Strickly online D/s relationships...discuss, share advise

[cookiecat]

Your rambles ere wisdom dear one. Always.

I am thinking so much about stage of life going. Would online only suit me were alone? I cannot, for example, realistically see a future where I live with anyone other than G.

Is it a more sapio sexual thing? K need to NOT think, it's the thinking that gets in the way ( then the not thinking that gets me in trouble....I benefit from a short leash I guess ;? )

Can it be viewed for some. If not sexually or emotionally satisfying as fulfilling 'acts of service' as well as feeling desired?

I think my online persona is very close to me except for the current masturbation fodder profile i have somewhere else. That's a total creation as far from me as possible. I don't want to be me there.

I totally understand the feeling desired piece of online. I want that in my real life. But it doesn't always happen. And we should all feel desired, passionate, wanted. Even if it's just a little "hit" - comments about my profile pic or something I wrote or a shared desire.

 

[Farawyn]

I was wondering the same thing as Farawyn. In talking for months you'd think some bells would start to ring. But perhaps I am thinking that if I was to get to know someone online sexually, that I would absolutely want to get to know the real person inside. Sure, how was your weekend, where did you grow up, what are your dreams and aspirations, what are you passionate about, what did you learn from past relationships, what is your wildest sexual fantasy and etc. Even if privacy is a concern, enough details can be left out to not give away your location and identity, but when you get to know someone intimately, and if they are being truthful, the dots would start lining up. Heck, I'd think a relationship would be boring without getting to know many of these things. Unless it is just sex, then who cares? Just seems that there is even MORE reason to get to know the person from the inside out when things are kept online, as already you are coming off the deficit of never having any physical contact, you can at least get to know what is left and can be shared online.... our thoughts and dreams and history and fears and accomplishments, etc.

Yes.
I know what my online friends had for breakfast, when they get their periods, what music and movies they like, what they made for dinner, how's their holidays, etc.
Then again, my choice, with the people I care about online, is to cross over to in the flesh.

I find more people being like me than in if for just some fantasy.
Even the most private people, well, I'm persistent. I crack that nut.

 

[RubenesqueAphrodite]

so glad someone mentioned the typing thing..

I once tied my nipples with rope during a cyber session... And felt SO FUCKING STUPID.

the smacking of one's own ass ....also less than effective



Different strokes.... etcetera and so forth..

 

[The_gladiator]

The written word does excite me and I can cum hard from it but it is a pai to stop masterbating to type a response.

 

[Farawyn]

The written word does excite me and I can cum hard from it but it is a pai to stop masterbating to type a response.

Phone Sex.

 

[RubenesqueAphrodite]

Phone Sex.

yeah ...big no to this, too.

But..
Then again
I'm a prude.

 

[Farawyn]

yeah ...big no to this, too.

But..
Then again
I'm a prude.

No.
Discerning.

 

[Iamsubmissive]

The written word does excite me and I can cum hard from it but it is a pai to stop masterbating to type a response.

Yes, but that also prolongs the playing a bit for me. If left on my own, without being interrupted to type, I would cum in like...REALLY FAST...we' ll just put it that way

 

[Iamsubmissive]

Phone Sex.

Sometimes people don't have the privacy for phone sex...

 

[Farawyn]

Sometimes people don't have the privacy for phone sex...

It's more difficult, for sure.
Drive somewhere and park and come in your car.
Don't phone Sex while driving, kids!

The best phone sex I had, he told me to go upstairs NOW and put my headphones on.
He told me to cover my mouth and not to say a word. Then he talked to me until I came.
Gahhh!

Again, though. Phone Sex makes it more real. There's stuff you can't hide.
Which, if you want that online fantasy only thing, I guess is not good.

 

[SilverBass]

Yeah, the disadvantages and difficult logistics of not being in the same room (or state or country) as your partner. Well let's see, I only see my sub briefly once or twice a week, so really even though we have a RL relationship, much of our communication and relating is on the phone or through messaging, and we have dealt with some of these issues as well.

