Why do older men become bi-curious?

[madmatt618]

Lack of female options as you get older is a factor. This applies in my case anyhow. I’m not ugly (at least I don’t think I am), but I’m certainly not 25 (or even 35) year old me anymore. I’m 52 now. Unfortunately, I inherited early grey hair from mom’s side of the family. I’m in an interesting stage where I look older than I am, but if I colored my hair, it would look ridiculously obvious. Back in the day, I could get at least a look from someone of the opposite sex. I was never a lady killer per se, but I didn’t fair bad. Now, it’s like I’m an invisible “old guy”. Unless you are a gym guy that looks 15 years younger than you are, you are invisible. I don’t fault females for that either, I can understand it. What constitutes attractive to the eye is what it is. I think that other guys in a similar circumstance tend to bond with other guys that have similar needs/desires for a sexual outlet, thus the opening up to trying a different outlet.

 

[Elliott62]

Thank you..I will check it out.

 

[Scooter58]

I desperately want to reply to this entire thread with something meaningful and insightful yet different from what’s been posted above. Yet, I can add nothing that hasn’t already been said by numerous previous posters. There are so many amazing insights and opinions. I agree with and respect them all. I’m older and bi-curious. Having a great marriage with lots of sex but still consume a lot of gay porn. I exchange porn gifs back and forth with my older gay brother for fun.

 

[saintcero]

Never heard of it...even though I've had gay friends my whole adult life..I know about Grindr... I've stayed in my lane..til now..so I'm sort of a newbie.

SilverDaddies can be free but the search feature for the paid version is great. It allows you to search for folks near you. Not expensive either. About $5 a month if I remember correctly

 

[Elliott62]

SilverDaddies can be free but the search feature for the paid version is great. It allows you to search for folks near you. Not expensive either. About $5 a month if I remember correctly

Okay..thanks again..

 

[Dreamer110]

62 here..10 years older than me..I like you already.
It's relieving/comforting to know that men my age and older than I are going through the same thing late in life .

You're definitely not alone. I imagine there's a lot more than we think.

 

[none2_none2]

I've been married to my BBW wife for 19 years..love her to death..but I readily admit it. I wonder what it would be like to stroke another man's cock while he strokes mine..to 69 with him.. pictures of frotting get me so damn hard because it looks like it feels incredible and finally to feel a warm,hard cock in my ass
What you say about BJs and eating pussy has always made perfect sense to me. Alas, at 62..I figure I will always be just -curious...as I've never experienced the joys of I've mentioned or being with another man and most likely never will. Not even among our gay friends.

Maybe you need to seek out counseling. You have only been a member of Lit a bit over a month yet the subject of m2m sex ways so very heavily on your mind. Some cannot live with the thought of lifelong regrets. Others cannot live with compromising their vows. Obvious it would be a great situation if you could share your dilemma with the woman you love. Would she understand, or would it be a lingering wound if you confessed what you have only had thoughts about.

I come from the other side. I have been in a loving relation with my guy for 23+ years. Though we are both guys, we have never sought out other partners. Though I have a very high sex drive, I am a dud sexually because of ED bought on by diabetes & heart issues. I don't deserve his faithfulness, but the fact that he freely gives it makes me love hm all the more. I am a non-functional top because of that horrible ED. I sleep next to him every night and every time his skin touches mine, I still get that same buzz I had when we first got involved. I crave being inside a man, and he is my type masculine, hairy, stocky, and with a very big heart. Every time see his hairy bottom, i think of so many wonderful times inside him. If was told I could cure my ED, but it would mean having sex with anybody but him, I just couldn't do it. Why? Because despite, years of lots of men (before him) with lots of wonderful orgasms, he was truly the only partner who LOVED ME -- not loved some body part of mine. In the long run it isn't body parts that glues a relationship, but how much you mean to each other.

