I even played those cock games where you have to remember which cock went with which girl

 

[silvery69]

When I was a young boy scout I was taught how to jerk off in a tent with two other kids. For awhile I was obsessed with that. As I grew older I got married only to have my wifes younger brother hit on me. Nothing really happened. Fast forward 40 years and my wife passed, I hooked up with a guy through a dating app and got a fantastic blow job. He had Ed so I couldn't experience returning it although I would have. I got remarried and now find myself in a really bad relationship with no sex for 2 years and I am back looking for at least a JO buddy if not more.