A few things I have done with her when apart that works for us:

She has set her phone on a little tripod and I have instructed her to please herself as I watch. It may not be the best "view" this way but really I am just more interested in hearing her and sharing the experience rather than any X-rated shots. This has worked great since she is hands free without holding the phone or typing.

If in the car or somewhere that setting up the camera doesn't work, just setting the phone on speakerphone works fine.

And other variations of the same thing, but really they all involve the phone and are very workable. We have not attempted anything on a computer where we need to type.

Anyway, as they say, where there is a will, there is a way. And yes, the privacy and logistics of the situation always matter and sometimes it just takes a bit of ingenuity or compromise to make it work for both.

 

[blue80driver]

It's more difficult, for sure.
Drive somewhere and park and come in your car.
Don't phone Sex while driving, kids!

The best phone sex I had, he told me to go upstairs NOW and put my headphones on.
He told me to cover my mouth and not to say a word. Then he talked to me until I came.
Gahhh!

Again, though. Phone Sex makes it more real. There's stuff you can't hide.
Which, if you want that online fantasy only thing, I guess is not good.

Couldn't agree more.

 

[The_gladiator]

Yes, but that also prolongs the playing a bit for me. If left on my own, without being interrupted to type, I would cum in like...REALLY FAST...we' ll just put it that way

Yes, I agree, the beauty of edging

Though there needs for me to be an agreement that if the person knows I'm cumming they keep writing for a few seconds while I finish and I don't reply in that time lol.

Phone sex is better, though not always an option

 

[Iamsubmissive]

This has nothing to do with this tread, but did anyone see this letter from a dad to his son about 'coming out'?

http://shareably.net/dad-note-about...spot_im_comment_id=sp_PRuODNjU_79023_c_nggCqF

I thought it was kinda cool...

 

[RubenesqueAphrodite]

This has nothing to do with this tread, but did anyone see this letter from a dad to his son about 'coming out'?

http://shareably.net/dad-note-about...spot_im_comment_id=sp_PRuODNjU_79023_c_nggCqF

I thought it was kinda cool...

very cool..
The only thing I want my boys to be is a happy. If that means they love other boys instead of girls.... That's ok by me.

 

[cookiecat]

This came across my tumblr.

I thought it illustrated the point about online v. real life in a pretty dramatic way.

How we can control and filter our words and pictures.

This is the same girl.

http://i.imgur.com/2hBASYCm.jpg

http://i.imgur.com/TR02kPkm.jpg

http://i.imgur.com/vsT2pXY.png?2


Please note I'm making NO judgement on either picture. Well, that's not true. I like the one where she's wearing a sweater. And her tattoos!

I also realize we all know this stuff. We know people steal pics off the internet and say it's them. Or let us assume it's them. I've been guilty of using a filter that softened a picture. In light of this thread, this tumblr post jumped out.

 

[Iamsubmissive]

This came across my tumblr.

I thought it illustrated the point about online v. real life in a pretty dramatic way.

How we can control and filter our words and pictures.

This is the same girl.

http://i.imgur.com/2hBASYCm.jpg

http://i.imgur.com/TR02kPkm.jpg

http://i.imgur.com/vsT2pXY.png?2


Please note I'm making NO judgement on either picture. Well, that's not true. I like the one where she's wearing a sweater. And her tattoos!

I also realize we all know this stuff. We know people steal pics off the internet and say it's them. Or let us assume it's them. I've been guilty of using a filter that softened a picture. In light of this thread, this tumblr post jumped out.

They really don't look all that different to me...I mean, besides the obvious difference in your body from laying down and standing up, but I see your point. But either pic would still have been an honest post of herself...not fake, not a pic of someone else, etc.

I don't even like to have my picture taken, dressed up or not...but if I haven't at least 'tried' to look good, I will block the camera lense everytime!

