Sexless Marriages

[julessomme]

Strangely happy to find this thread.

Wife and I have been sexless (or nearly so) for 8ish years or more. It's my fault, I'm told, and sadly for a long time I believed it. Even saw the doctor for Viagra, but it's not really a physical problem. No problems with my equipment. Of that I'm sure.

We've tried some things, and during "nearly" sexless years we managed to pleasure each other once or twice, but it hasn't stayed consistent. Would love a FWB situation to fill the gap but don't want to ruin an otherwise fantastic relationship.

Fun fact: Joined Literotica to provide an outlet and light a fire. I've been writing erotica to do the same and the prospect of posting something for public consumption is a turn on. We'll see.

 

[JessForFun37]

No need for reciprocation here.

You will be more fortunate than I.

 

[JudyCD]

You will be more fortunate than I.

I like a blow and go…a horny guy to use my services.

 

[JessForFun37]

I like a blow and go…a horny guy to use my services.

That’s hot being used as a cum dump. After a good blow and swallow, I have leaked and usually mentally on the edge. I actually came just as I was swallowing. No hands. I have had numerous guys that want to play with me, as I take them over the edge.

 

[JudyCD]

That’s hot being used as a cum dump. After a good blow and swallow, I have leaked and usually mentally on the edge. I actually came just as I was swallowing. No hands. I have had numerous guys that want to play with me, as I take them over the edge.

In my admittedly limited experience, as soon as he cums, he’s ready to go , pulling up his pants as he’s heading for the door.

 

[AikaDaisho]

49M. 13 years sexless here... her choice. I stopped trying. While I'm not glad to see so many others here, I'm happy there's at least a place to talk. =)

 

[MongoSex]

Sexless marriage since around 1998. I think that means I got the boobie prize (because I have a sub with full access to her boobies.

First, my wife started to refuse anal. I could live with that. Then she refused BJ. I didn't like it but ok... Then she came to bed sweaty, smelly and gritty, got on all 4s and said that if I wanted to I could fuck her. I was NOT ok with that. She was also hording and piling stuff around the bed, so I moved to a spare bedroom. She said she would not have sex with someone that was not sleeping with her. I said I was OK with that.

Then the marriage trap started. I said I wanted a friendly divorce and she said she would fight divorce with every penny we had. Then my father died. I was emotionally not ready for a bloody fight. I wanted to be involved with our kid so I figured I would stay until our kid was older and understand things better. I went to see a lawyer to get divorce information and my mother in law, whom I really liked, got very sick. So I waited while trying to give support. The pattern took hold. Every few years I would start exploring divorce and someone in the family (that I like) would get deathly sick or outright die. It's gotten that I am superstitious about talking to lawyers or researching divorce. LOL, the last person was my wife, 2.5 years ago. She spent 8 days in the hospital, but she is doing great now.

A few years after the turn of the century I found a sub. I started the affair with her just to get my rocks off but her personality was great and we are still seeing each other after 22 years, though only about once a week since she became a grandma. Having a supportive sub/sex-toy/pet that I see whenever we can get away really helps.

At this point I am too superstitious about the illness/death pattern and I don't want to lose all my retirement savings to lawyers in what is certain to be a nasty divorce. I kind of settled into the rut of living with my wife despite the emotional and physical alienation. However, I do get physical and emotional support from my sub.

I feel your pain. We have gone from sex to sexless and it’s a loveless business arraignment.
But, if I pursue my needs, she wants to tell me me how I am cheating. It is driving crazy and I’m not sure how to keep what I have (ie, not lose all me money and family) and still get what I want in manner that enlightens her that she can’t have it both ways.

 

[Hornymwtxn]

 

[french_tongue]

Hi,
How do you define sexless marriage?

Does once a month is sexless or not? In my case I get lucky once or twice a month…

 

[boxman11]

Hi,
How do you define sexless marriage?

Does once a month is sexless or not? In my case I get lucky once or twice a month…

You're on of the lucky one. For most of us it's been years.

 

[Hornymwtxn]

Hi,
How do you define sexless marriage?

Does once a month is sexless or not? In my case I get lucky once or twice a month…

Yeah that is an all you can eat smorgasbord for most of us on this thread.

 

[ChloeOfCascadia]

Anyone else with this problem?
I have a high sex drive and the wife doesn't.
Looking for others with this problem, and possibly helping fill our needs.

I have been married for 10 years,

she has absolutely no sex drive and never has had one, wasn't aware of that before we got married.

She's a wonderful woman and I have no resentment but I am too young to never have sex again and she is not interested in romance or cuddling or intimacy either, so we can be platonic friends at best.

Still love her but I asked for an open relationship so I can begin dating again, the goal being, to one day have someone I can snuggle and kiss at night. Sexual intimacy also desired.

 

[ChloeOfCascadia]

You're on of the lucky one. For most of us it's been years.

Yeah... eight of them for me.

MTF trans person here, 42, seeking a woman. Yes I have full permission to date, everything. I am also open to remarrying if you're the right person, for financial reasons and residency reasons it makes sense for me to remain legally married unless I'm getting remarried.

 

[ElannaCalli]

Happy to chat. Sexless marriages but happy to help release…

So common. That is why making a marriage successful requires hard work

 

[BobbyandtheCabin]

Hi,
How do you define sexless marriage?

Does once a month is sexless or not? In my case I get lucky once or twice a month…

I read online that less than 12 times a year = sexless, but at the end of the day, it's just when there's a lot less than what you'd want. I've not had sex at all in a year, and prior to that fit the less than 12 times a year bracket for a few years. There are others here who have gone years. It doesn't negate your experience nor your capacity to class yourself as in one, should it otherwise be a barrier to you feeling you've a place to belong here. I'd say, join the club

 

[Crownvic]

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