Has aging made sex a greater priority?

[Goldenfinger]

So I’m not 60 yet but I can’t believe it’s closer than 40. I don’t think it’s a greater priority, but as the aches and pains of being rough on my body make me pay the next day. The priority is to meet the needs in a way that lets me walk not hunched over the next day.

 

[MH2024hot]

Absolutely. I've written about it extensively on here but I'm 51 and I finally said I had enough sub par, secret masturbation. Told my church wife about my hunger and live of jacking off to porn stars but that I'd rather do this sort of stuff with her than in secret. We are still young and in good health and we need to take advantage of these times.

 

[Shaglus_Ziegler]

To those near 60 and beyond...

Does knowing you have less road ahead of you than behind affect your interest in sex?

As a younger man I didn’t mind so much when life's other priorities - like kids & their school-work, our own careers, our aging parents, etc. - kept my wife and I from having sex because I knew we would eventually get back on track. But as we approach 60 and as each week brings news of yet another friend passing away or having some sort of health crisis, I feel a greater sense of urgency. It's as though my marriage is a beautiful tropical vacation that is nearing it's end and going just a single day without making love to my wife seems as senseless as not bothering to step out on the hotel balcony to watch the sunset.

So often I read how aging leads to a drop in libido; but for me, it’s actually increasing! And knowing I'm running out of time is the reason...

Anyone else?

Indeed

 

[lowcollar]

66 here. I am just as horny and much more kinky. I just want to be grateful for the sex life that I have and hope it doesn't end until I do.

 

[LMWM321]

When I turned 48 my sex drive went into overtime but that I think was more biology than philosophy.

Interesting... Why do you think that is? Why did your libido tick upward at an age when many find it's ticking downward?

 

[MH2024hot]

Interesting... Why do you think that is? Why did your libido tick upward at an age when many find it's ticking downward?

I was super horny in my 20s and 30s. Any time I had free time I was devouring porn, experimenting with new things (magazines to videos to cam shows). Going to sex stores - man, I remember my heart feeling like it was going to beat out of my chest. Then I kind of felt like fucking other women in my 40s and had some potentials but never did it. But I had fun expanding my horizons and flirting. Then I graduated to strippers in my early 50s, was ready to go to full on sex parties (but never did that). A few years later and I'm a little less horny now - I can go weeks without looking at porn, but I'm way more open with my wife about my sexual lust, which oddly is, I think, actually helping to increase my libido. For me it was "hey, fuck it - we are in our 50s, she looks hot, I need to take advantage of this time." I didn't want to masturbate alone and she's always cummed like crazy. But we just were in a very boring routine and I loved the idea of her knowing just how dirty and naughty I've been.

 

[Cardinal]

To those near 60 and beyond...

Does knowing you have less road ahead of you than behind affect your interest in sex?

As a younger man I didn’t mind so much when life's bigger priorities - like kids & their school-work, our own careers, our aging parents, etc. - kept my wife and I from having sex because I knew we would eventually get back on track. But as we approach 60 and as each week brings news of yet another friend passing away or having some sort of health crisis, I feel a greater sense of urgency regarding sex. It's as though my marriage has been a magnificent tropical vacation that is two-thirds over and now going just a single day without making love to my wife seems as senseless not bothering to walk to the water's edge to watch the sunset during the last few days at a beautiful resort. It's knowing those are opportunities I'll regret not taking; opportunities I'll never get back.

So often we hear how aging leads to a drop in libido; but for me, it’s actually increasing! And knowing I'm running out of time with the love of my life is the reason...

Anyone else feel this way?

I’m pretty sure I could have written this same thread!
Yes exactly what you’ve said here

 

[Forrest69]

To those near 60 and beyond...

Does knowing you have less road ahead of you than behind affect your interest in sex?

As a younger man I didn’t mind so much when life's bigger priorities - like kids & their school-work, our own careers, our aging parents, etc. - kept my wife and I from having sex because I knew we would eventually get back on track. But as we approach 60 and as each week brings news of yet another friend passing away or having some sort of health crisis, I feel a greater sense of urgency regarding sex. It's as though my marriage has been a magnificent tropical vacation that is two-thirds over and now going just a single day without making love to my wife seems as senseless as not watching the sunset during the last few days at a beautiful resort. It's knowing those are opportunities I'll regret not taking; opportunities I'll never get back.

So often we hear how aging leads to a drop in libido; but for me, it’s actually increasing! And knowing I'm running out of time with the love of my life is the reason...

Anyone else feel this way?

Agreed! However, when the “love of your life” turns away from sex, and won’t communicate about resolving that, it’s an insurmountable obstacle that only frustrates and causes more pain.

 

[Britva415]

when the “love of your life” turns away from sex, and won’t communicate about resolving that, it’s an insurmountable obstacle

That would be a deal breaker for me. We don’t have sex, but at least she talks about it like a grown-up when pressed. And has come to a permissive agreement with me about extramarital sex.

Unwillingness to talk about it would break the marriage, regardless of the sex.

 

[Mittering]

I just finished going thru my mid-life. I was very open with my wife that I wanted to make this an exciting experience that we did together. It fell on deaf ears and now after a year or so I feel it coming to an end and am having such a sadness that this was a once in a lifetime event that was totally missed and will never be experienced again.
She is indifferent about it all of course. We have not had sex since 2016 and a handful of times before that since 2006.
I absolutely lust after my wife and she is totally not into it.
I feel my sex drive is driven more and more as I age but it's because of a lack of it. I can't tell you the number of times I've ran the numbers on my future opportunities and it always makes me depressed and angry.
For those of you complaining about once a week, please do your best to keep it up and improve on it. You have a cheerleader in your corner.

