Sex Question?

[Flaming Love Goddess]

You and your partner have a wonderful sex life. You couldn't be happier. Then for some reason medical or mental [Not life threatening reasons] your sex life just stops. No more sex with the person you love and cherish.

1. What would you do?

2. Would you continue with the sexless relationship?

3. Would you cheat?

This question was raised to me last night in bed. I'm still thinking on it. Your input would be gladly appreciated.

NO SEX OF ANY KIND FROM YOUR PARTNER!!! Just hugs and light kisses, Nothing more!

TOYS ARE NOT INCLUDED.. YOU MAY HAVE THOSE, LL.



[Edited by Flaming Love Goddess on 01-16-2001 at 06:40 AM]

 

[Ambrosious]

Can she still swallow?

No I wouldn't cheat. I take my marriage vows very seriously, cleaving to her and FORSAKING all others.

That's just me though.

 

[Guest]

No sex...

 

[FantasyGoddess]

I would never cheat. There are going to be dry spells in any relationship. It just depends on you partners maturity level on whether or not they will be able to deal with it. I can't explain why it happens, it just does.

 

[Guest]

1. What would you do?

2. Would you continue with the sexless relationship?

3. Would you cheat?

Well, without going into detail, the people who knew me back around June/July happen to know these answers.

 

[Crooky]

That's a really tough question. One that my gf and I have talked about at length. I think it's an important question in that it says something fundamental about the whole relationship.

If you don't love someone beyond sex, what do you have?

Mae West (a highly underrated, closet philosopher) once said that "Sex is emotion in motion."

I think that's true.

My partner and I decided that if we couldn't have sex anymore, we would just have to build on the other emotional aspects.

I should note that we are engaged though so it might be a different situation than the one you are in. If this person isn't someone you want to spend the rest of your life with, it's kind of a moot point.

1. I would continue loving that person.
2. I would continue with the sexless relationship.
3. No, I wouldn't cheat.

 

[DEFENDER]

no sex why?

a mental/physical condition preventing sex, thats a really tough one.

the love between people never dies its the people who die or change and move on with their lives, so the original person who you loved doesn't exist anymore.

if this is the case, you may be lucky in the future and fall in love with somebody else.

if this is not the case and the original person that you fell in love with still survives, love will conquer all.

i read this back and it sounds a bit mushy, sorry,
this is what i believe, unconditional love.

 

[TN_Vixen]

tough one

The only real answer I have is that I wouldn't cheat. Not in the sense that I would do it behind my partner's back. I mean, if the condition were physical such as being paralyzed - and it was discussed and agreed that sex outside the relationship was acceptable, then I might do that. But, no more sex period?

I know that I'm only human and cannot live that way. If the ultimatum exists without options I honestly don't know what I'd do.

 

[Softly]

TN Vixen has it right

I think of sex and love as two separate things.
Go without cocks in me? Unthinkable. It is so easy
to go out "Shopping," and meet with some guy for an hour.
I would not flaunt it, but I would sure get some when I'm
very horny those five days each month.

 

[Stormystarr]

It all depends on if I am really in love with the person, if I was, then no. If not then yes, I would (sorry) just being truthful.

 

[Guest]

 

[Jake2001]

OHMYGAWD!

Is masturbation cheating?

 

[Dixon Carter Lee]

I can't remember --- what happened to Lady Chatterly's marriage?

 

[teresafannin]

My fiancee & I went through several months without making love. Because of the depression I continue to deal with, there were months when I just didn't want to make love. We have been finding our way back to the wonderful intimacy we had before, but it hasn't been easy. If the sitution was reversed, I would still love him, continue the relationship & would not cheat.

 

[Countess DeWinter]

If it were me who couldn't have sex, I would want hubby to be faithful because I know he can't separate love and sex. They are one for him.
But, if it were him...it's a different story. We've actually talked about this before and he has said he would want me to find it elsewhere, because love and sex are very separate for me. I don't consider it a blessing. It did save a lot of heartache when I was younger (typical high school stuff, only my heart never got broken), but now I wish I could be more like him.