Back in 2018, I almost died from West Nile. I was sedated for around 10 days. When I finally "woke up", there was my big hunk of man crying over ME. I had always thought at some level despite my preferences, that a man could never love a man like a woman could. Men seem always like competitors with each other. My relationship with my dad was not good. What seemed like love from him, was constantly "earning" his love or having what little was given evaporate. Well the love my partner showed me those 5 weeks in the hospital -- taking leave of absence, being at my side so much of the time except to go home too the farm to take care of the pets and farm animals..., if that wasn't love, I don't know what love would be.

M2M sex can be EXTREMELY wonderful, but having someone love you for you, trumps sex (regardless of the gender of that person). i regret not having children, but back in my 20's I found out that my sperm count was almost non-existent. Even if I could have had a cure for that, as much as i wanted to sire children and raise them (maybe for the wrong reasons, as I wanted to prove that i could love a kid unlike how my Dad treated me), I would decline if it meant leaving my guy. We are both 65. I don't know how many years left we have, but I wouldn't trade him in for anybody else.

All this is my perspective. If you love your wife a lot which seems to be the case, you need a professional to help sort out your own perspective and plan of action - if any. Lingering regrets can grow like a cancer...

Good luck!

 

[Elliott62]

I do love my wife very much.. we go thru long periods where we don't have sex ..but I don't think about sex with another man during those times..my Mrs is my rock. We've actually been friends since high school..so ..45+ years..
I know I've all over these threads...but my wife really is my best friend and I would never even consider going outside our marriage without her knowledge or permission.. I love sex with my wife.
Thank your concern and advice tho..
Peace.

 

[piper1985]

Having some jack off buddies when I was growing up was a lot of fun not only because I had ejaculations from their hands, I liked making them cum also and marveled at the fact that no two dicks are the same, soft or hard. I had only one instance where I had an erection in my mouth and I did not follow through and really suck it good.
Girls came into my life and the following decades sex for me was all about pussy. As I got older those long ago memories seemed to come to life. I began reading and watching bisexual porn and got up the nerve to start tasting my own sperm.
I liked it - a lot!
The taste, the taboo aspect, and the desire to suck dick grew stronger by the month.
I drank my own semen all the time then (and now) and it is thrilling when I give a guy a blow job and the first blast of warm thick cum shoots from his cock makes me feel wonderful. I absolutely love everything about giving head, licking and kissing balls, swallowing cum, and more.
So my memories led to the curiosity, which led to obsessive desire, which led to craving cock to the absolute NEED TO FULFILL THIS DESIRE.
Age is just a number, and male on male sex is my preference. Giving oral pleasure is the most intimate sexual act a man can give to another man in my opinion. I am now an avid cock sucker and nothing is going to change that.

This guy is awesone!

 

[saintcero]

For most of us turning to male on male sex stems from little to no sex from our wife. From reading ur post it seems like you and wife still enjoy regular sex. So I’m curious what got you to start sucking cock?

I had always had a submissive bottom mindset but as I had zero attraction to men I just thought it a weird masturbation fantasy. I wrote one story on Lit and then chatted some and visited the forums. I found that there were others like me that were into cock and balls but not the guys themselves. This then lead me to SilverDaddies. Lit and SilverDaddies normalized my M2M interests. I posted some photos on SD that were liked. Eventually I met a guy to receive a BJ but I got curious and gave him one too.

 

[CuriousinPennsylvania]

I was 68 when I had my first M2M. If you have gay friends then all you have to do is tell one of them that you are curious and wondered if they knew of a safe gay man that could show you the ropes

He shoots and scores !!!!

 

[PinkPanties4me]

I do love my wife very much.. we go thru long periods where we don't have sex ..but I don't think about sex with another man during those times..my Mrs is my rock. We've actually been friends since high school..so ..45+ years..
I know I've all over these threads...but my wife really is my best friend and I would never even consider going outside our marriage without her knowledge or permission.. I love sex with my wife.
Thank your concern and advice tho..
Peace.

I have the same story as you . Being in a steady relationship with my wife (50 years). To me , it is more important to keep that then going behind her back and losing her.