Resistance questions

[Homburg]

You're exacerbating my Dom Envy.

Well, I admit, when I want the quiet it is usually just a shush noise. If that doesn't work (not her fault, as I am usually holding her far past the point of needing to come) I just clamp my hand over her mouth. But really, gags do cut down on complaints. The chick I mentioned before got gagged the times when I decided that I was going until I was done.

 

[Netzach]

Hey, I think the irony is that it is this really sexist essentialist hung up notion we've got about sex that got us here - where's the money shot?

I guess I'm just queer enough that when I'm with a guy I'm still interested in things like "do his eyes dilate when I do this? Do the nipples seem to work well?"

If anything, fetishization of difference over human similarity has led to this silliness.

 

[Arkhilokhus]

Hey, I think the irony is that it is this really sexist essentialist hung up notion we've got about sex that got us here - where's the money shot?

I don't agree. At least in my experience, it's more about validation. "A real man can make her come over and over all night long." "If he doesn't come, that must mean I'm not desirable." The problem is people looking to others to provide what they need to give themselves.

 

[Recidiva]

I don't agree. At least in my experience, it's more about validation. "A real man can make her come over and over all night long." "If he doesn't come, that must mean I'm not desirable." The problem is people looking to others to provide what they need to give themselves.

There's a limit to this logic. I can't get penis from myself.

But a minimum of thinking "certain" behavior is normal is the case here and I'll stick with that.

I agree. I'm more irritated by questions like "How often should I have sex" than I should be. I consider that attitude to be the reason why there are so many backward myths about sex.

There is no should like there is no spoon.

There just is.

 

[ZRT]

I've got similar issues to Hom's, but my response is typically fairly direct- I either grab some throat and finish things for myself, or grab some hair and get more direct assistance.

There's a certain amount of state of mind for me that has to be in play to get to the finish line. I'm way too paranoid for public place scenarios to work, for example. The notion of being caught with my pants down, literally, leaves me twitchy. Also, being fully in dom mode really does help facilitate matters. I can successfully get off through more conventional measures, but it takes a good deal longer.

 

[HarlotMinx]

Nope, not the only one. I and My Cock have an interesting relationship. And some activities are solely my province, no Cock needed.

I haven't had an orgasm in.... 2-3 years. Yet I think I've had some of the most amazing scenes I can possibly imagine. I probably only produce an erection for 1-8 scenes and we never use it. It has nothing to do with ED in any way, I can get one easily enough... it's just not my focus. I also find that I can cum without any form of orgasm, no pleasure at all, just a loss of tension.

We both decided that we really didn't have much interest in conventional sex and haven't really pursued it much. I think the hardest part for her was recognizing that my pleasure was independent of my part's state of arousal and that I have little desire to experience orgasms.

Interestingly, I adore having my breasts played with and probably do as much begging for belly rubs and having my breasts played with as most subs do for orgasms.

poppet

 

[Homburg]

I know a TG woman in our munch group (or hormones, but waiting for her operation), and she is similar. She's not had an orgasm for a very long time. As she has said in various talks, just touching her member in a sexual way yanks her right out of headspace. It pretty much kills the scene for her.

 

[HarlotMinx]

I know a TG woman in our munch group (or hormones, but waiting for her operation), and she is similar. She's not had an orgasm for a very long time. As she has said in various talks, just touching her member in a sexual way yanks her right out of headspace. It pretty much kills the scene for her.

Eh, I'm a bit odd like that, I have no antipathy to my sex whatsoever. You can play with it, massage it, jam needles through it. It'll all be rather enjoyable for me, and hell, I play with with all the time. It's just... not always sexual. Actually, if I could I'd prefer keeping my current parts while benefiting from a vagina. Both are very much part of who I am.... though Moon has told me if I were able to get both she might leave me if only because it'd be too unfair. Actually, I've been researching cell scaffolding quite a bit and I think I might wait to pursue it for my sex reassignment.

-poppet