 

[Iamsubmissive]

very cool..
The only thing I want my boys to be is a happy. If that means they love other boys instead of girls.... That's ok by me.

I like how it was a 'no big deal, nothing to worry about' thing.

 

[seela]

This came across my tumblr.

I thought it illustrated the point about online v. real life in a pretty dramatic way.

How we can control and filter our words and pictures.

This is the same girl.

*pic snip to save pixels*


Please note I'm making NO judgement on either picture. Well, that's not true. I like the one where she's wearing a sweater. And her tattoos!

I also realize we all know this stuff. We know people steal pics off the internet and say it's them. Or let us assume it's them. I've been guilty of using a filter that softened a picture. In light of this thread, this tumblr post jumped out.

I think that's a really good example of how you can control how you're viewed online. I do that all the time... It's so easy to crop out the parts that you'd rather other people don't see.

I know how to take pics where I look wildly different from reality. It is still me in the pics, but the people who only see that version of me are gonna be so disappointed with the reality, and I get it. They aren't fake pics, they're not photoshopped or anything, but they show me in a light that's simply not feasible in real life.

Showing someone a pic of what you really look like after they have seen the "engineered" versions is a very scary thing, indeed.

 

[La damnee elle la licorne]

 

[Primalex]

Also - I am not at all surprised there is a plethora of 19 year old, perfectly shaped, blonde, sex pot girls - more than in real life. (Primalex - are you sharing the wealth with the other guys around here???)

As most women, even 19-year-olds, hate to be not #1 (and there is no open #1 position in my life), these encounters have a very limited lifetime anyway. So no stockpiling of women.

 

[RubenesqueAphrodite]

yeah..
I don't have a problem with being me.
I have a problem with others who have a problem with me being me..
Take for example..
Pic 1 is me...in a baby doll... Sexy, right?

Pic two is me..butt naked...AFTER losing 80 pounds... Not sexy at all unless you have a thing for the Pillsbury dough boy.

My point is, if you aren't going to love #2 I'm not giving you the illusion of #1..

And that's all online is to me..illusion, and for me, I'm not big on fake..illusion... Only keeping it in your head. I want real. I need real. Some guy jacking off to pic one when he'd throw up over pic two? Please, do not even contact me...yanno?

 

[TongueLust]

yeah..
I don't have a problem with being me.
I have a problem with others who have a problem with me being me..
Take for example..
Pic 1 is me...in a baby doll... Sexy, right?

Pic two is me..butt naked...AFTER losing 80 pounds... Not sexy at all unless you have a thing for the Pillsbury dough boy.

My point is, if you aren't going to love #2 I'm not giving you the illusion of #1..

And that's all online is to me..illusion, and for me, I'm not big on fake..illusion... Only keeping it in your head. I want real. I need real. Some guy jacking off to pic one when he'd throw up over pic two? Please, do not even contact me...yanno?

The problem with pic 2, is that you are straight.

Love you, mama.

 

[RubenesqueAphrodite]

The problem with pic 2, is that you are straight.

Love you, mama.

you nut...

 

[Farawyn]

yeah..
I don't have a problem with being me.
I have a problem with others who have a problem with me being me..
Take for example..
Pic 1 is me...in a baby doll... Sexy, right?

Pic two is me..butt naked...AFTER losing 80 pounds... Not sexy at all unless you have a thing for the Pillsbury dough boy.

My point is, if you aren't going to love #2 I'm not giving you the illusion of #1..

And that's all online is to me..illusion, and for me, I'm not big on fake..illusion... Only keeping it in your head. I want real. I need real. Some guy jacking off to pic one when he'd throw up over pic two? Please, do not even contact me...yanno?

The problem with pic 2, is that you are straight.

Love you, mama.

I love both pics. You are a beautiful intelligent sharp woman.
Thank you for allowing me to see ALL sides of you, even if it's just a glimpse.