 

[LMWM321]

@Mittering
So sorry to hear… Desire discrepancies are a part of every relationship and marriage. But when it gets to the point where one partner has completely thrown in the towel on any form of sex… It is heartbreaking.

As I’ve said before… If my eyes were to suddenly stop working, I wouldn’t ask my wife to forever wear a blindfold so she also couldn't see as well. How is it any different where sex is concerned? If one Partner truly and deeply loves the other they should give them permission to seek physical intimacy elsewhere should they be unable to provide any reasonable intimacy themselves.

 

[Wonderer67]

Our sex life has just changed. We were pretty regularly having intercourse 3 or4 x a week.

We’re down a little bit from that, but it’s just changed. I am 57 and my wife is 67. She is still beautiful and amorous as ever.

Our sex revolves around her pleasure, not mine. We enjoy orgasm control (for me) and is opened up a world of possibilities for feeling good and pleasure. Sometimes we just cuddle, and either one of us will have little body twitches. We call them body orgasms.

They are more intense for me if we have a height in session of edging or sex without me cumming. My whole body seems alive afterwards, and I can feel these intense pleasure centers in my hands and fingers and my feet and toes. Also in my core.

So yeah, it’s just changed.

We still have intercourse a few times a week or a mutual masturbation session maybe once every week or two. But also edging sessions a little more.

Back in the day, it was about fucking. A lot. Now, a little bit less so.

BTW - I only cum about 1-2x a month. It has made the orgasms far more intense and powerful. I have gotten pretty good at NOT cumming and staying hard for a while. I enjoy it… and my wife likes the attention I place on her pleasure.

 

[luckyseven]

66 here. I am just as horny and much more kinky. I just want to be grateful for the sex life that I have and hope it doesn't end until I do.

I echo these sentiments - age is just a number, but nevertheless, enjoy those sexual moments as you never know when they might end.

 

[Forrest69]

I just finished going thru my mid-life. I was very open with my wife that I wanted to make this an exciting experience that we did together. It fell on deaf ears and now after a year or so I fel it coming to an end and am having such a sadness that this was a once in a lifetime event that was totally missed and will never be experienced again.
She is indifferent about it all of course. We have had sex since 2016 and a handful of times before that since 2006.
I absolutely lust after my wife and she is totally not into it.
I feel my sex drive is driven more and more as I age but it's because of a lack of it. I can't tell you the number of times I've ran the numbers on my future opportunities and it always makes me depressed and angry.
For those of you complaining about once a week, please do your best to keep it up and improve on it. You have a cheerleader in your corner.

Ditto! Definitely do not waste even a weekly frequency, as that will be sorely missed if things evaporate!
I’d feel like I died and went to erotica heaven if weekly sex reappeared!

 

[NCWSLvr]

So, we are closer to 50, but yes. We know the window we have is smaller, so we decided to act out on those fantasies. She is now my submissive/slave, I’m her master, and I’ve slut trained her, shared her, threesomes, gloryholes, and more, she has played with people in their 20s-60s. We have been together for 25 years - we aren’t going anywhere, so we have no insecurities/jealousy about each other. It’s been fan-fucking-tastic. We wouldn’t have been able to do this in our 30s, but I do wish we had our 30 year old bodies to do this.

 

[Gecko1961]

So great to read that y'all are going through the same as me. I'm 63. Second marriage is 3 years now. We have sex twice a week. I crave it daily. My wife not so much. My sex drive has increased big time in the past 10 years. I really don't think of my mortality, I just need the release often. That said, I hope I have this sex drive until I die. I've heard there's lots of sex at some nursing homes. Maybe I'll find myself there one day getting all the sex I can handle. I can think of worse ways to get old...

 

[LMWM321]

I was reminded of this thread after my wife and I watched "Dying For Sex" on HULU. It's a true story about a women who learns her breast cancer has unexpectedly progressed to stage-4 and now has little time left. Michelle Williams is awesome (and beautiful) in the lead role.

When asked by her best friend and death counselor about her "bucket list" she decides that she wants to make up for all the sex she hasn't had in her marriage (her husband hasn’t touched her since her mastectomy three years earlier), all the sex she won't have after she dies, and to finally assert her power over the intrusive memories of being sexually abused as a child.

So, she leaves her jackass husband and goes on a hilarious man-eating quest.

It's wonderful, joyful, and very sex-positive with lots of outrageous (and touching) kinky stuff. AND it goes to show that women can also feel a sense of mortality-induced urgency when it comes to sex.

 

[Deadfreak]

Would be nice to get it out of the garage before the mice chew all the wires or it gets sold

 

[MaturemanAJ]

I agree, 64 here and I do wonder how much life is left and sex. One heart attack can leave you not functioning cock wise.
I stay in decent shape, do my due diligence as far as checkups but stuff happens.
I also want us to be sexually free and would prefer to do it as a couple. I would start today but it would be take a step drag the wife.
We have already lost friends and going to another funeral shortly.
Have many 60 plus people given up on sex already?

 

[Shaglus_Ziegler]

To those near 60 and beyond...

Does knowing you have less road ahead of you than behind affect your interest in sex?

As a younger man I didn’t mind so much when life's bigger priorities - like kids & their school-work, our own careers, our aging parents, etc. - kept my wife and I from having sex because I knew we would eventually get back on track. But as we approach 60 and as each week brings news of yet another friend passing away or having some sort of health crisis, I feel a greater sense of urgency regarding sex. It's as though my marriage has been a magnificent tropical vacation that is two-thirds over and now going just a single day without making love to my wife seems as senseless as not watching the sunset during the last few days at a beautiful resort. It's knowing those are opportunities I'll regret not taking; opportunities I'll never get back.

So often we hear how aging leads to a drop in libido; but for me, it’s actually increasing! And knowing I'm running out of time with the love of my life is the reason...

Anyone else feel this way?

Oh yeah!