Sexual headache

[sweetHotGuy]

I'm just starting out on what might be a lovely new relationship.

My lady friend is in her early forties, and has just started experiencing something neither of us had ever heard about: a severe headache starting at the moment of orgasm. It occurs whether she's with me or on her own. This sounds kinda weird, but it isn't funny at all. She's worried about it and is afraid to go to her doctor about it; she's embarrassed and afraid she'll sound like a freak.

I've done a bit of research on the web about it, and it seems that this is a recognised phenomenon. I think she's comforted by the news that other women have experienced this, but she's still understandably concerned.

Anyone have any experience of this? If so, I'd be grateful for your thoughts.

Thanks.

 

[nasty]

Could the headache, be you? But seriously, I'm no help. Sorry. I'm just bored.

 

[registered "^^"]

A very common

phenomenon in married women. But they usually get it before having sex!

 

[Starfish]

This is unusual to say the least, and very upsetting, I am sure.

I don't even want to speculate on this matter. Sorry, but I don't know what to say.

Oh, and Hi, and welcome to you and your lady friend.

 

[nasty]

I wanna say Hi, too

Sorry for that last comment. I'm just trying to have some fun.

 

[KillerMuffin]

Well that was rather rude of you two. I'm ashamed. Line up for spankings, well, not you nasty. You go stand in a corner.

She should go and see her gynecologist. Her gyno will probably refer her to a specialist of some sort, but she needs to go somewhere and since the gyno sees all there is in the private areas, she may feel more comfortable talking about her sex life with him/her.

Headaches are NOT a normal sexual activity. Headaches, particularly sudden ones at odd times, are a sign that something is wrong. We get headaches for a reason and there might be something with her orgasm that's making things worse up there or making something known that's not supposed to be there.

You could accompany her and do all the talking if it made her feel better, or you could not.

 

[luv2tvl69]

I have never heard of this, however that really doesnt mean anything. I would imagine that the headaches are a bit painful for her. I think she should ask a doctors opinion, maybe there is a simple solution to make it so she can just enjoy YOU w/out the headache. If she is embarrassed, maybe it would make it easier if you go with her, or go to a dr that isnt her regular dr. Just an idea.

Keep us posted, I am curious as to what the cause could be.
And CONGRATULATIONS on the "lovely new relationship" I hope you will be still talking about it when it is "a comfortable, loving, long term relationship"

 

[sweetHotGuy]

You could accompany her and do all the talking if it made her feel better, or you could not.

I have offered to go with her to a "Well Woman" clinic (she'd rather not go to her normal doctor about this), and she's comforted by that.

Thanks for your understanding words.

 

[nasty]

Well that was rather rude of you two. I'm ashamed. Line up for spankings, well, not you nasty. You go stand in a corner.

Yes, maam.*Hanging head in shame*

 

[Laurel]

Headaches can indicate serious things. Make her go to the doctor. If you don't, and something bad happens, you'll wish you had.

 

[Quiet Smiles]

My lady friend is in her early forties, and has just started experiencing something neither of us had ever heard about: a severe headache starting at the moment of orgasm.

Anyone have any experience of this? If so, I'd be grateful for your thoughts.

Ok, I thought it was just me that this happened to - you're telling me it is a recognized phenomenon? Your lady friend and I are similar in age, and I started getting them a couple of years ago.

I've only gotten them as you described, at the start of orgasm - but for me, only with orgasms that are achieved with a shower massage, not orgasms with my husband or by other means.

They are intensely painful (the headaches, that is), come on suddenly - almost like a "brain freeze" headache, with pounding pain. But, the orgasm that I'm approaching is worth the head pain, so I keep going till I get that release, then the headache fades away after awhile.

The first few times it happened, I was a bit disconcerted. It doesn't happen all the time though, just occasionally. I wondered if the water was too warm, or the stimulation too intense, and it was maybe causing my blood pressure to shoot up, causing a headache?

I'd love to hear any more information you get on this - geez, now I'm going to start worrying about this...

 

[shadowsource]

Absolutely see a doctor -

It's too easy to think something like this is a bizarre psychological problem. Headaches aren't well understood, but sex causes many changes and pressures in your vascular system (hardons are rendered by blood flow, of course), and that system is intimately linked to headaches. She really should see a serious doctor who knows she's not a hypochondriac and takes her condition seriously. Leaving it unexamined could lead to other problems, and could put her off sex as well.

 

[Eve_of_destruction]

yes indeed...

... and i commented on it here just the other day: http://www.literotica.com/forum/showthread.php?threadid=41592&perpage=20&pagenumber=2

 

[beckbabe]

As you have looked it up online, you know you must see a neurologist to rule out the possibility of brain dysfunction. Barring that, this is not that unusual although it usually occurs in men.

sexual headaches

 

[shadowsource]

Gotta love that site, Beckbabe -

Not only was it useful, but it contains this priceless line: "Occasionally, orgasm can trigger a migraine but, in others, can relieve a migraine. Dr. Couch's data suggests that some women who decline, 'Not tonight, I have a headache,' may be avoiding an effective treatment."

