What would you do?

[PacificBlue]

Somebody I respected and trusted made fun of me today and not in a nice way, it was intended to hurt. I didn't call him on it because I couldn't find the right words. Instead I sucked up my pride, let him have his joke and moved on with my day the best I could.

Right now, I think I have two choices...

1. Call him on it. He will probably make some lame ass excuse.

2. Let it go. Chalk it up to life lesson #46. Figure that someone who would hurt me isn't worth my time and effort.

I'm leaning toward option #2...I haven't got the time or patience anymore to deal with those who feel it's ok to tear others down to make themselves feel better. I rock and if he can't see that, then screw him. His loss. Life is too short for this kind of crap.

Other suggestions? Comments?

 

[Wiggles]

#1 & #2

Well, it seems like you've got the right idea.

Are you sure it was intended to be hurtful? Sometimes people can joke about things, and it just comes out totally different to the other person. (I do this alot, it's called foot-in-mouth I believe?)

And then, sometimes people are just dicks. I'd call him on it, let him know you won't take any more of that, and still not let it bother you. Because you know you're a bigger person than that.

 

[PacificBlue]

Yes, I'm sure it was intended to hurt. I didn't realize it at first because I trusted him. A couple different people pointed it out to me (I was suspecting something wasn't right by the time they asked).

*shrugs*

It feels good just to vent it out. I've been walking around with a knot in my stomach tonight. I'll be over it by tomorrow. It isn't the first time this has happened in my life and I'm sure it won't be the last. Each time it ticks me off though.'

If I let this knock me down, then he wins. I'm not going to let that happen. That will be victory.

 

[Jacqline]

Yes, I'm sure it was intended to hurt. I didn't realize it at first because I trusted him. A couple different people pointed it out to me (I was suspecting something wasn't right by the time they asked).

*shrugs*

It feels good just to vent it out. I've been walking around with a knot in my stomach tonight. I'll be over it by tomorrow. It isn't the first time this has happened in my life and I'm sure it won't be the last. Each time it ticks me off though.'

If I let this knock me down, then he wins. I'm not going to let that happen. That will be victory.

For future reference, the way to stop a bully in their tracks is to have a comeback ready...........my suggestion would be to look them straight in the eyes and ask, "Why would you say something like that?" It will shut them up and, possibly there would be a bonus of them thinking about their actions. If nothing else, I feel that you would feel better for having said something. As long as you remain quiet, they will continue to pick on you.

As far as what to do about him...........listen to your "gut"......it has the right answer for you...............Good luck!

 

[Bigdog]

PacificBlue

I was wondering where you had run off to, welcome back.

Go with option #2. Frankly, the guys who need the biggest lesson in tact are the least equipped to learn from it.

My idea is to balance the world. Go tell someone else what a great job they are doing or how nice you think they are. Pick someone whom you wouldn't ordinarily praise in that fashion. You will be making the world a better place, and isn't that all we can really hope for each day?

 

[SilverVeil]

1 & 2

Call the jerk on it and then let him know he is not worth your time.

I have done this in the past and will continue to do so in the future. I walked out of a job because my boss did this to me. He was not paying me enough to take that kind of shit from him and I told him so.

HIS boss later called me and told me I was too valued to lose and transferred me to another office with a pay raise.

 

[juicylips]

#2
Assholes very rarely get the comeback, anyways.

Most are so wrapped up in themselves and what they are going to say next.

Huggs,
Cassidy

 

[Rambrat]

it's day now

Pacific...

It's seems that a lot of people out there are unaware or just don't care if they're rude. Perhaps they were never taught any better...or perhaps in this person's mind...the joke was more important than your feelings.

Like Wiggles, I have put my foot in my mouth...but I can usually tell by someone's eyes, that I may have offended them and I would quickly offer an apology to anyone I cared about.

I vote for #2 and in the future, call them on it immediately. Don't make a big deal of it if you do call him on it...it will just allow him to say something that will hurt your feelings again.

Next time...bring a knee up into his groin and say..."I'm sorry, that's a natural reaction to rude people".

hugs

 

[april-wine]

Ahhhhhh the beautiful and wonderful PB has returned....I think you should tell him he's a jerk....Then forget him, and go along your merry way....You could come hang out with me .....

It is great to see you again......warm hugs......april.......