 

[beckbabe]

Sorry.

 

[willywanker]

Re: Gotta love that site, Beckbabe -

Not only was it useful, but it contains this priceless line: 'Not tonight, I have a headache,' may be avoiding an effective treatment."

Sorry in advance for an inappropriate response but that line reminded me of a joke.

A man walks from the bathroom, naked and with an obvious erection. His wife sitting in bed looks over and say, "Not tonight, Honey, I have a headache."


"Isn't that a coincidence" exclaims the husband. "Before I came out here I covered the head of my penis with powdered asprian. Would you like to take it orally or anally?"

 

[Kymberley]

I'm just starting out on what might be a lovely new relationship.

My lady friend is in her early forties, and has just started experiencing something neither of us had ever heard about: a severe headache starting at the moment of orgasm. It occurs whether she's with me or on her own. This sounds kinda weird, but it isn't funny at all. She's worried about it and is afraid to go to her doctor about it; she's embarrassed and afraid she'll sound like a freak.

I've done a bit of research on the web about it, and it seems that this is a recognised phenomenon. I think she's comforted by the news that other women have experienced this, but she's still understandably concerned.

Anyone have any experience of this? If so, I'd be grateful for your thoughts.

Thanks.

Wow! So I am not crazy. I started experiencing this gut wrenching pain about 5 years ago. I was so worried that it was something like an anuerism(sp) or worse. It first started happening when Joe and I were together. He of course thought it was from the positions we did which no matter how we changed them, still the pain came first.

I went over in my mind everything possible to wondering if I was tensing too much to prolong the orgasm or rush it. Wondering if it was a blood pressure issue. Was it a mental thing regarding just Joe.

Then after being afraid to even have sex due to the severity of the pain, I told him we had to stop.

I then attempted to see if it was something that happened even if I was masturbating. It did. There was no pattern, no similarities in anything with each attack.

The pain is soo intense and excruciating. Imagine someone placing your head in a vice and tightening it to the point of feeling as though your head was going to literally crack open and explode.

I did after a while start to recognize when it was about to happen. My shoulders would start to tighten and burn, the base of my skull would begin to feel as though someone was grabbing it with their hands and pinching the spinal column. As the peak of the orgasm began, the pain would completely overwhelm me to the point of curling up into a ball and almost crushing my own head with a pillow or whatever I could to control the wicked rushes of pain surging through it. The after effects of the headaches would leave me unable to move or open my eyes or even speak. I could only cry tears without being able to stop them.

This went on for months, the doctors could find nothing wrong. One day, they stopped.

I was free from them for about 3 months, then one day while playing with my silver bullet, it started again. After 5 years of this, I can say that I face this every few months and they continue to hurt me for months afterwards then just mysteriously stop again.

To this day, the doctors have no explanation for me. It has nothing to do with the sexual position, the partners, the time of day, the stimulation the pushed me over the edge. It is random and once they begin, I am wary of attempting any sexual gratification for months.

What is worse, if I do have an attack of this, no amount of pain killers eases it. I just have to cry myself to sleep and I am literally wiped out and exhausted when I wake up. My neck, shoulders and my head hurt for days afterwards

 

[Guest]

This is not normal. You should see a doctor to be checked for potential disease or other problems.

 

[Eve_of_destruction]

Kymberly... ask your doctor for some Imitrex, and take it about an hour before sex. It worked for me, but thank god my "orgasm headaches" haven't come back for several years. Mine was the same way, it would start in my shoulders and neck, then the base of my skull, and the pain was intolerable! I thought it felt like bolts of lightning exploding in my head. Like you, i'd just curl up into a ball and not move a muscle until the pain subsided, which would be anywhere from 2-3 hours later.

The only explanation i have for mine was that i had my first (and only) migraine headache a few days before my first "orgasm migraine", and the very next time i had sex, that's when they started. My heart goes out to you, I know what you're going through!

(Maybe we just need to move to a new state, who knows? Let's blame it on Missouri!)

 

[Kymberley]

Thank you Eve.

I only wish I could blame it on Missouri, but I just moved here 9 months ago. I have only had two of those since I moved though.

Even though these headaches are random, will it still work to stop them. I can almost always tell now during sex if I am going to end up with it. But they are random, and so it can be months without them before they actually start back up again.

I will ask the Doc for that though. Thanks again!

 

[luv2tvl69]

sweetHotGuy

I have offered to go with her to a "Well Woman" clinic (she'd rather not go to her normal doctor about this), and she's comforted by that.

Well, I just have to say that she is a very lucky woman to have someone like you. You seem very caring, sweet, kind to help her through this ordeal. Especially with it being such a new relationship. You seem like a very special man . She is lucky to have found someone like you.

I hope all works out and she can find the answers and the solution she needs to be able to fully enjoy all you can give her.

 

[sweetHotGuy]

Re: sweetHotGuy

...she is a very lucky woman to have someone like you.

Awwww... shucks. [Sits blushing in the corner.]

It's been so nice to hear the kind and supportive words here, and I'm glad that others who've suffered with this weird and distressing problem have shared their experiences and have seen that they're not alone.

Thanks again.